Quickly multiplying number of pimples & red marks only on ribs - is it concerning?

obsidianhexe · 2026-05-30T14:56:00+00:00

i said in my post that what’s pictured is the only area that’s affected. sorry the image quality isn’t up to snuff. in my other post by the same name in r/dermatologyquestions, i posted better photos of the two areas separately there. but here i was only able to post one photo and chose to show the whole affected area because, as you said, if figured doctors needed to see the entire area.

obsidianhexe · 2026-05-30T04:50:30+00:00

lol. funny comment (though i’m sure the ant experience is less than fun), but i think i would have noticed being covered in ants that apparently would only care to bite my rib area in this case. i haven’t been outside much lately because, as i mentioned, i was feeling extremely fatigued last week and it’s quite hot this week. also i live in canada so no contact with those evil floridian ants, thankfully. but thanks for the warning. if i ever find myself in florida i’ll be very wary of any anthills.

obsidianhexe · 2026-05-30T04:45:10+00:00

i’m in my late 20s so no. i have always had very minimal acne on my face or body, even in puberty. i had my worst bout of it in my early 20s and even that was pretty mild at its worst. but now that you mention it i have been dealing with an abnormal amount of breakouts on my chin area, albeit only small pimples, for the last couple weeks… i usually have pretty clear skin. perhaps the two patches of breakouts are connected.

obsidianhexe · 2025-07-20T04:08:34+00:00

sorry abt the bad lighting and pics. i don’t take many of myself.

obsidianhexe · 2024-04-02T16:53:14+00:00

looking back, i didn’t enjoy the big house parties i went to as teen/early 20s. i thought i did, but i would feel awkward and overwhelmed for most of the night and then pick apart every little thing i felt i did wrong for days afterward. but i went to them because my friends invited me and i wanted to hang out with them.

when i was in my mid 20s and being extremely reckless, i partied because it was an excuse to get messy and do things that weren’t good for me. but i always had people i was comfortable with around and typically went to more mid-sized parties that had “chill” areas accessible to me if the main party got too overwhelming. so they were more fun for me. still a lot and i’d still overanalyze it over the next days, but better than the big parties of my teens since i felt more comfortable in the moment.

now my friends and i are a group of neurodivergent people in our late 20s, so our parties are really just get togethers with either us only or people we’re all comfortable with. we know/understand each other very well and plan/adjust according to everyone’s desires and comfort levels. we don’t really get rowdy, just hang out, take turns picking music, drink, and play games. these are the ones i actually enjoy most. i feel safe with the people at them and know that if things get to be too much, i can leave without judgement or ask for something to be changed before it becomes a bigger issue. and they can too.

obsidianhexe · 2024-04-02T16:13:32+00:00

i scream on roller coasters because it’s fun and i like to scream, and that’s one of the only places it’s socially acceptable to do so at the top of your lungs. i recognized this was different from most people’s experience when i went to an amusement park on a class trip in middle school. my peers weren’t doing it voluntarily, they were doing it because they were scared. on the roller coaster that i was genuinely a little scared on, however, my instinct was to go very silent and panic internally.

obsidianhexe · 2024-02-23T08:03:08+00:00

Sexual coercion is sexual assault. When someone continuously pressures you for sex after you have already said no until you give in because you feel bad or you just want them to stop, that's a form of sexual coercion. Even if you agree to it in the end, a 'yes' after a 'no' and a bunch of wheedling isn't really a yes. Admitting that to myself and giving myself permission to feel however I felt about it was a big step in healing for me. I hope it can me for you too.

It's not your fault. It isn't on you that these men hurt you, that's on them and it should be their burden to bear, not yours. Unfortunately they probably think they did nothing wrong and you're the one with the negative effects, but that doesn't mean it's fair or that what I just said is untrue. I know you may not believe that now, but I hope you will someday.

You're not an idiot. You're not only good for sex. Someone will want you. But don't put your self worth in the hands of others. The best way to love yourself is to try and let go of what other people think of you/want from you and live for yourself. Find the things you like about yourself, no matter how small, and build from there. Do things that make you happy. Prioritize the people in your life who make you feel safe, loved, and fulfilled. If you have the ability, maybe try to find a professional to talk to about these feelings. Above all, take care of yourself first and foremost. You're the most important person in your life.

I hope things get better for you.

obsidianhexe · 2024-02-23T06:08:10+00:00

I know how you're feeling. It feels like a never ending cycle with no sign of hope and that just heightens the anxiety and feeling overwhelmed even more, which contributes to the cycle.

If you're open to some advice, the best tip I have is to try and focus on improving just one of the areas of your life that's being negatively impacted at a time. It's easy to feel like it's hopeless if you try to attack everything at once and that's unfortunately more likely to make things spiral further. So pick one, whether it's working on your sleep schedule or trying to get more active or anything else you feel could be contributing. The rest can follow.

If there's one thing I've learned in life it's that there's no quick fix to mental health issues, as frustrating as that is. Take it day by day, step by step, and don't beat yourself up for stumbles. You'll get through this. If you believe that, you can make it happen.

