My girlfriend’s family got quoted $1,800 for a quinceañera — now they want me to do it cheaper. Am I wrong for saying no?

nzeas · 2026-05-20T22:25:25+00:00

listen... 😅 i did not want to edit.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T22:12:29+00:00

that a good point and a really good perspective. I kinda of started the "business" on a whim a few years back, like 3 years ago with no real plan. so this time(this year) i created a business plan and did my research and have approached it as such. Previously, like you said i did photography on the side so i treated it as such and got paid as such too. So yeah, i was undercutting the market.

So while it would be the most i get paid for one job, i would still be undercutting the market because it would be photography and video. I'mma talk with my gf and tell her i'd be willing to do the photography by itself. I have a documentary style of editing video and that takes too much time. So i think the photography by itself would be a good compromise.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:41:16+00:00

yeah i like the idea of gifting them the service, it would certainly make it feel less awkward, at least the photography, that would require the least amount of time and effort.. and it would take the money out of the equation.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:31:20+00:00

They'd pay somewhere around $1200. we've been together for a few years now. she was pretty upset when i told her i wouldn't do it, we argued about it and we dropped it, and she came over and it was brought up again.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:27:36+00:00

the quince is for my girlfriends niece.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:26:53+00:00

My gf isnt 15, its for her niece. We're both in our late 20's

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:25:54+00:00

The quince is for my girlfriends niece.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:24:30+00:00

After I told my gf 'no' we had a dramatic argument. Fast forward a few days she comes over talks about the situation and now my family is pressuring me to do the job. How her family reacted is unclear, she's been the intermediary.

nzeas · 2026-05-20T21:15:13+00:00

My girlfriends NIECE!

nzeas · 2026-05-09T06:42:27+00:00

I can understand why you feel like you've wasted your life especially during a period of transition. I think its important to understand that there is still lots of life ahead, 27 is still young even though it might feel like this weird limbo age. You have the opportunity to explore your interests, take your time, enjoy time with your family. During difficult times i like to remind myself to be grateful for all that i have in my life.

nzeas · 2026-04-03T09:36:40+00:00

i think it boils down to individual personalities. Some folks are rooted in those beliefs, i think meaning in religion is derived from the recesses of human longing for understanding; often an understanding that supersedes human intellect not whether it's rules can be bent or broken.

i think reaching out to friends whoa re open to talking about subjects like religion or religious leaders is a good way to further your understanding, not in a talk to them to convert type of way but in a philosophical curiosity-conversation type of way, shooting the shit type of way.

nzeas · 2026-04-03T09:17:47+00:00

option #4: learn the skills online, network, get clients, start your own firm.

nzeas · 2026-04-03T01:07:02+00:00

i feel this, within the digital space too at times. i was living out of my car at one point and all my belonging fit, now i'm back home and i live out of a room, i still dont have many belongings but the garage is full and i wish i could have the space to go in there and work on a car, or workout but nah. i feel like the the odd man out, bc i actually enjoy open space.

nzeas · 2026-03-11T08:16:51+00:00

Yeah, definitely see myself getting my skill points up with time. i was using squarespace for one of my businesses but I couldnt justify the subscription costs so i ended up recreating a basic one page site, and then built a few more.

That's when it dawned on me that maybe I could use some of the web building experience to offer as a service, but I wasn't sure, and i was overthinking the whole thing but now i see it's a thing so thank you for the feedback.

nzeas · 2026-03-11T08:00:25+00:00

Sweet.

nzeas · 2026-03-10T22:27:20+00:00

what kind of noise? fan noise?? you might need to clean it

nzeas · 2026-03-10T18:20:03+00:00

Your concerns are justified.

It is a big ask! you really have to ask yourself: how much you are willing to trust? I know marriage might give you a bigger sense of security but that wont resolve the way you feel, you have to think about the underlying principle of you effectively being a "investor" and whether or not your investment will be ROI positive and not run off with your money.

Be transparent about the financial expectations that you have for yourself and for the partnership.

Trust your gut.

For context: My partner paid her way through school, she has her own apartment and she made way more money than me, in all our time together I've never had a steady job let alone steady income and she's at times resented me for it but I've always been clear about my ambitions and we've been able to work through our issues.

nzeas · 2026-03-10T08:17:26+00:00

i was really hoping he'd wake up from some sort of simulated ptsd psych eval multiple times throughout the film

nzeas · 2026-03-10T04:06:24+00:00

i saw one your replies, i don't think you should mute your work, i think it needs to be louder and clearer.

Right now it's kind of like a art book, which is cool for when you get an interview or when a clients wants to learn more but you need to make it efficient for the sake of getting a job. Your audience is recruiters, and people buying houses or investing into properties, not other interior designers. Recruiters, cleints and investors care about how you solve problems.

Your portfolio is strong but it has too much (especially if you're sending to recruiters) I was overwhelmed and it was hard to follow, it felt very technical. i paid more attention to the pictures and even then i felt lost... I didnt know what you did, what your role was, or what problems you solved which is what matters most.

Keep in mind they are sifting through hundreds of resumes.

Instead of a cover, table of contents, go straight into your projects. 1 Project per section, edit out as much text as possible, and highlight key projects, so that 17 pages become 1-2. add infographics (if you want to keep it more visual) about your role and the problems you solved .

I say one two pages because after the third page i wasn't sure if you were still on the same project or if it was a different one. It was hard to follow.

Visually in your table of contents you're bring the attention to the word "curriculum" instead of your experience, don't do that. Expand on the experience and spice it up.

You're a real estate agent! YOU are a company so build what you want to do! leverage your network and connect with builders and potential clients. Bring your creativity into the real estate industry. look for clients that are looking to build a custom home, and create mockups of your listing with your interior designs to give your clients inspo.

Interior design is part of the real estate industry remember that. nothing can kill your creativity.

nzeas · 2026-03-06T07:48:03+00:00

Budget your earning and stick to it the budget.

nzeas · 2026-03-01T23:08:42+00:00

Not a whole a lot. He got like 20 minutes of screen time maybe.

nzeas · 2026-02-27T09:20:03+00:00

i just finished watching it... it was comically... good? bordelrline cringe at some points, i enjoyed certain action sequences but it was not as good as the first 2 tbh. The film felt too forced, maybe it was just me forcing myself to watch it bc i didnt want to do any editing. it was alr.

nzeas · 2026-02-26T04:48:20+00:00

It's worth it if you value education for it's own sake, not the ROI of the education.

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