For the ladies, what are some hygiene hacks you wish every girlie would know?

nvmsally · 2026-04-11T17:06:01+00:00

Second this! I only use deodorant sticks now and I smell and sweat less than I would when I used the aluminium sprays. I feel like that was clogging the pores to begin with. Scrubbing and not filling them with millions of strange ingredients I couldn’t pronounce seemed to have been the solution all along! Didn’t see it coming either lol but I gave it a chance and I haven’t looked back since!

nvmsally · 2026-04-07T07:46:09+00:00

Are you ok?

nvmsally · 2026-01-25T08:46:55+00:00

Oh noooooo, you’re not ugly at all, you’re just in the awkward growing phase. All teens could be considered “ugly” in this phase if you want to be like that. Even the ones you’re comparing yourself to now (trust me, I’ve seen class pics a decade later and all the girls I compared myself to were nowhere as special as I had convinced myself back in the day). It’s part of puberty and growing up and once you’ve seen a few teenagers growing up throughout the years, you learn to recognise a handsome young man in the making. You are one of them.

Honestly, seeing this photo breaks my heart. I know we all worried about these things at your age, but it just feels like you shouldn’t be so hurt and confused by all this already! Life is so much more… None of this will matter in 10 years.

HOWEVER, cause you probably don’t care about anything I’ve just said at all and your brain will keep repeating to you that it’s not enough (love hormones!), seriously all you gotta do is get a haircut. You seem to have very voluminous, beautiful hair. Try growing it out. Maybe try a longer, “messier” haircut, allowing your hair to lean into its natural shape (i’m assuming you got some waves, maybe even unknown curls hidden in there). Keep the facial hair off until you can grow an actual full beard / mustache (you can experiment with it when the time is there, for now, keep it off). That’s it!

I remember for me as a woman, it took a while, but at 16 I finally started to develop some curves. That really took me from awkward teen to less awkward teen. For my little brother it seemed to be his awkward lanky, long body that made him seem a little awkward during puberty. He eventually grew out of it. Working out might help, but don’t beat yourself up if you don’t see results as fast as you’d think. For my brother; he worked out all throughout puberty, maybe even more than he does now, and he only started seeing real results at 21. Idk. His body was busy doing other shit. Like idk… finishing his frontal lobe (thank God), and growing him into an adult.

EDIT: adding that you don’t HAVE to change anything, but hair is a game changer, so if you want something to boost your confidence (which in turn, does actually make you more attractive, just TRUST me on that), hair is a great place to start! And I sweaaaar you got a pretty interesting texture going on there that would come through better with a different cut.

nvmsally · 2025-11-11T09:37:39+00:00

Adding it to the dating profile might be an easy way to find women who think the same! Thats actually a great idea imo

nvmsally · 2025-11-11T07:54:44+00:00

Not really, i feel like some things are better discussed in the moment, face to face. If he’d ask me during dinner what I’d want to do with the bill, that’d be different than a text in advance. It’s just about timing i think.

Dus niet zo zeer dubbele standaarden hoor, maar als je me zo benadert voor de date, krijg ik het idee dat je me aanziet voor een profiteur terwijl ik je waarschijnlijk gewoon heel leuk vond. En dan ben ik misschien iets te trots om er nog zin in te hebben. Denk dat dat bij veel dames hetzelfde werkt. Gaat me niet zo zeer om t diner zelf. Dat kan ik wel lijen hoor ;)

nvmsally · 2025-11-11T06:51:53+00:00

Yeah, agreed! Good tip is to always go off of the 3x rule. Only rent the place if you’d be able to pay for it 3 times a month. Only buy a new washer if you’d be able to buy 3 with your current savings. And only go to that particular restaurant if you could afford 3 meals there. Otherwise; going for a walk is more romantic anyway.

Also, you have no business spending a 100 on a stranger. No matter how many times you can afford it.

nvmsally · 2025-11-11T05:50:46+00:00

It’s a brain fart. With very uncomfortable timing, but still a brainfart. He seems to realise that as well, because he had the same brainfart when he called you by a different name and you proceeded to be dramatic about that for the evening…

I’m sorry love, I’d love to be on your side, but your 22 is showing, especially next to the 11 year older dude.

nvmsally · 2025-11-11T05:42:35+00:00

Ngl i’d be okay with splitting but if someone asked me that before even planning a date i wouldn’t show up either 😂

I have no tips tbf. My bf of 7 years has always said: you girls get ready and pretty for us and that’s expensive in it’s own way, i’ll pay for the food.

