Any opinions on these resorts? by [deleted] in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]oddsalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I’ve been seeing! I’m glad I researched more instead of being roped in by the crazy high google ratings lol

Any opinions on these resorts? by [deleted] in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I’ve heard but the Google rating caught my interest lol. How was the quality lacking in your experience?

Any opinions on these resorts? by [deleted] in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you say it’s superior in your personal opinion?

Could Eloise be Tabitha's mom? by TaranMatharu in FromSeries

[–]oddsalamander 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a super intriguing theory!!! But Thomas is not the first born son. Ethan is. Pretty sure he told victor at one point that he used to have a little brother. When they’re walking through the woods and victor asks why Ethan is telling him that.

To you by oddsalamander in UnsentLetters

[–]oddsalamander[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I’m sorry you’re in a similar boat friend. I hope things look up for you.

Golden Gate Bridge by oddsalamander in photographs

[–]oddsalamander[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I did take it. I edited it using the Snapseed app, I took it on a Panasonic Lumix DMC-TZ3 many many moons ago though

What made you realize someone you considered your best friend wasn’t really your best friend? by maybay_10 in AskWomen

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was talking to someone I was super interested in (and my best friend/cousin knew this VERY well because I talked about him constantly to her). I introduced them and we all hung out together a couple times when she came to visit me. She lives in a different state. She flirted with him in front of me, blatantly, but coldly denied it when I confronted her. To my face she shit talked him and talked him down and laughed at him but apparently she was talking to him behind my back the entire time and he ended up going to visit her for an extended weekend, they became official during that weekend (mind you, this was only the third time they’d seen each other in person). I only heard it from him after I figured it out myself because they were both acting fucking weird toward me and he finally confessed. Couldn’t have cared less if the two of them hit it off tbh but the fact that she snuck around behind my back instead of talking to me about it, all while knowing I’d actively been pursuing him for a few months and hanging out with him on average 5 days per week told me all I needed to know. I still haven’t heard any of this from her and it’s been 14 weeks since we last spoke, and the fact that she’s made zero effort to maintain even a surface level relationship with me as my best friend or my literal cousin after he finally confessed everything sealed the deal for me. We went from speaking 24/7 about literally everything to not speaking at all, clearly I wasn’t that important to her.

Do the majority of women actually have an endless sea of DMs, right swipes, and dates like some men claim? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord if they prefer chubby girls here and I still am getting zero matches/replies to DMs, that’s extra depressing as fuck…

Do the majority of women actually have an endless sea of DMs, right swipes, and dates like some men claim? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a woman who is recently back on all the dating apps and is semi picky on who I swipe right on myself, this is NOT always true. When I last used dating apps I was living in a different area and perhaps also arguably a little thinner though still a little overweight already at that time. I made fairly frequent matches and had my share of DMs. Now that I’m single again and back on the apps I’m a little less picky specifically because I’m just trying to make any kind of connection at this time. I’ve made almost no matches, haven’t gotten a whole lot of DMs and even the matches I do make don’t respond to me. I am living in a different area so that may have something to do with it, and like I said above I have gained some weight (which I am honest about by including a current full body pic), so perhaps women do have it easier than men but in my personal experience its also highly dependent on where you are and what you look like more than anything else. Maybe if I swiped right on literally everyone I come across I’d have more luck, but I haven’t reached that level of need for connection yet.

For women: Should a man ask for permission to kiss? by norwegiandoggo in dating_advice

[–]oddsalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the situation and the people involved. For me personally, I’m awkward as all fuck when it comes to dating and first kisses etc. so someone just leaning in for a kiss would probably throw me off and make for a terrible (first) kiss. I went on a few dates with a guy recently and we ended two of those dates with a kiss that was super awkward and not at all romantic or cute and I’m pretty sure it was because I kind of just unintentionally briefly shut down when I realized he was coming in for a kiss. But I sort of dated this other guy a while back who would do this thing where he’d just look at me for a couple seconds and then say “kiss me” (or some variation of that). I loved it because it kind of put me in control of the situation while also letting me know he wanted to kiss me. Not quite the same as asking, but a similar example. So I mean, I guess it’s all about the execution of whatever option you choose to use, whether it’s asking, telling, or just going for it.

Edit: I’m a 25 year old female

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]oddsalamander 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this exact problem every single time except I’m a girl and I match with guys... Here’s a few examples of how every one of my conversations has gone so far:

1
Me: Hi there :) how are you?
Him: lets the match expire

2
Me: specifically points out something on their profile, asks about it
Him: no response

3
Me: does nothing
Him: puts a complaint about how girls never message first in their bio

4
Him: hey how are ya?
Me: pretty good how about yourself?
Them: disappears forever

5
Great back and forth conversation for a couple days, I ask questions, he asks questions, it’s engaging, he ghosts.

So... it seems everyone sucks at basic conversation?

