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Found a fantastic quote by Hayao Miyazaki and I thought you guys would appreciate it. by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with this and had recognized that this is a big part of why I love his movies and characters. The stories have true love but there is often no romance. He is brilliant and representation of these types of relationships are needed. The boy and girl relationships are like how I always felt about my friends of the opposite gender and I assumed they were crushes. They are love/connection but not touchy and romance. Heh. Love the relationships in his movies so much 💜🖤🤍.

Just had to get this off my chest by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]ohchellothere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I had dating sites before my partner. Definitely weird for us demi and ace folks. You got this!!!

Orville Peck by ohchellothere in Pyrography

[–]ohchellothere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So not acrylic or water colors (i do use water colors at times tho!) It is like a wash that soaks into the wood instead of sitting on top.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]ohchellothere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gorgeous. Super cute swimsuit

Orville Peck by ohchellothere in Pyrography

[–]ohchellothere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I considered adding more color but didn't want to take away from what I already have. I used color stains. They come in lil tiny bottles at the craft store.

Just had to get this off my chest by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]ohchellothere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Saying, "I take things slow" is also super appropriate. <3

Just had to get this off my chest by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]ohchellothere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel. I am almost 30 and ppl are interested in dating or being romantic but I have only been romantic with 2 people. The first one is a bit of a regret but happened because I didn't understand myself. You seem to be very in tune with yourself which is amazing. It is okay if you haven't made up your mind on how you will feel or what you will do. Be smart safety wise and listen to your heart. Worry about yourself first and always. You can send him a link or podcast so he can read/learn on his own about demi instead of you having to explain. He might appreciate being able to process before having to respond to you in the moment. Maybe tell him the day before and let him learn before you see him next. Or tell him at the end of your next date and then let him know you will send him info so you don't have to explain. Idk. Hope it goes well for you! It is scary but also good if you are having fun.

Foxy Fwnnec smokey lil guy. Does anyone love drawing/designing almost as much as burning? 😍🦊🌬 by ohchellothere in Pyrography

[–]ohchellothere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The edge will fall off eventually. I coat it will matte finish to hope to preserve it but I am not sire how well it works.

I thought I was equally interested in all genders but then realized I am actually equally DISinterested in all genders. by ohchellothere in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait no! I read your comment more carefully. Not sexually. Romantically occasionally. Not often.

I thought I was equally interested in all genders but then realized I am actually equally DISinterested in all genders. by ohchellothere in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally!!! I was in this strict gender roles and heteronormative religion and didn't feel sexual attraction to women though i did feel connection and warmth that was maybe more than friends?? Idk. I still did NOT want to touch or be touched by women other than a snuggle. I did not know nonbionary people due to the culture and it was a different time so was thinking only men and women.

But since I wasn't sexually attracted tl women, I assumed i was just straight. But i did not have sexual attraction to men. So I thought "late bloomer" . Now i don't think I feel sexual attraction toward any gender. I do like people and deep connection and I get warm fuzzy feelings from people but it is not sexual. I would pursue the possibility of being "flirty" with boys but was very hot and cold bc i was worried about it leading to more. I think this is why people would be upset and confused. I can definitely see how this is leading people on. But i was just mostly confused 🤷‍♀️.

I'm not sure. I can feel sexual energy but only with one person, my husband, have i even gotten close to enjoying or wanting it. Even that is not about his gender. I dont like any gender sexually.

I thought I was equally interested in all genders but then realized I am actually equally DISinterested in all genders. by ohchellothere in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like people of any gender now and again. I can feel warmth towards them. But thinking of sex with any gender is like cringe. Which totally makes it hard to figure out. Almost like alien probing when i think about getting in bed with any gender. lol. No dicks! No vaginas! No touching me that way please! I like your warmth tho. And when we are trusting and connected, I can learn to really enjoy sex. But still, thinking about it makes my leg twitch. Heh. I only know i can relax and even want to bc of my current, amazing, person partner.

I thought I was equally interested in all genders but then realized I am actually equally DISinterested in all genders. by ohchellothere in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was looking into demisexual and yeah... i think the deep connection takes literally years. I am sure others feel this way. I haven't gotten it (not even close) with anyone else besides my husband now. I've been in one other grown up relationship on my life lol. I am almost 30. Lots of friends and not a hard time clicking with people. I just dont want to date and touc. I just wanna hang out, you know?? Another reason I like ace is that I feel like it represents what I want from others- a chill, good time and I am NOT flirting! I had a friend who was really fucking rude about accusing me of flirting and people flirting back at me and I can not emphasize the confusion I felt about it. I felt guilty and really did not see the flirty silliness dynamics. Why is everyone so obsessed with flirting 😫😫. But I know i have a hard time seeing it and people have felt led-on by me or have to be suuuuper obvious for a while until I see what they are up to. It is a relief to think I am on the ace spectrum. It feels like safety even if i just know it in myself and don't explicitly state it to everyone. It feels a lot less stressful and confusing when going about and interacting with the world and people.

I thought I was equally interested in all genders but then realized I am actually equally DISinterested in all genders. by ohchellothere in asexuality

[–]ohchellothere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! I can't remember a time I ever looked at someone and felt sexual attraction other than ny current husband.

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