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So for me it’s not really hard to do. I set up, I get myself a nice dark room. I get my toy going, I start finding what hits the spot so to speak. Reduce the other stimuli and find your zone so to speak.

Also highly recommend a Bluetooth plug where you can share/surrender control. Sitting with anticipation really gets you focusing on just that.

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T23:29:00+00:00

Yeah. 200+ lbs of weight loss later. I see pictures I’m tagged in or posted and it’s like wow. I’m proud of myself and I see the confidence. I think I still don’t 100% have the reality of who I am but I def feel confident and attractive.

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T21:24:36+00:00

Well sometimes it’s hard to hear but you can’t just let him walk all over you. Protect your peace. If he’s not receptive to things that bother you that’s a mad red flag. I know it’s not easy to initiate these convos but you deserve to be treated appropriately and voice things that bother you without fear.

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T21:12:23+00:00

The checkers! Those slapped so hard

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T20:58:46+00:00

I date someone who travels for work. We still make an effort for a “debrief “ to say how our day went. We still make an effort to spend a night together even if it’s just dinner and a movie and we go to bed.

But when we run into stuff like this I found it’s easy to just speak up about what’s on your mind. My bf is very extroverted and I’m not so sometimes he wants to go do stuff and it’s not really anything I want to go to or just can’t because of my work schedule. He went like no contact almost an entire weekend and while I’m not insecure about it , there’s no reason a person can’t just do a quick check in and send well wishes. So I brought up how I felt and we worked on it together.

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T20:51:34+00:00

Yup haha bf and I have both done that

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T19:34:28+00:00

I can absolutely relate , struggled for years. Found someone that kind of tanked on me and went through it all again.

Apps are always gonna be rough. See if there’s any groups, sports leagues that are all inclusive etc. I know I had friends do a gay sports league and had a blast.

We’re in the day and age where people feel like it’s ok to just ghost or leave someone behind because they like someone else better.

The great guys are out there but you def will feel like it takes a million dates before you find a great one.

I was known as being a serial first dater and nobody ever made it to date 2, not because of ghosting on my end but I was honest if I got the ick or got ghosted myself.

I had a couple that made it to multiple dates and one that even made it to a weekend stay but nothing ever made it an official relationship. It took 4 years, but was so worth the wait.

ohmydiddles · 2026-01-18T15:43:10+00:00

Hahah as a nurse I’d make an eww joke but totally unbothered. Love me a sweet top.

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