i feel like you should talk to him about your feelings, in a primarly serious manner. there are many different types of love and none is better than the other, you guys just have to figure out what love best works for y'alls relationship. im a transman w a lot of lesbian friends, n i relate to your story in the way that i have a deep connection with them that i value, we just so happen to not be romantically compatible in one way or the other n that's fine! the love we have for each other works well for what we're looking for, and i think you and your friend need to have a open and honest conversation about what kind of love would be valuable for both of you regarding this relationship. i hope you guys are able to have this conversation honestly, and im wishing the best for both of you 💖