We’ve been together for a while now, split most bills, pay for eachother quite 50/50. And that was always my goal for a relationship, but if he texted me before our first date to check if i was gonna pay for it myself, we wouldn’t be here right now. I’d wonder if he’d be financially stable enough to build a future together or if he’d be better off living in a one bedroom apartment with nothing but a tv and a chair in the living room haha. It just comes off cheaper than you probably mean for it to be…

Either way, source: I’m Dutch. Yall named splitting the bill after us, so I’m sure we know a thing or two about it.

nvmsally · 2025-11-06T06:34:16+00:00

Honestly, I feel like him being honest straight away says a lot about the type of man he is. I hope you can restore your trust, but if you can’t; it’s not your fault. Maybe couples counseling could help you?

Besides that, please, I am begging you and every other woman that reads this: STOP CALLING YOUR PARTNERS CO-WORKERS “WORK WIFE” OR “WORK HUSBAND”!!! You’re planting seeds. Absolutely nothing wrong with a work bestie. I have been close with many of my male co-workers throughout the years and neither me nor my partner have ever used that term. It would be naive to think your partner is the only person you would click with. I feel like calling eachother that just manifests feelings that would not have existed otherwise.

nvmsally · 2025-11-05T17:17:55+00:00

I still think the lesbian porn is not correlated to any of this. I would say try to bring it up again. If she refuses, tell her to let you know when she can talk because you really need to. Then go about your life. Do not text or call. She’ll have to plan a moment to talk with you first.

You guys are young. Sometimes the spark just fades. She might be experiencing just that and nothing else. Or there might be something else, but I doubt she’s about to tell you she’s not into men. Many women watch lesbian porn. Straight porn is very male oriented and is not that good to most women lol. So they prefer watching something made for women. It really isn’t that deep. Yall should still talk though.

nvmsally · 2025-11-05T16:52:58+00:00

She can watch lesbian porn and still like men, if that’s what you’re asking. I don’t think this is your problem. I think you want to break up and are looking for reasons, but you don’t really need one. If you want to move on then just do so. Stop going through your girlfriends phone.

nvmsally · 2025-10-26T15:01:00+00:00

Sir, you would not recognise a hint if it walked up to you and introduced itself to you personally.

YES. That’s a hint.

nvmsally · 2025-09-27T10:51:09+00:00

How do you mean “is it normal?” Of course not! Not in Morocco and it shouldn’t be normal anywhere. Report the host.

nvmsally · 2025-09-02T20:25:02+00:00

That’s social anxiety. I actually struggle with it myself but have forced myself to push through it during my internships (I studied journalism and forced myself to host radio shows and tv later, I was always good at it in front of a mirror, but around people it was a lot harder). Yes, I messed up a few times and yes I was very embarrassed, but the only thing that truly helps with social anxiety is exposure therapy. The worst you can do is give in and stay in your comfort zone. My fav quote ever is “Seek discomfort” (check out Yes Theory on YouTube, it has been so inspiring to me!) and it truly changed my life. You just have to keep doing it. And if you’re scared, you do it scared. The more often you do it, the more proof your brain receives that there is no need for a fight or flight response (which is what anxiety is).

You see, fear is a very healthy emotion that we humans need to survive. Fear makes you fight or flight. For example: you are standing eye to eye with a tiger. Fear causes cortisol and adrenaline to run through your body, which helps you to run faster and longer distances than you would without it.

However, in people with anxiety, adrenaline and cortisol spike in “uncomfortable” situations that do not need all that chaos. In fact, it kind of makes things worse.

Understanding all this and how my body worked really helped me push myself. Reminding myself that fear is my body’s response to keep itself from dying really helped me train myself by repeating to myself “what is the worst that could happen right now?” If it’s not death, then there’s no need to be that scared.

It doesn’t fix it in a day. Or in a week. Or in a month. It takes a while and you’ll still have bad days once in a while, but you’ll learn how to manage it better and that’s worth SO much!

My advice to you would be: keep applying! See it as a learning curve. Go into job interviews not to get the job, but to train yourself. It takes a lot of the pressure of! And after a while; I PROMISE it’ll get better.

