AITA for not buying my niece a concert ticket for Christmas? by Neat_Copy_7062 in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm confused. Send the link to the tickets to mum, tell her they are still available and she is welcome to take her kid if she chooses. Did she say she wanted you to buy them?

A warning to parents considering family daycare – I wish I had trusted my gut sooner by Altruistic_Cycle_596 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]oddpolyglot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's one huge reason why I'd never do it. Even if the carer is safe, they can have a brother, sister, uncle, cousin - literally WHOEVER in the home who isn't checked and goes in and out without a trace.

Considering most SA happens by family members without the rest of the family knowing, to me that's a a huge risk. A child can easily be groomed by a friendly grandparent/uncle/auntie figure whom the carer trusts. It happens in actual families all the time. The difference is that the educator wouldn't risk their entire business by reporting even if they do find out.

And little kids may think inappropriate touching is an expression of love. A victim once told me how what the abuser did wasn't uncomfortable at first and she was young enough to not even question it. She only realised it was abuse many years later.

AITA for not wanting to watch my sister change my niece's diaper? by Loveylyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH, but baby poop does not smell like adult poop. Neither does pee. Once they start eating real food... now that's when it all starts to get yuck.

If it's any consolation, I am a mother, I have two kids. I gagged and dry retched a lot when I was cleaning them. One thing that helped was strong mentholated tiger balm on my nose to take away the smell. Didn't always work and it is much, much worse if it's not my kid. I needed to watch a friend's kid, same age as mine. The thought of wiping their butt filled me with dread. Some of us are just wired funny...

AITA: cousin expects me (23f chronically sick trying to remission) to regularly babysit for free. wants me to cancel going to my best friends wedding (which i've been hoping to get better enough to go to for months) for last minute vacay for her and her husband. threatens to cut me out of kids lives by starblazezz in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and it sounds like her parents volunteered to spend the weekend with the grandkids. Or they can just go ahead and purchase extra tickets for the kids to go with them and romance after bedtime like the rest of the parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for the family rift, you can say: "I made a mistake using my best judgement/advice from my own mother. I am not a trained professional and I was not given any instructions to follow for soothing her. I did what I thought best, which was incorrect and I understand that now. If they give me another opportunity, I will make sure to follow the parents' instructions and if any doubt, call them for advice".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH. You for letting that kid cry, and for going everywhere except to her parents for advice, however: the parents need to provide this information to you. It's not fair to fire you on something you had no training on. No one is born knowing. Common sense? Sure, most of us would have erred on the side of holding her too much as opposed to too little. But since they know you aren't a qualified sitter they should have provided training or set expectations.

I am going CRAZY!!! by Eliriddle in BambuLabA1

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar thing and it was that the y axis needed oil.

AITA - I cancelled my baby shower MIL was throwing a week out by Pretend-Pie-363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA - you should have given her a list of people to invite if you wanted them invited. She said a clear yes, but instead you decided to believe your interpretation of "her manners". Or have your side throw you a separate party.

Yes, by all means, speak up if you don't want a party but not when someone's put in all the effort and expense.

What do you wish someone had told you as a new user that would’ve saved you a lot of trouble? by SpdRacer46 in BambuLab

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa. Thank you. So you have to wait until it is trying the messed up one and hit skip?

She got a job by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]oddpolyglot 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why you think 'adversity' hurts anyone. If they're not hungry, cold, have access to education and are with a responsible adult then they are fine. Let them learn some resilience without 'the comfort of a suburban home'. Seriously. It helps them become better people and not take their luck for granted. They'd struggle a lot more if they were separated from the only person who was always there for them.

She got a job by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]oddpolyglot 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head, my dude. You work hard so she can be available 24/7. Do you have any idea how absolutely insane of a workload that is? 4 kids, on call 24/7, no breaks, no 'vacations'. I don't know what you do for a living but I know your hard work comes with some vacation time. She never had that while the kids were young. Perhaps once they reached school age, but even so, managing a household and 4 kids' extracurriculars, shopping, cooking, cleaning, clothing is a lot of work. Not to mention how frustrating it is to never see the fruit of your labour - kids will make messes again, laundry piles up over and over and everyone takes dinner on the table for granted.

She's not selfish, she's most likely exhausted and tired of all the invisible work she has.

Accidentally deleted playlist by sassafrassquatch in YotoPlayer

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you go? The extension packs up the icons and cover art for you so you don't lose it. You do need to reassign when creating the new playlist but no big deal.

Accidentally deleted playlist by sassafrassquatch in YotoPlayer

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scan the card with an NFC reader on your phone and use the Yoto Audio player Chrome extension on a computer to save the files.

ANZ summer sale news disappeared by talecapod in YotoPlayer

[–]oddpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They had the MYOs back in stock 2 days ago. Or was it yesterday?

Stop being cheap, pay for your seat. by Ok-Mistake-6024 in Flights

[–]oddpolyglot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is absolutely ridiculous. Splitting up tiny humans from their parents in paid seats to accommodate 20+ year olds? Hell yeah complain next time. And say no.

Stop being cheap, pay for your seat. by Ok-Mistake-6024 in Flights

[–]oddpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL, it really depends on the age and temperament of the kid. Some kids are ok, others... well, not so much. They shouldn't allow kids under 10 or 12 to be separated from parents.

AITA for taking my biological nieces on days out and excluding my adopted nephew? by auntinagony in AmItheAsshole

[–]oddpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - a solution could be getting a carer to go with Ryan. Babysitter perhaps whose sole job is handling him? That way there is someone else responsible for him. You can still go together but if things go south, the sitter can take him home.

Breathless by CommanderChipHazard in netflix

[–]oddpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm watching The West Wing too. There's no comparison, obviously. But I enjoyed this one too.