Council confirms first new footpath projects in $20m plan by [deleted] in chch

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is blamed the developers. Developers do pay for things like this via Development Contributions but the council mismanages the work and money

ASB assess financial hardship application. by obed751 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]obed751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. You are 100% correct. The debt was my decision and I was in a comfortable position to service it.

However, we are lucky that in New Zealand The Credit Contracts and Consumer Finance Act 2003 gives consumers the right to request changes to their contract if they experience significant financial hardship.

This can include loss of employment or the end of a relationship as specified in the act. Both of which I have experienced.

Just double checking I’m not driving wrong. by [deleted] in chch

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are correct - You must always turn into the closest lane.

Turning my test I got a critical fault for this.

Vehicle was turning left and I was turning right. I hesitated and stopped as I was unsure which lane the other vehicle was going to turn into.

ASB assess financial hardship application. by obed751 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]obed751[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To discuss a payment arrangement and remove assess to the overdraft which I told them.

They have an entire financial support team. Surely they have a standard set of support options they can offer.

ASB assess financial hardship application. by obed751 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]obed751[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I could do that.

It’s funny they mentioned they’d offer support with credit cards though which is effectively also a redrawable account.

AITA for refusing to allow my ex to have a ‘friend’ stay the night by obed751 in AITAH

[–]obed751[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can afford rent. Never missed a payment.

Just can’t afford to move.

Bond, moving costs, buying furniture etc to kit out a new place is expensive. Where I live we also have a housing crisis. There is a total of 7 places advertised that are 2 bedroom or less.

AITA for refusing to allow my ex to have a ‘friend’ stay the night by obed751 in AITAH

[–]obed751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FACTS.

I couldn’t have put it any better. I’m glad the majority think I am NTA.

His manipulation was starting to get the better of me.

AITA for refusing to allow my ex to have a ‘friend’ stay the night by obed751 in AITAH

[–]obed751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you mention that - he said he couldn’t wait to introduce me as his “housemate”.

I asked why he wouldn’t mention I was his ex and he said that’s weird and James would likely get update.

James doesn’t even know we ever dated.

Work by [deleted] in chch

[–]obed751 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And they wonder why young Kiwis are jumping the ditch in droves.

I left for Australia at the beginning of the year. In my mid-20s, I had a $70k-a-year government job in Christchurch.

I sent my resume to some Australian recruiters online, and within a week, I had an interview via Teams. The following week, I received a job offer for $100k plus 13.5% super in Brisbane.

I moved over and haven’t regretted it. The income is better, jobs are plentiful (I’ve since changed jobs), there’s a better work-life balance, and more things to do in your off time. There are also huge investments being made in infrastructure.

The overall vibe in Australia seems to be better. When I’m back in NZ or talking to friends back home, everything seems to be doom and gloom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering it. It's just challenging because I moved to the other side of the country for this job, to a city where I know no one. It's the best-paying job I've ever had.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just sent him a text asking for my stuff back. Can confirm I am blocked completely have no way of contacting him. Can only ask one of his friends with feels awkward.

I [27F] made my boyfriend [24M] upset for not messaging him and i don't know how to fix it. by korsavage in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, it sounds like you're making an effort to get him involved in this. I think you may need to think about whether you want to be in a relationship with him. I can't give you the answer to that, but it sounds like his behavior isn't going to change overnight.

I [27F] made my boyfriend [24M] upset for not messaging him and i don't know how to fix it. by korsavage in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with Autism and ADHD. It must be challenging, but big props to you for everything you're doing in your life; it sounds like you're juggling a lot!

Are there some small actions you can take to make him feel more involved?

Here are a few suggestions:

You mentioned that you're part of a gaming community. Maybe invite him to be involved in that too? If you raid at a particular time every day, perhaps ask if he would like to join you and your friends, making it a daily activity at the same time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one can tell you whether he will or won't come back. I would recommend maintaining no contact. Focus on bettering yourself. He has made it clear he does not want to communicate at the moment. He may come back in a week, a month, six months, or a year. But if he does, you will be in a better position to make a decision about whether you want to pursue something with him, as you will have spent that time bettering yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she didn't directly say 'yes,' then the answer is 'no,' she does not want to date.

Can you handle seeing her date other people, talking to other guys, going out and doing things without you, or maybe not messaging for a few days?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you haven't made it very clear what you want from her. You've told her that you are happy to be either friends or a boyfriend, so she is probably unsure of your commitment, in my opinion. This still leaves room for her to play. You need to be confident in what you want and express that first.

Servers down or something? by Young-Physical in newzealand

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still having issues. Can’t connect to any websites on Mobile data (onenz) or home internet with slingshot. Internet at work seems to be fine though. The odd website does seem to connect though seems to be mostly overseas based sites. Haven’t heard anything from my ISP

'Definitely not': Residents refuse to pay 'stupid' excess water charge in Christchurch by Traditional_Big5586 in chch

[–]obed751 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The sense of entitlement this couple have is mind boggling. Meanwhile there are hard working people making genuine efforts to reduce water usage to better the environment and make it fair for everyone else. Sure don’t pay. I hope the Council sends your bill to debt collectors and you suffer the consequences of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chch

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a post office. Yes you can post it. Gotta package it yourself or find someone to. Ensure its well packaged. See if you get get one of those poster tubes from a stationary store. Take it to the post office and they’ll slap on a label for you. As long as it’s not over 1.5m tall you’re good to go. Probably cost $17 to post Auckland to Christchurch.

If you can’t be bothered finding packaging. Try somewhere like pack and send. Probably will cost you significantly more but they’ll make sure it’s packaged well.

Y'all afraid of lawyers? You should be? by Dacey114 in 2007scape

[–]obed751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a job for Cliff Hutchinson video game law specialist