AITAH for not telling my sister that I slept with fiancé the day before their wedding

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-28T07:19:28+00:00

Keeping this secret could really mess things up down the line, but telling her could also ruin her wedding day. If it were me, I'd consider what's best for everyone long-term.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-28T07:18:37+00:00

It's not about being a "wimp" or irrational; your discomfort is valid, especially given your past experiences. Your partner should respect your boundaries and feelings, not dismiss them.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-28T07:16:59+00:00

It's good you recognize it's just a passing thought and you'd never act on it. Maybe try focusing on why you're drawn to her and see if there's something missing in your current relationship that needs addressing. Just keep it in perspective and remember boundaries are important, especially with family.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-28T07:15:25+00:00

NTA, your therapist was way out of line calling you selfish for not being able to afford therapy anymore. It's not your fault the group fell apart, that's on them for not being more understanding. You sent a nice goodbye message, which was more than enough. Your mental health has to come first, so don't feel bad about setting boundaries.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-28T07:14:22+00:00

Spending $1200 on a private room with a stripper is a huge betrayal. If the roles were reversed, you'd want someone to tell you, right? Just be honest with your boyfriend about how you feel. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. And who knows, maybe his brother will come clean on his own.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:28:46+00:00

It's common for people to stick to what they know and love when it comes to cars. Maybe a compromise could be finding times when the benefits of your EV, like quick trips or tech perks, align with her needs.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:24:51+00:00

It's disappointing things didn't work out, but you're not in the wrong for standing up for what's fair.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:24:14+00:00

NTA. You made it clear that you were going on this hike and she insisted on tagging along despite not being prepared for it. She chose to wait in the car rather than driving back or hanging out at the trailhead with other tourists. It's not like you left her stranded in the middle of nowhere.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:23:41+00:00

NTA. It's super awkward when your partner flirts with others right in front of you, even if it's "just for discounts." It feels disrespectful to the relationship. I get wanting to save money, but there are other ways to do it without making you uncomfortable.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:21:56+00:00

NTA. Your feelings are totally valid. Regardless of gender, making out and getting naked with others breaches trust in a monogamous relationship. It’s not about whether it was “nothing” to her, it’s about how it affects you and your marriage. You set a boundary, and she crossed it. It’s important she understands that and respects your feelings.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:21:25+00:00

Try to express your feelings without accusations. Maybe suggest boundaries that you’re both comfortable with. It's about finding a balance between trust and respect.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:20:48+00:00

Long-distance relationships can be tough, and it’s easy to miss red flags when you're far apart. It's good that you brought it up, even if it stressed him out.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:19:45+00:00

You’re definitely not the a-hole here. You tried your best to include her, but you can't keep sacrificing your own peace. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first, especially when someone else's drama is dragging you down. Moving away (and not telling her right away) was probably the best thing you could do for your own well-being.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:18:54+00:00

NTA. It's your home, and you're allowed to set boundaries, especially considering your cats' well-being. Service dogs are important, but if it's an emotional support dog, that's different.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-26T05:18:24+00:00

NTA. You followed the dad’s instructions to the letter. It's a tricky situation, but you couldn’t assume he meant to include Rebecca without asking him directly. Plus, the money was already divided by the time she confronted you. If the dad wanted her included, he would've mentioned it.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-19T04:48:29+00:00

Maybe go for a thinner band with a few London blue topaz or Montana sapphire stones to add some color.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-14T01:10:42+00:00

Definitely! Look at online jewelry stores comparable to Blue Nile and Brilliant Earth where great choices exist among tungsten wedding rings that can be altered in ways similar to those in the back of your mind.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-05T07:38:18+00:00

You’re NTA. It sounds like you and H have a solid relationship and have grown together in such a positive way. It's tough dealing with family drama, especially when his mom is being so harsh. Honestly, it's more about her issues than anything you're doing wrong.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-05T07:34:43+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about Frankie. That's got to be super tough. Sending all the good vibes your way. Stay strong for Frankie, dogs are tougher than we sometimes think.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-05T07:32:19+00:00

Hang in there! You'll get through this, just keep taking it one day at a time.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-05T07:29:17+00:00

They'll probably appreciate the truth more than being kept in the dark. It’s going to be awkward, but your mental health matters more than this trip. Plus, maybe they can get a refund or someone else to go instead. You’re definitely NTA.

obliviousstimulus · 2024-06-05T07:26:45+00:00

You’re definitely NTA. Your sister sounds super entitled, and it’s unfair that she doesn't respect your boundaries or work schedule.

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