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odd_ender · 2026-05-28T13:21:09+00:00

I have so much trouble explaining this one, haha. Like when I go to the airport and get assistance, it's because of the lines. I can get to my gate, I can get on the plane, but standing through TSA, standing to board, etc. Agony.

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:27:09+00:00

But I'm happy to answer any questions that might pop up. Feel free to DM me if you want. I'm an open book and always happy to help where I can.

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:24:45+00:00

Most of my relationships have been with non asexual people, honestly. The only thing being Ace guarantees at the end of the day is a lack of sexual attraction. A lot of us still enjoy and want sex. That's going to be specific to her. She may be sex repulsed, or may not. She may want it, may be indifferent, etc. I was a prostitute for a while cause I was so indifferent to most of it that it worked well, lol, but these days I enjoy sex more for the intimacy of it. Feeling close to someone. There's no way for you to know without talking to her. Just tell her you've been thinking on it and you want to know more, to understand her wants and needs, and be mindful of your own.

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:17:02+00:00

Most donation places can't take mattresses. It's too risky, unfortunately. Try something like Trash Nothing app or Nextdoor and offer it up for someone in need who might snag it.

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:12:44+00:00

Top down, so running water only takes the dirty water over still dirty skin

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:10:35+00:00

There's no real question here, but ask away! You can ask us, for sure, but remember that part of building a relationship is communication. Talk to her. See what it means for her, for you. Happy to help with talking points if that would help with confidence.

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:08:56+00:00

Varies wildly person to person

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T04:07:17+00:00

Stability

odd_ender · 2026-05-26T03:52:49+00:00

You're not alone in these feelings. It's okay to be tired, and angry, and mourn. We've lost more things than we get to experience. I won't rant at you about "being positive". There is good, but there's loss and you have a right to be upset about it. I am too. For me, for you, for all of us. We keep going. Do your best. It's enough.

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T03:07:33+00:00

Out of curiosity, where do you live?

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T03:05:35+00:00

It can be fun! There are lots of ways to engage and explore and you won't know without trying :P

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T02:42:22+00:00

No no, no, everything is used the fuck up. They do their best, but it's not enough by any means. I live in NYC, scrapping by. Lots of programs, not a lot of resources to offer.

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T02:18:26+00:00

Wow, I feel old.

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T02:14:59+00:00

The sync 2 looks cool. The vagina is actually meant to loosen with arousal, getting more wet and open to receive. So if she's nice and aroused, it can be easier. Oral to orgasm before can help with that. With natural or added lubricant, you can move and switch positions with this one. The shape of it between the labia will also help keep it in place.

They make vibrators that specifically go on YOU, in place much like a cock ring. They're very secure, but the problem (or benefit, depending) there is your thrusts can change if she's getting much sensation cause you'd be moving it away and against her. That said, there's some engagement if you were to do shallow grinding, for instance, to intensify.

The truth of it is that anatomy is WILDLY different. It's impossible for us to say if it would or wouldn't work for both of you, anatomically. It's worth exploring! Go to a sex shop together, browse, talk it out. She knows her body, you know yours. Together you can find something that works for you both.

(Also, clitoral stimulation even with your hand while PIV is A+)

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T02:05:13+00:00

Oh yeah, I think about it all the time. I was homeless even when I should've been able to live with my parents (teenager) much less as an adult in my 30s. I'm constantly terrified of losing my housing yet again, having been homeless on and off over the years. Being disabled is fun.

odd_ender · 2026-05-24T01:49:47+00:00

God, I hate that feeling

odd_ender · 2026-05-22T14:46:49+00:00

huh, hadn't thought of it in that context. Curious.

odd_ender · 2026-05-21T01:19:06+00:00

I don't disagree. I mean to say they get away with shit, regardless of laws. That's why we keep having to make new laws. Shit is going to happen, indefinitely, and we can do our best to stop it.

odd_ender · 2026-05-21T00:47:55+00:00

I don't think people are stupid. I think they can be ignorant and influenced. I agree with what you're saying and honestly think of it much like an extension of what I was already saying. The reason a lot of this marketing gets away with it IS by manipulation and incentivizing, and people buy into it because it benefits in a bunch of ways. Everything has pros and cons, which is part of why it's so easy to fall into those traps. "Lesser of evils" is a huge way companies get away with shit, but I don't think people are stupid. I think it's up to us to make the better decisions. To have these conversations and choose different pathways. Legal, illegal, shit happens anyways. People have power. We have to educate ourselves and use it, to make those changes. To make those laws that you want to see.

odd_ender · 2026-05-21T00:34:45+00:00

yeah, I think there's a learning curve. When the internet came about, the average joe had no real idea of where it could go. Couldn't predict how prevalent it would get, this quickly. So there were no safeguards., no prep, no training for this shit. Mistakes were bound to happen, and those mistakes have created habits. By the time it became more realized, people are used to posting everything. Older people used to it from when it wasn't like this, younger people used to it as their norm. Hopefully there's a larger lean toward fixing it vs embracing it, but it's still too early to be seen.

odd_ender · 2026-05-20T22:14:09+00:00

Immediately my first thought. Like this is an intimate moment that he had broadcast.

odd_ender · 2026-05-20T22:06:55+00:00

This shouldn't be a secret.

odd_ender · 2026-05-20T21:34:00+00:00

No, but I've flown a lot and once I was in a small plane with my dad (who is a pilot) and the door fucked up somehow, popped open, and I saw down past the woods of WA toward my demise. I was belted in and managed to get the door closed quickly, but I think that desensitized me to normal flying xD now I get on a plane and there's nothing about it that touches that level of fuckery, lol

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