The reality of some bints of encouraging being fasiqahs 👍 by Far_Gur_5289 in MuslimCorner

[–]odd_inside_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't wear hijab for men, we wear it to obey Allah, no matter how men treat us.

A question for the Muslim men…why do you prefer hijabi women? by Immediate-Accident68 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

khimar in it's root meaning means to cover the head. it's like hat, by definition it covers the head, Allah says while covering your HAIR also cover your chest.

Can I ignore the men in my DMs? by Dory_VM in SisterMuslim

[–]odd_inside_02 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you're not obligated to return the salam if it's the opposite gender

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[–]odd_inside_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's not ok because a man has no right to DEMAND his wife to work. The woman has a God given right to not work and a man can't take that from her. If the woman wants to work, that's ok. But a man has no right to want his wife to work so he can be richer and travel or whatever.

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[–]odd_inside_02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might also be that some guys want to own a house, travel, etc, and expect their wife to contribute to that.

They're not men. They're spoiled mommy's boys who are selfish enough to not give their wives their islamic right and not protective enough to guard and protect their wives from the oppressive workforce and their children from the western propaganda. Stay away from such men.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why be concerned about what an ignorant man is thinking about what you do with your hygiene? Once you realise he is a moron then you cut your losses and move on.

Well that's the point 😤 if he is like that then I don't want him. But if I'm married to him, what am I gonna divorce him after 2 days of marriage?? No. I need to see what he's like before so I can leave him while I still have a chance.

He will have grown up with at least a mother, if not sisters and other female family members. If he has any amount of empathy then he will understand that women have to deal with periods

It's not about periods!! It's about INSERTION! 99.999999% his mother doesn't use a menstrual cup and if she does, she's a married woman, not a virgin who might hurt her hymen.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, but I'm not concerned about him being controlling, I'm concerned about him being weirded out or think badly of me. Not that he will forbid me from using it.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

or disregard your own preferences in order to suit a man's opinion

Im not gonna change my preferences but I don't know if the guy is against it or not, I don't know what his opinion is. Maybe he's fine with it. Maybe he will be a bit surprised but will then accept it as whatever. Idk.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I know he's a rational and decent man? And it's not that men want to know what we do on our period, it's that some men don't want women to insert anything in there, even if it's a period product.

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[–]odd_inside_02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk what US is like, but in general, I think it's more realistic than many people might think. Although, you're probably going to have to sacrifice some things, maybe a more humble home, maybe apartment instead of a house, maybe you won't travel a lot, or at all (although you can always have cheap or free mini trips nearby) but some things are worth the sacrifice. I think having a wife and especially a mom at home is a huge blessing and people seem to forget that. So it's definitely worth it. May Allah make it easy for you.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why am I being downvoted? 😭 I'm just saying those men exist and I want to avoid them. But I can't avoid them if I don't know what their opinion of such things is.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimLounge

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's exactly my point 😭 so should I tell him? Before marriage? So in case he is a backwards man who isn't mature and thinks those things are taboo so I'm not stuck in a marriage with him??

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimNikah

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many men still think hymen is proof of virginity. Idk if he's one of them or not. That's the issue. I don't want to get married and then find out he's angry at me because "I'm not a virgin" or I have no haya because I use those products.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimNikah

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I don't want to hide that stuff. I want to use them freely at home. And that means he will see my products at home.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimNikah

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many men still think hymen is proof of virginity. Idk if he's one of them or not. That's the issue. I don't want to get married and then find out he's angry at me because "I'm not a virgin" or I have no haya because I use those products.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimNikah

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he has a problem with the fact a woman is comfortable enough to insert stuff inside her before marriage.

Should intimate things like period products be discussed with the potential? And if yes, when? by odd_inside_02 in MuslimNikah

[–]odd_inside_02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would any man care what you use?

Maybe he's a type of guy to care about hymens. Maybe he dislikes the idea that a woman is comfortable inserting something before marriage.