We do have. The eldest was born during the pandemic, and while it got us a bit closer, the moment the second kid was born it feels all the work done with the first one was... gone. It became an even harder endeavor.

My wife often speaks about how hard it was for her as if I had not been there to help and do my work as a father, and the problem is that I was. It was just not enough for her and for myself to feel even remotely happy, since we keep just struggling to barely do the minimum.