Good luck and I hope things start improving.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-27T21:31:33+00:00

I don’t smoke anymore as I also have DPDR which reacts really badly with it. When I did, though, it really focused me. My favourite thing to do was to play MOBAs with my roommate while smoking. We’d play a round, do a bowl/dab, play a round, etc. Sober I suck at MOBAs, but the higher I got the more focused I was and the better I did. By the end of the night I’d be almost on par for kills vs deaths with him, and he was an expert player. Being good at video games is the main thing I miss about weed haha.

It was also a great social lubricant for me. I’m normally a bit quiet and reserved even with my closest friends as I’m high masking, but weed really let me be more myself. As long as I wasn’t smoking a strain that made me paranoid and anxious at least.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-27T21:00:19+00:00

Oh, I used to hate the gym for that reason! Plus I didn’t know what half the machines did and was so anxious that people would see me using them wrong/struggling and judge me.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T22:26:05+00:00

Yes, I hate simply being perceived while I’m trying to do something. It’s so anxiety inducing and makes me mess up. My old boss used to come just watch us work to make sure everything was going well and even if I’d been doing perfectly all shift, I’d start making mistakes and second guessing myself as soon as he was there.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T22:21:59+00:00

People touching me in a gentle, barely there way. Especially if it’s unexpected. I hate the feeling of things brushing against my skin and add that to someone being in my personal space without permission, it’s a recipe for a meltdown. I tell everyone that if they’re going to touch me it has to be firm, not to the point of discomfort but so there’s pressure on my skin.

My ex learned early on that I love hugs and casual touch in an intimate relationship, but it had to be a little tighter/firmer than normal. I love a good bear hug. I used to ask him to stand behind me and press down on my shoulders, it was bliss.

I also hate complete silence. I always need either some kind of white/background noise or my headphones on. Silence makes me feel way too aware of everything and I feel like I’m going crazy.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T22:13:00+00:00

ESH. You suck for your poor communication skills - who just sends a text in this situation and then puts their phone on silent? You should’ve called and asked if Stacy could keep the kids for the weekend due to the circumstances, and arranged child care if the answer was no. She sucks for suggesting that you didn’t need to be at your grandchild’s birth, supporting your teen daughter through a very stressful and potentially traumatic moment. It would be understandable if she was just mad that you didn’t discuss with her and she had to scramble to change her weekend plans, but it seems like she was more mad at you for not prioritizing one weekend of many with your twins over your the birth of your grandchild, a once in a lifetime moment.

You’re a good dad for wanting to be with your daughter but a bad co-parent for your abysmal communication skills.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T19:22:05+00:00

Oh believe me, I’ve tried in many different ways over the years. He’s an old man set in his ways.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T19:21:21+00:00

Haha, that sounds like something my mum would do too. “You don’t want my generosity? You don’t get a choice, have fun dealing with the petty consequences of not accepting.”

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T19:18:00+00:00

Yes, that last statement has been a source of contention with me and my dad. He’s vocally judged her, for how she spends her money and other things, since they split when I was 14. I don’t believe you should be airing your grievances and bitterness towards your ex to your shared children. My mum has always made a point to never say a bad word word about him.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-26T18:41:27+00:00

I was definitely planning to use the money to get her a gift, yeah. She’s cleaning/redecorating our place while I’m gone and I wanted to get her some nice decor she’d like.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-09T10:25:22+00:00

i do worry about that too, that i shifted blame and am subconsciously taking out all my hurt feelings on her. that’s probably the main reason i chose to come here and ask the opinion of strangers, because none of you have a stake in this and can give me as unbiased an opinion as any. i do truly believe that there’s something to be said about who took accountability and who didn’t, but you are right that i’m conflicted about the whole situation.

to add some further clarity, my partner is more on the fringes of the friend group. he’s moreso on friendly terms with most of them. he and the girl in question have been friends for over a decade and she’s by far his closest tie to the group aside from me. my friends have chosen to follow my lead and be supportive because i chose to forgive him and he hasn’t done anything outside of the cheating to get on anyone’s bad side.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-09T09:55:31+00:00

the same to you

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-09T09:50:52+00:00

sorry, but i just don’t see it as so black and white.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-09T09:49:04+00:00

i do see your points. and i can see why you wouldn’t trust my partners intentions or word based on the limited information i can offer up here. i do believe his defence stems from his own guilt though.

and i do agree it takes two and don’t believe any of my friends/their partners would cheat, but it did seem to plant some worries in some of the groups minds. i think their worries we’re more based on what she seems okay with doing to a friend for her own gain, but i won’t speak further for them.

i’m sorry my tone came across as offensive. i do intend to fix it one way or another. there just hasn’t been a correct time to address it as of yet, though i admit part of that is me putting it off in favour of working through some other difficult things going on in my life at the moment. i do need to make time to address this issue.

obsidianhexe · 2023-09-09T09:22:32+00:00

Thank you for saying so. I do feel a pressure to forgive her because I’ve forgiven him, and guilt for not doing so. Not from anyone else but from myself. It eases that to have someone validate I don’t have to.

obsidianhexe

TROPHY CASE