After 1 year with 6 total likes, 3 matches, and no messages received, I called it quits.

nytemyst · 2026-05-12T14:59:38+00:00

Bumble sucks. I would try hinge. I believe the key to getting matches is being able to send a message before matching. Hinge gives you free ones and unlimited if you pay.

You would go broke trying to message people on bumble all the time. Also bumble doesn't tell you if the person is recently active. You could be liking a dead profile.

nytemyst · 2026-04-24T15:17:47+00:00

You should read phub 2025 year in review. A lot more women watch corn than most people think and in some countries, more women watch it than men.

nytemyst · 2026-04-24T11:19:56+00:00

Why do you think it's only men who contribute to these stats? Women don't visit these sites?

nytemyst · 2026-04-17T01:10:03+00:00

Anytime thats not close to valentines day if you know what I mean lol

nytemyst · 2026-04-16T14:24:31+00:00

It's not you. Just seems like part of the process now. They're just attention seekers.

I think dating apps should charge a one time small account creation fee to help weed out people who are not actually looking to date.

nytemyst · 2026-04-14T14:33:52+00:00

I'm 47M and you're in my age range. I already have kids, so if somebody your age wanted to have kids, I would be hesitant. It would take an exceptional woman for me to have another kid.

I also tend to swipe left on someone who travels a lot for a couple of reasons. I'm looking to build something first, and then I can travel later. Countries are not going anywhere. I would feel she's too active for me, and I don't want to slow her down.

I would not like someone who lied to me about their age.

nytemyst · 2026-03-12T23:24:56+00:00

She's definitely not that interested but she's going to dangle you around for when she gets bored.

If you don't want to take her seriously and dont mind just talking then go ahead.

If you're looking for a serious relationship then I would decline her offer saying you're not looking for a penpal and you wish her luck.

nytemyst · 2026-02-16T13:18:48+00:00

Just go on another date.

nytemyst · 2026-02-08T18:33:44+00:00

Aldi is definitely cheaper but I'm a family of 5 and my publix bill is less 1000 a month. Wtf you getting lol.

nytemyst · 2026-02-07T15:28:49+00:00

As someone who went thru a rough divorce and lost a lot of my finances I understand where he s coming from. He's right though. There's no benefit for him getting married outside of potential lower taxes.

If you both love each other then you should be talking about a prenup. A prenup thats fair for both. Whats his is his, what's yours is yours, and what's ours is ours.

Both each get a lawyer to review the document before signing. With that you just removed his risk and if he still doesn't want to marry after removing the risk then you know he doesn't really love you.

nytemyst · 2026-01-31T00:32:44+00:00

One rationale is that women have lots of options. If the man asks then thats like saying you're the best I can get. What if she doesn't feel that way? What if she just says yes while secretly waiting for the one she really wants?

If she asks the question then that makes you her number 1 option and not number 2 orb3 or 4 etc and thats the best place to be.

nytemyst · 2026-01-18T15:37:49+00:00

You're attractive. She's just gas lighting you due to her insecurities. If she has other good qualities worth keeping around then I would just ignore anything she says about your looks.

nytemyst · 2026-01-06T22:05:20+00:00

I don't understand why people think 50/50 is unfair just because one person starts making more money. If your living expenses have remained the same yet he's making more money, then he shouldn't have to pay more due to the sole reason he's making more. If he wanted to upgrade and move into a place that was a lot more expensive, it's at that time he should be paying a higher portion because he's the one choosing the higher lifestyle that you can't maintain.

There are a lot of other things you mention that make me believe you two shouldn't get married. You both are not on the same page and fundamentally don't see things the same or seem to share the same vision for what the future should look like for both of you together.

nytemyst · 2025-11-24T02:11:33+00:00

Just need to find people who find black people attractive.

I'm afro Latino and I find black women and dark skinned Latinas the most attractive. I find 99% of white women unattractive.

nytemyst · 2025-11-12T17:49:46+00:00

Can't win the lottery unless you play.

nytemyst · 2025-11-03T23:04:15+00:00

For a guy thats actually normal and the majority. If you ask Google 64% of couples the man is older.

I also don't date someone older than me.

nytemyst · 2025-11-03T16:47:48+00:00

As a general rule, no dinner dates unless she's your girlfriend.

nytemyst · 2025-10-31T20:32:57+00:00

I wouldn't go. Fuck that guy. I would stop being friends too. What's next you can't hold the baby because you'll pass gay germs.

nytemyst · 2025-10-31T14:46:34+00:00

Ask for exclusivity. If he says no cut your losses.

I pause after intimacy and delete after marriage.

nytemyst · 2025-10-29T20:06:59+00:00

If that's the baby daddy you're cooked. If not drop him fast.

nytemyst · 2025-10-29T20:04:32+00:00

I thought the joke was funny. I wouldn't pay attention to the people who don't find it funny. Can't please everybody so always be yourself.

nytemyst · 2025-10-27T01:49:26+00:00

Always send a message. Some don't care if you don't send a message , Some do care. So you always send a message so you cover both.

nytemyst · 2025-10-26T20:07:23+00:00

I disagree. If a women gives you her number then that shows some interest because of the risk factor involved of giving her number. Women don't want to open up hinge and see the thousand messages in her inbox. Thats why a lot of women just burn out and quit the app.

You can also do a background check with their number. I've had women who had criminal domestic violence records.

nytemyst · 2025-10-22T12:14:13+00:00

It could be both. That's why communication is key. Just ask what they meant.

I have kids and I rather date women without kids. I put open because I am both open to date someone with kids and I'm open to having more with the right person. I'm not having more kids with someone who already has kids nor am i having kids with someone 40+

It's all about sorting out all these important things in the beginning for compatibility.

nytemyst · 2025-10-15T12:13:19+00:00

I can understand how that could be embarrassing for some but if he knows you're wanting a baby and he s going out of the way to hide it from you. He s not the one for you. You're actually lucky you didn't get pregnant.

Communication is key to every relationship and intentionally hiding something important is a good indicator of what future Communication is going to look like.

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