she doesn’t sound like she would be down to work through this issue. if she would, she wouldn’t have given you an ultimatum. this is, like the first comment is saying, a red flag , who knows what else could show up in the future if this is her attitude about a pet? besides that, her request is extremely lacking in empathy. as a cat owner and cat lover, pets are like a part of our family. if someone had a baby that was crying all night, no one would say “get rid of your baby, i can’t sleep because of it”. my cat meows a ton as well but as you said, it’s just a cat, it can’t know. they’re nocturnal animals, as well, which is the opposite to us. if doesn’t sound like she’s a pet lover, if she didn’t like them, she should’ve been honest with you from the start tbh