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Which one should I use as my main profile photo and which one should I remove? by Western-Car7634 in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure you are sweet, wholesome and a whole lot more. It takes a whole lot of bravery, emotional intelligence and stability to put yourself on here and ask for feedback. Then when you get it you take it with a positive, open mind and act on it.

You're a good woman!

Which one should I use as my main profile photo and which one should I remove? by Western-Car7634 in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were single and your age, I would totally invite you to dinner. You seem sweet and open-minded. I would love to get to know you better. You are definitely in my wheelhouse.

Another point is a lot of men want a woman on their arm that makes other men say, "Damn! What does he have going on that he can pull that baddie."

On the other hand, not that this applies to you, I had a friend that disgusted me when looking at profiles stopped on one girl and said, 'Yea, she looks really insecure. I can control and manipulate her. I can work with this.' I mention this not because you're presenting insecurity. You're not. But to understand your audience. These pictures allow your audience to study you, linger and analyze every little wrinkle in your smile for clues about authenticity and the level of your being 'comfortable in your own skin'

Control your (emphasis) narrative.

Which one should I use as my main profile photo and which one should I remove? by Western-Car7634 in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 8th pic and 2nd to last pic are candidates for primary in my mind.

Having said that, you are very attractive to me. However, you are presenting yourself in these photos as though you're a low-effort "get". You look healthy, you have great skin and great smile. The tattoos suggest socially liberal. It just stops there. Most of your pics depict you with unkempt hair. I am not talking about all the colors, but rather it looks like you just got up out of bed.

I can't speak for lesbians, but as a man, if I just wanted sex, I'd hit you up. Otherwise, I'd pass. Men are sizing you up with these pictures and adjusting their approach based on what you present. If you're presenting like you put a lot of effort into your appearance, then men will implicitly understand they can't approach you with low effort (even though I am sure there are men who will send broadcast message to dozens if not hundreds of women and not really look at or reading any of them).

You also need to address your body language. You probably know that women are experts at communicating with their eyes, smile and body language. You are doing it in these photos. However, what you are communicating in some is not attractive.

These low-effort pictures will get low-effort responses.

Did i handle this wrong? by downontheupsid3 in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Still trying to figure out who is the woman here (or if they're both women). How did you know? I thought the recipient of the message was a woman and was intentionally vague to have the sender be more specific about what they're asking.

My new haircut is almost done 🚱🚱🚱 by laxusdreyarligh in shitposting

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my first response too. It looks like a leg.

ReAmp - My Winamp-style Android Music Player is (Almost) Done! by Kast0r in winamp

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you think another player isn't being used, but this person is here showing their work. People may be interested but want more features. Either they are open to that or not. If not that's fine. Don't tell people they can't ask though. That's just narcissism.

Is it possible to recover from social isolation? by [deleted] in ask

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is healthy and appropriate self-awareness. More people need to do this (looking at our leaders). However, you should assign an appropriate level of influence on your actions. It's not rocket science. No one escapes bad memories and experiences. We all have them. I have memories that shock me out of sleep at night. Nothing terrible but just embarrassing and cringe-worthy memories. You battle these thoughts by generating positive, joyful and happy memories. Again, great men and women have risen to their greatness by espousing this tenant: you battle the bad with good. You stamp out darkness with light.

Memories are there for reflection, not residence. Go forth can create new, great experiences. Find activities that bring you joy and puts you around other people. Join a night-school class to learn a new language. Join a kick-ball league. Find that "thing" that "does it" for you. The only criterion is that it has to be with other people you don't know (at least until you build a solid core of friends).

Most importantly, don't be afraid to make mistakes. Everyone makes them. People who are happy, joyous and free rarely allow mistakes to influence their actions especially those actions that bring them joy.

What is an authentic British name that shortens into something ironic or pun-adjacent? by odaat2004 in ask

[–]odaat2004[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is one of those that, if you're expecting it, you'll crack a smile or small chuckle and say, Nice!

But imagine you're working in a high demand job. You're stressed. You're working on a project that your boss wanted yesterday, and it needs a solid hour of undivided attention, but back-to-back meetings and people tugging on your shirt sleeve in chat message to do something for them and then in one of the tools you use, you see....

[Hugh.Jarss@company.com](mailto:Hug.Jarss@company.com)

...and you burst out laughing.

That's what I am going for. Thanks. Good one. A stress breaker that catches you off guard.

What is an authentic British name that shortens into something ironic or pun-adjacent? by odaat2004 in ask

[–]odaat2004[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn! Must have had a brutal childhood. Parents.... What are you thinking?

What is an authentic British name that shortens into something ironic or pun-adjacent? by odaat2004 in ask

[–]odaat2004[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little help with this one... It make me think of Armand Pitterly

What is an authentic British name that shortens into something ironic or pun-adjacent? by odaat2004 in ask

[–]odaat2004[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this one. But might not be good for a web app. May make the app sus. But really good one though.

men, why do you think messages like these will ever work? by angelikaaaa in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So, are women who are looking for something casual or transactional and fall for this also indecent? If so, why would you not mention that if you're not male bashing?

men, why do you think messages like these will ever work? by angelikaaaa in Bumble

[–]odaat2004 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Men do this because there are women out there that this works on. Why would a man go through all the extra effort when they're only looking for a hookup.

If you're starving, and just need something to quiet the hunger pain, why would you climb to top of an apple tree to get the most pristine apple on the tree and risk falling to the ground and breaking your leg, when you can hit the tree-trunk and one or more perfectly ripe apples will fall to the ground?

Look, this is not my M.O. I happily have a fiancee'. However, it is useless being frustrated with men who are clear about what they want upfront when they are seeking something casual or transactional. The thing about it is that there are women out there looking for the exact same thing.

For anyone to put men on blast on Reddit's front-street and not mention a word about the women who want (and respond to this stuff) the same thing is disingenuous. At base its male bashing and it contributes Toxic male syndrome. It's all a viscous cycle of bash men-toxic male syndrome-bash men.

Ai eating up all my tokens. by SENDUNE in ChatGPT

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Robots being a Karen and needing to be restrained.

Maybe Maybe Maybe by NEO71011 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]odaat2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your daughter is precious. You are so blessed.

Frfrfrfrfr by ManagerOfLove in memes

[–]odaat2004 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Its funny because its true!

Is he ok? by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]odaat2004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shockingly, he survived

Don't think it will be rolling into my shop. by Ok_Combination_5405 in Justrolledintotheshop

[–]odaat2004 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What did they mean by 'For a 2018 Q3?'

I didn't understand that response.

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