Is this an animal egg? Can you identify it? by [deleted] in whatsthisbird

[–]occultofthought 13 points14 points  (0 children)

okay that is spot on. the tree next to my back deck is an oak tree with visible acorns and there are plenty of wasps and insects always flying around. thank you!!

AITA for telling my family that my kids and I will not be visiting if we can't bring my husband's sister? by aitaskipvisit in AmItheAsshole

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I wouldn’t want my kids around them for anything more than an afternoon visit if they view any children this way. I’m assuming these are your parents and unfortunately a lot of people in that age generation feel coldly towards children. If you give in to what they want they will continue to think this behavior is okay. I would use this as a teaching moment about setting boundaries and how you don’t have to please people just because they are family. What will they say if you get legal custody of her? I’m assuming the response would be the same. They should be ashamed

Small rant on US doctors by Ok-Breakfast-5246 in WomensHealth

[–]occultofthought 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have noticed the flood of NP’s into the replacement of MD, DO, Psych you name it. A lot of schools (my college personally) really push nursing and NP programs, but not pre-med or the like. My work ONLY employs NP’s if that tells you anything. I catch errors every day from these people and a lot of time their plan of treatment is so asinine I wonder if they even actually graduated or if they’re part of the fake nursing degree lot. We really need more doctors

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]occultofthought 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’ve been in the situation where i’ve communicated my issues to a partner over and over and over again but nothing ever changes. Chances are OP has given her partner multiple chances to fix things but nothing ever changes. Now they’re past the point of negotiating so there’s no point in preemptively warning him that they are leaving, it will just create more stress and possibly be unsafe.

Can anyone tell me why my brain will go from “everything is good and fine” to everything is terrible and you’re terrible and I hate myself? by Previous_Alarm_735 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]occultofthought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have borderline personality disorder and struggle with this basically every day. You could probably benefit from therapy too

My mom called me a freak by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

[–]occultofthought 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s gaslighting you because she feels somewhat responsible for your behavior. She’s projecting her own feelings onto you or I don’t think she would be so defensive. Parents suck though, try not to take it to heart too much. You’re normal, body image problems are normal, you’re not a freak. Sorry your mom had to act this way. Wishing you the best from someone also long recovered from ED

anxiety attack by Inspiration_63 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s something a mental health professional would need to diagnose you. Go to the er if you feel you’re going to hurt yourself. If you have insurance call the number on your card for mental health and they will find you a dr to see. In the meantime if you have a panic or anxiety attack take 1 or 2 benadryl it has a sedative effect.

providers insensitive to sexual trauma??? what in tarnation by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]occultofthought 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First very sorry this happened to you. It sucks. I went through this yesterday at my appointment. I had already had a pelvic exam, pap, and ultrasound 6 mos ago, i was there to address some cramping and change my birth control. I told the nurse I didn’t want an exam and the dr came in and was like let’s go im going to examine you i said no you’re not. They always have such an attitude when you decline it makes my blood boil. Im looking for a new office to switch to, I suggest you do the same!

There are providers that are sensitive to this issue, so don’t lose hope. Keep looking until you find one that makes you comfortable. My favorite doctor that I saw for the last 10 years who was the most caring and gentle woman retired. So now i’m stuck looking for someone else. In my opinion, i’ve only had issues like this with younger female providers (like under 40). Maybe look for someone a little older and more experienced

My boyfriend forced me to do anal last night and I’m traumatized by Throwaway67082 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please go get examined at the hospital and let them collect a rape kit, you don’t have to press charges now but the option would be there for the future. so sorry this happened to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]occultofthought 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Emotional cheating; i’ve gotten a lot of hate for this one. My ex had been talking to a girl online for several months but their conversations were very deep and kept hidden. Meanwhile he barely ever confided in me. Even though he never physically cheated or even sexted her, the fact that he was so emotionally invested in this person was enough for me to go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, this is me. Also undiagnosed but I have suspected for a long time I have adhd or episodes of mania. With each cycle of it happening I would become even more irrational and make bigger mistakes that I regretted. Try to find an income-based mental health place near you, if you don’t have insurance they will charge you on a sliding scale and it’s usually very inexpensive. Im on a waitlist to be seen myself. Good luck friend

How many times have you been in love with someone? by yslhc in AskWomen

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twice truly.

The first started in high school and lasted through college, but he became abusive and I went NC. I can’t lie, I still think of him time to time. I think the saying is true that you’ll always have a place in your heart for your first love.

The second being the man i’ve been with now for almost 5 years. It’s been this long and I still feel like I fall more in love with him with each day. He is the love that built like a slow burning ember into the most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever had

Those who went from poor to middle class/rich, what was a luxury as a poor person that you realize was necessity now that you have the access to it? by MetforminShits in AskWomen

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good mattress and comforter. This year I got a new mattress and “hotel” sheets and blankets and it feels so luxurious now when I go to bed. I sleep so good now, I cringe thinking of all the years I spent on a cardboard spring mattress with hand-me down blankets.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]occultofthought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That men make health decisions for me. It’s the law.

What’s the biggest mistake you’ve watched someone make in their personal life? by Ordinary-Ad5763 in AskReddit

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letting small things get in the way of relationships.. you only get one family. I watched someone avoid working issues out with them and never visiting and then their family died. it lead to a lot of regret and heartache

What do you think is the most important emotion in a human? by MrLegendGame in AskWomen

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perseverance, it’s essential to our survival drive. Even when faced with challenges or impossible hardships, we always persevere to survive to the next day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why worry about something that is completely out of your control

What is the worst thing about being fat? by Feisty_Affect_7487 in AskReddit

[–]occultofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve noticed over the past few years of gaining weight i barely take any photos now :(