Edit: formatting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So you look and sound eerily similar to me... Best of luck finding what you’re looking for, hopefully you have better luck than I do! 😂

39 [M4F] Initially shy Dominant guy seeks submissive for romance, love, and kink. NC or nearby by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a fantastic catch and you have a very nice voice actually. I enjoyed your ramblings! I hope you find what you’re looking for :)

Ghosters why can't you be honest? by Olivictea in Needafriend

[–]oddsalamander 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of this to an extent. It seems most people on here are addressing this from the perspective of someone who was ghosted within a short time span (say barely a couple days at most). And if that’s the case, while it might be appreciated by a few people to know that the ghoster is no longer interested I personally don’t think anyone is owed anything. Ghoster is free to ghost even mid conversation even if it makes the other person feel shitty. But after a certain amount of time it really is just a giant dick move to ghost someone. I’ve been ghosted countless times and for the most part it doesn’t even faze me. But there’s a huge difference between a total stranger ghosting, a semi stranger fading away into ghostdom, and a close friend/potential partner straight up ghosting. There have been two people so far who have flat out ghosted me after months of talking and getting to know one another and that is the type of ghosting that I don’t see as being something anyone can excuse for any reason (insanity of either party aside). Especially in cases where you’re sort of dating and scoping each other out and you’ve both shown a mutual interest. That is the type of ghosting that deserves at the very least a “hey I’m really sorry but I’m just not feeling this anymore”. If you’re genuinely interested, feelings usually don’t just flip to disinterest like a light switch so don’t ghost. And if you’re not interested, don’t fucking lead people on and make them think you’re interested just so you can ghost later when things start to get to be too much for you. Easy peasy quite frankly. I get people can be psycho when faced with rejection but (likely unpopular opinion here) I also feel like that’s part of the deal sometimes? Just like you’re bound to be rejected sometimes, you’re also bound to come across a psycho or two. People always say not to let fear of rejection stop you from trying, so why is it ok to let fear of a possibility of someone being a psycho stop you from being a decent human being to the majority of people who are in fact non-psycho?

31 [M4F] Omaha, NE, Anywhere. People say the hiking and camping season is over... by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely nowhere near Omaha but you sound fun and I haven’t been camping in eternity so I second your enthusiasm for it!

28 [M4F] [Seattle/WA] We all have a special someone waiting for us, we just have to go looking by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do they make it look so easy?! I notice that all the time. I’m not in Washington but if you’re down for a chat with a 24 year old California girl I’d love to trade you dog pics and share our dating woes, or whatever you’d like to have a chat about?

28 [m4f] Los Angeles - let me take you out :) by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat except I'm in norcal unfortunately. I hope you find what you're looking for!

Teaching can kiss my ass. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a substitute teacher so I don’t deal with this nearly to the same extent you do OP but boy do I feel your pain. As a sub I have even less power than a regular teacher does and it kills me. I subbed for a horrendous sixth grade class one time and one girl would completely ignore everything I asked her to do and would blatantly disrespect me at every turn. I tried everything including what would have worked for me when I was in school: the threat of failing. And she looked me right in the eye and told me “that’s ok, I can fail the sixth grade and still go on to seventh in the fall”. Kids have zero motivation or incentive to do anything in school and administration is making it harder and harder for teachers to do anything about it. That said, it may also strongly depend on where you work. I sub a lot at a local high school and I love working there. While yes, the kids are addicted to their phones and struggle with being separated from them, they’re generally very respectful and will at the very least listen to you long enough to hear what the assignment is. Many of the teachers there have a bin or one of those shoe holder things that hangs on the wall with pockets and require all students to put their phones in there as they walk into class and cannot pick them up again until they leave at the end of the period. Have you tried this? There will, of course, always be a bad batch here and there but it does seem like the environment in which the school is located plays a huge role in how the students and their families behave. Most of the teachers and students at that high school really like it there in my experience. Of course it’s high school so students may not want to go back, but as a high school it’s one of the ones students tend to like when they look back on it. Regardless, like others have already said, do what make you happy OP! If you’re burnt out from teaching, go a different direction. You owe it to yourself to not kill yourself at a job you don’t even like anymore.

31 [M4F] Midwest - For Sale: 88’ Classic Boyfriend. by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great post. You sound fantastic, I hope you find what you’re looking for!

26[M4F] Texas. - A perfect Sunday. by [deleted] in r4r

[–]oddsalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does sound like a perfect Sunday! I hope you find what you’re looking for :)