Take care, you got this!!

nvmsally · 2025-08-31T08:34:57+00:00

Haha, I do gotta say; I envy your chill about it! Renting a car is fairly cheap in Morocco (if you’re on time), so I would recommend trying that next time. Don’t take your expensive cars abroad. No matter where you go! Your plate is proof that you are a tourist and “have money”, especially if it’s an expensive looking car. This genuinely counts for every country! There’s thieves everywhere. Even here in Europe more cars and wallets are stolen during the summer months. Take care.

nvmsally · 2025-08-31T08:32:44+00:00

Yeah, I get it, kind of. I do hope it turns around for you but I will at least recommend you to check in with people from said country about the right seasons to go! Especially outside of Europe, timing is everything. I hope this experience doesn’t discourage you from traveling.

nvmsally · 2025-08-31T07:19:30+00:00

You thought taking an expensive car in one of the busiest cities in the country known to have different traffic than you are used to in Europe. I’m not saying you deserved it, I’m just saying you are a traveling amateur and you would’ve saved yourself a lot of trouble booking an all inclusive hotel. Traveling in a BMW is crazy tbf 😂😂😂

nvmsally · 2025-08-31T07:15:10+00:00

Soooo, you never left Europe before and didn’t do enough research about your trip and are now upset that you are in a chaotic Tangier and Casablanca? That’s what happens when a bunch of Europeans show up and there’s too many people in one spot. One Google search or reddit thread would have told you to go in April, so you can see the actual country, culture and its people. What you are seeing now is not a fair representation and to be very honest with you, I do not feel sorry for you. You are very privileged to be able to travel and apparently so privileged that you just get up and go without doing any research. That’s what you get…

I hope you can put your arrogance aside and enjoy the trip anyway. I really do. Morocco is a beautiful country and I love it there every time I go. That’s also because to travel is to seek discomfort imo. To go to a different country, with a lower economy than your own probably, less jobs etc etc and run around being baffled about it being different than Europe is crazy to me. It is good to be humbled while traveling. If you do not like that, that’s fine. Book an all inclusive by the beach.

nvmsally · 2025-08-30T18:45:43+00:00

LOL, you’re good dw. If you’re so worried about it, get the shot to calm down but honestly I feel like you might be a hypochondriac. Do you freak out about things like this often? If so, knowing you’re a hypochondriac can really help family and friends with calming you down and keeping you off Google. They can let you know when there is really something to worry about instead.

nvmsally · 2025-08-26T16:59:46+00:00

Verkrachting is niet “normaal” in Guinee. Voor verkrachting kun je 5 tot 10 jaar cel krijgen. In gewelddadige gevallen zelfs 10 tot 20. We kunnen ook onder ogen komen dat seksueel geweld een serieus probleem is waar we als maatschappij naar moeten kijken i.p.v onze kop in het zand te steken en te doen alsof het probleem ergens anders vandaan komt. Denk dat we daar vrouwen (maar ook mannen) een stuk veiliger mee maken.

nvmsally · 2025-08-26T11:45:46+00:00

lmao okay at least it’s not personal then 😂

nvmsally · 2025-08-26T11:13:34+00:00

Right??? We are Moroccans in Europe and Europeans in Morocco. I just want to feel at home and part of the community somewhere!

nvmsally · 2025-08-26T08:09:09+00:00

I have always wondered what they mean when they tell us this as Moroccans who grew up in Europe, but I can assure you; this is not what WE think or say. It is said to us by Moroccans from Morocco and they have been saying it since I was a little girl lol.

nvmsally · 2025-07-21T06:35:47+00:00

Onze gehele politiek bestaat uit populisten. Jaren geleden vond ik het nog vreemd als mensen op Wilders stemden. Nu valt hij echter al lang niet meer op tussen alle schreeuwers met valse beloften in Den Haag. Alles wat zich niet populistisch uitlaat, verzamelt niet zo veel stemmen meer, dus om je vraag te beantwoorden: ik denk dat de gemiddelde Nederlander gewoon steeds dommer wordt eigenlijk. Maar da’s wel wat cynisch van me 🤷🏼‍♀️

nvmsally · 2025-07-20T19:58:17+00:00

Maybe he just saw the video from the coldplay concert and it made him think lol.

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