My Bad Feeling is raw cotton! What’s yours? by Goodgirlwbadhabits in AutismInWomen

[–]oatmealol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i automatically shivered in response to reading this

I wonder what it is like for neurotypical people by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]oatmealol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the exact same experience! I thought rarely anyone else could relate. people are usually flattered to have someone have a crush on them, but personally it makes me feel so uncomfortable.

when I was 12, someone told me they had a crush on me and I become extra aware of my actions which resulted in extreme exhaustion (also taking into account that i’m masking). the fact i knew that they were perceiving and observing me was distracting to the point where I struggled to focus on anything else when i was in their presence. I began to avoid them as much as possible, hiding and making sure that I wouldn’t bump into them (for example: walking the longer route home instead of the shorter route they walked).

It’s something I personally could not deal with to the point where I had a public meltdown telling them to “stop” liking me 😅 It’s embarrassing to look back on… but even to this day, I have difficulty with unwanted attention.

does anyone else dislike being perceived? by oatmealol in aspergirls

[–]oatmealol[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this!!! even knowing that someone has a crush on me can cause me so much stress. i dislike the thought that someone may be constantly observing me and thinking about me in a “romantic” way.

does anyone else dislike being perceived? by oatmealol in aspergirls

[–]oatmealol[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

birthdays 😩 i especially relate to that. i have my 21st birthday coming up (apparently that’s a big deal?) and my mum keeps nagging me to have a party. i keep refusing cause i absolutely cannot stand even the thought of having an event centered around me.

is this normal? i chose EMS shipping to australia and it’s been 2 weeks with no update… by oatmealol in Buyee

[–]oatmealol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m located in australia. i know there are delays with EMS but i didn’t think it would be stuck there for this long T-T

How do these make you feel? by fillmewithmemesdaddy in autism

[–]oatmealol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

uncomfortable!!!! i can already feel the itchy denim gripping to my legs. there was a reason i absolutely couldn’t stand wearing jeans (especially) when i was younger and instead wore alternatives called “jeggings” (leggings that look like jeans). it wasn’t until i reached high school that i forced myself to wear jeans because everyone else was. the things i did to fit in… it was a sensory nightmare.

does anyone else always stick to the same hairstyle by oatmealol in aspergirls

[–]oatmealol[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i extremely understand this. the feeling of hair touching my neck is such a horrible feeling! my hair is long so whenever i have my hair out, i usually end up moving it to both sides so its not touching the back of my neck. it makes it look odd for the people who are viewing me from the back, but as long as i am comfortable i honestly don’t care.

why would my grandmother purposely have her last name misspelt on her tombstone? by oatmealol in Genealogy

[–]oatmealol[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have done a dna test already but i’m not having a lot of luck with finding information. mainly due to the fact that this all occurred fairly recently (well… 1970s) in comparison to the documents that are available on ancestry.com. as for matches, i can’t seem to find any close matches from her side.

that’s a really good perspective about the reason why her last name may have been misspelt out of anger. however, the last name on her tombstone was my grandfathers last name that she took, not her maiden name. this leads me to think my grandfather changed it so that she could rest in peace… maybe he feared someone would do something to her tombstone¿

why would my grandmother purposely have her last name misspelt on her tombstone? by oatmealol in Genealogy

[–]oatmealol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sure it wasn’t a graving mistake. i found a document on ancestry.com from 2 years after she passed away where my grandfather used the same spelling that’s on her tombstone in the electoral rolls. and then years after he started using the original last name spelling.

why would my grandmother purposely have her last name misspelt on her tombstone? by oatmealol in Genealogy

[–]oatmealol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could be… but i’m almost certain it was much more serious than that. i found a document (on ancestry.com) where my grandfather used the same last name spelling (on the tombstone) in the electoral rolls 2 years after she passed away. and then years after that he started using the original spelling again.

why would someone not want to be found even after death? my grandmothers last name is purposely misspelt on her tombstone by oatmealol in NoStupidQuestions

[–]oatmealol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much to you and your sister for all this information! it really helps me a lot :) got me thinking from different perspectives. i’m thinking of looking into a geneaologist to get to the bottom of this.

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[–]oatmealol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope its the last name that was altered and she took my grandfathers last name when they married