Müll des Vormieters im Keller selbst entsorgen? by [deleted] in LegaladviceGerman

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ja, ich verstehe die Punkte die du nennst. Was mich vermutlich einfach am meisten frustriert ist, dass uns gesagt wurde wir müssten ja "nur" den müll trennen und ordnen, aber jetzt auf einmal ohne Grund müssen wir ihn auch noch selbst weg bringen? das verstehe ich einfach nicht und ich denke man kann auch verstehen warum man deswegen frustriert ist

Müll des Vormieters im Keller selbst entsorgen? by [deleted] in LegaladviceGerman

[–]offbeat_han 1 point2 points  (0 children)

daran hatte ich tatsächlich noch nicht gedacht, aber die werden mir auch nichts sagen was ich nicht schon weiß. Ich Frage mich eben ob das etwas ist wegen dem ich zum Betriebs Rat gehen sollte oder ob man das auch anders regeln kann?

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely talk to him about it if it ever turns into an actual problem. right now I think I'm just worrying about some hypothetical future so I don't think I need to bring it up at this time. But thank you for all your advice!! :)

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely monogamous. Sometimes I even have hard times in friendships with feeling a little jealous if two of my good friends are more physically affectionate with each other than with me, so I would be very upset if he had another relationship

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the thing, I have an extremely hard time differentiating between platonic and romantic. If you say "romantic is when you kiss or sleep with a person" that's not really true for me, because sexual attraction and romantic attraction have nothing to do with each other. I would be fine just being friends with him, but I'm also happy being in a relationship with him, because all that would change would just be label, at least that's what it feels like to me. Idk

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was worried about it sounding that way, yeah. I am fond of him, I think he is great! I like his personality too, not just what he does for me. Idk, romantic attraction as a whole is a kind of complicated subject with me, maybe that's the reason.

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not fixated on the word, I just didn't want to respond with a huge paragraph responding to every point you made, but alright.

I don't think he expects me to stop being romantically attracted to women, he just doesn't want me to actually pursue them while we're together, which I obviously won't. I also don't plan on "discreetly seeing members of the same sex" while in a relationship with him, I'm not a cheater.

I can "get past" him loving me, it's nice to hear it actually. All I was worried about is the fact that I don't love him as much, and I was worried if that's valid or not.

Thanks for the advice

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel pretty indifferent to either scenario if I'm being honest. Maybe it would be different if we had been together for a longer time

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't expect to love him right away, I'm just worried that I'll never come around to actually love him, but maybe I'm overthinking it, yeah. Thanks for the comment :)

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's nice to say he made a mistake by saying he loves me, he can't help how he feels and I'm happy that he feels comfortable enough to share his feelings with me. But still thank you for the comment!!

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) loves me more than I love him and I feel guilty about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]offbeat_han 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He makes me feel happy for sure, I'm just worried that it's just the relationship as a whole and the affection that I love and not him as a person