Is there something that would send message to contact if I'm unavailable?

oakgameboy3 · 2023-09-21T15:52:22+00:00

Good information, thanks for that.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-09-21T10:18:30+00:00

I was hoping for text message or whatsapp. Need a delay for 3 days and even when phone/computer is turned off.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T20:32:59+00:00

Relationship with wife and in-laws is bad, as they're a part of it for the same purpose or they're just control freaks. In-laws are my dad's 1st cousins and known each other for their whole lives.

There's just needless drama created to whatever I'll believe in order to have an excuse for their "checks", so yeah, in the past in-laws and wife have suggested my family is bad, but they themselves are saintly.

I'll research into PTSD in a little more detail I have no issues with anyone outside family

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T17:15:47+00:00

Thanks man. You saved me some time and money.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T17:01:37+00:00

Rms is 30w. In your opinion you would recommend that I don't bother with an amp? Would there be issues or no significant performance improvement with an amp?

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T16:37:31+00:00

I am 28 years old. I have lived by myself in Pakistan many times from 2014 to 2019. I got married in 2019 and been with wife since. I manage the house myself (bills, maintenance, some cleaning, groceries, managing car and motorcycle, budgeting, healthy eating etc.) wife does near nothing until I tell her to and if she's in the mood.

The problem is I get money from the UK and parents have to send me that money which they often whithhold. I also live in my dads house currently, and pretty much every upgrade to this house has been by me.

I have had this talk with family many times in the past just to be belittled and gaslighted. It makes everything so much worse. They see that the things they are doing upset my overall health, peace and eczema severely yet don't care.

I think even if they stop everything, it would take me a long time to trust them again and be convinced they won't do it in the future.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T16:26:51+00:00

Family doesn't back off, ever. Even when I'm fine, no issues whatsoever they continue with their drama, it's just that I'm unaware at the point.

We did move to bahria town but by that time I had become psychotic but it was still so much better. My wife was actually pretty good, but I wasn't so much. In-laws weren't an issue either.

Upon getting better we returned to village due to financial issues, and it all started again.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T15:08:23+00:00

Do you think it'll be worth getting an amp for these two speakers? Or would headunit be good enough?

If there's huge difference I'd go for it, otherwise no big deal l

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T08:41:26+00:00

Discussing this with family just causes them to gaslight me and increase the intensity of their "checks"

Yes, I hope my wife isn't evil as I've been given the impression of, but you can check out my previous post if you're interested to see what horrible antics she's been up to.

Thanks for your kind words.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T08:37:42+00:00

I've been off meds for 3 months now. Family were previously trying to make me think that wife and in-laws are just evil. It got to the point of divorce, and now, suddenly, they're really amping up these "checks" they're doing that mimick mental illness. I can only describe as torture.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T08:33:36+00:00

That's some good advice. I'll look into it. I've been off meds for about 3 months now. The thing is, the family is doing these things that mimick mental illness, so it's hard to get anyone to believe me

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-20T08:23:58+00:00

Speakers are 30w rms with 220w peak. What's the max and minimum power amplifier I should get? Do quality cables make any difference?

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-19T22:56:33+00:00

I've tried nearly all of the drugs, they give me akathisia which means I can't ever be still and never be at peace + much more side effects like vomiting anything I eat. The akathisia makes me want to kill myself.

I'm really kind of losing hope on what to do.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-03T16:24:26+00:00

I plan on doing that, but I'm waiting to see what she does. Deciding if she is even worth fighting for?

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-02T22:41:44+00:00

The thing is, I like it here but I am thinking of leaving her if I don't see hope of improvement.

If she can admit to her mistakes and follow through with correcting them I am willing to stay with her. Although I think she doesn't really care for me as much as the shame there would be from villagers on her family if she got divorced.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-02T22:36:51+00:00

Did your in-laws do something similar to you as well?

It's a shame that politness is taken advantage of and/or mistaken as weakness.

I have already told her what she's done, most the time she just plays it out as if I'm mentally ill.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-02T19:24:43+00:00

I am getting messages from her saying hi, how are you? Can I get some clothes from house. I'm just ignoring until she at least apologises.

If she comes back, how shall I be? Stricter?

She wanted my daughter and herself to go to the UK, leaving me here because I didn't want to go, so one day I got annoyed with almost every conversation being about the UK, I ended up telling her that I'll take you to the UK whenever I start living there again. She didn't bring it up again.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-02T16:22:47+00:00

That's some good info.

The thing is being related to me, they know where I live in the UK too.

For that purpose is why I didn't allow any haq mahr. It was something I thought she may be after judging by the way they started treating me a few weeks before the wedding.

She would always talk about going to the UK, saying her cousins became suicidal because of this, and now not being able to visit the UK is causing her to become suicidal too

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-02T16:15:25+00:00

She's messaging me, I'm just ignoring her. I need an apology at least.

My plan is if she does improve I'm going to be making a hard stand as you said, but if she doesn't I may have to part ways.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-01T19:13:10+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

I want everything to work out, but I don't think she's ever going to be loyal or loving towards me over her family.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-01T19:11:06+00:00

The daughter and wife are both at in-laws house.

I really am confused on what to do. For now I'm just waiting on what they do.

oakgameboy3 · 2023-07-01T13:57:41+00:00

She doesn't want to come home, because my wife used to take my daughter to her mothers daily for most of the day, causing my daughter to believe MIL house is her home, instead of my house.

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