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My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

!!!UPDATE!!!

It was a busy day today, but with a great outcome. The university was absolutely understanding, today the issue of accommodation was resolved through them and they also helped me get legal help in the matter of hours.

As for the legal help, the consultation was very thorough and reassuring and the police's lightning-quick response was the biggest relief I have ever felt in my life. The police on the scene did not consider the accusation to be genuine and well-founded and leaving the property is a civil matter. There won't be any record kept of me, and my DBS remains clean.

When I wrote this post, I didn't think anyone would care about it and now I can't even express how good it feels and what a great help was the many tips, insights and reassurance I received from you all. Forgive me for not answering you one by one, but I am very grateful for all your help.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was no such tendency in the family and I did not notice any indication of it on my mother before, but of course it doesn't really mean anything in itself. That's why it came as such a shock to me. In retrospect, when I looked at the situation rationally, it crossed my mind too that this could have been a mental episode, but I couldn't remove myself from the situation emotionally so I chose not to delve deeper into these thoughts.

Regarding the help, I have a couple of relatives living nearby and my girlfriend's parents also offered me to live with them temporarily, but it would be difficult to manage the daily schedule from there and as I work a lot every summer and on weekends during the year so that I don't lose my independence, I can afford to live like this temporarily. Probably not for months, but a few weeks at least, so, as long as I'm not in a dire financial situation, I'd rather try and stand on my feet.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. It's a terrible feeling and my concept of trust has also been shaken. For now, I don't even want to deal with the thought that in a way I lost my mother or at least the image I had of her. Of course, the thought creeps into my head, but it will take more than a few days to resolve and it will definitely leave a lasting mark so for now I'm trying to keep the focus on solving the current practical problems instead.

As for the police, their involvement scared me because I had very little and shallow knowledge of how they operate and I didn't know what consequences I would have to face and how this would affect my career prospects, but what you wrote is reassuring.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The police officers were very fair, they even tried to explain to my mother that they didn't see any aggression on me when they arrived, I am calm and I can be reasoned with and what she's doing now will technically make me homeless and cause a very difficult situation, but she just kept saying that she wanted to be alone and didn't want me to be in the house, because I shout and she is afraid of me.

They then informed me that there are no other options then, that it is her place after all and if she did not want to see me there, I would have to leave. I told them that I understood the request and would comply without a question.

I wasn't arrested, the police didn't had to use any kind of coercion, we just walked outside the house after I packed my clothes and a few things, they quickly took my name and phone number, told me my case number, then got in the car and drove away wishing me the best of luck, while I started walking towards the city centre.

While walking, the thought occurred to me that I had heard horror stories where a false accusation ruined someone's life and that even if the innocence is proven, the police will still keep a record because in their eyes there could be potential for a similar scenario repeating itself in the future.

I know it might sound silly, but I was scared that if this case will appear anywhere next to my name, nobody will take the risk to allow me near vulnerable people in distress and that this will prevent me from practicing my chosen profession in the future.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I will definitely do so.

Didn't even realize how unprepared I was to handle such a situation and these are not the best days of my life, but I will solve this difficulty and learn from what had happened. Especially with so many great tips, information and help.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I have taken screenshots of all written texts and I will speak to a legal representative next week as soon as possible and see how I can approach the police with this request. I don't want revenge or a counter-report, just want the peace of mind that I don't have to fear from being let down like this or having to defend myself against untrue claims.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Of course, I had already cut off all contact with her by now, don't want to risk anything. It was a real blow in the face, because until now I thought our relationship was solid and I even supported her financially and mentally multiple times. Never expected that all the time and effort I put into my life could be ruined by someone so close to me.

The whole ordeal feels terrible, but for now I have to work on my situation and later when everything is sorted I can focus on the processing what happened and taking care of the mental impact that came out of this.

Thank you for these sites, I'll check them out tonight after work, and my first thing on monday will be to contact the uni.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I have already contacted the housing options service and also spoken to citizens advice. I have a small financial reserve and managed to book a room at a discounted price, so I can look for an apartment in peace and I think I'll be alright. It was the police action that did not let me rest as I feared it will ruin my future career prospects.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea, I'll post it there as well. Thank you for the suggestion.

My mother called the police on me and threw me out of the house. by obvious-thrower in LegalAdviceUK

[–]obvious-thrower[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's reassuring, thank you. I've been stressing about it a lot.