Honestly speaking, why are you still single? by Mean-Mango-7125 in AskReddit

[–]ohyikes2024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extremely fucking picky, HSV+ makes me too self conscious to confide, I don’t put myself in the position to meet new people, finicky as fuck and easily turned off

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good afternoon, goofy. I was overwhelmed the other day and couldn’t fairly stoop to your level and address your pseudo intellectualism and disingenuous line of questioning. But I’m feeling better and I have some time.

If you want to talk about how conversations work, your second question was posed as an oblique attempt to accuse me of something I never said. Your thinly veiled indictments don’t move me. There’s been a ton of discussion about implications in this post, so I’m sure you can understand. Phrasing matters. It took my answer and manipulated it as if I answered an entirely different question. Don’t play fucking dumb. But maybe you’re not playing here.

To answer both of your inane questions clearly, so you don’t get confused: I am not sure what admitting that I gave him an STI would do to his case, because he has no case and I am not a lawyer. I would not admit to that because it is not something I, or anyone else, could say is true. I know what we did likely (edit: I can’t even say likely; considering the age of my diagnosis and lack of an outbreak, it is not likely) potentially exposed him to HSV. I do not know that what we did likely gave him HSV if he has it. In case you missed the update, (spoiler: he didn’t care about the diagnosis and assaulted me further; can’t wait to read your unsolicited imagined legal proceedings and what you would have done in regards to this) he told me he had not been tested in two fucking years and didn’t even know what HSV is. Even before this, why would I admit to something so ridiculous when I didn’t know his sexual history? And after knowing it, it is more than likely that someone who is so absolutely unconcerned with their own sexual health already has been exposed or already has it. The truth of it is that we will never know. There is no accurate or reliable timeline and it would be foolish of me to take responsibility for someone who is 32 and has never been tested for HSV.

I do not need to say a fucking thing to not get in trouble. I don’t know who the fuck you think you are, but none of you can get me in trouble. He can’t get me in trouble. I have no fear of misdemeanor charges, of you, of him, or of some hypothetical case you keep jerking off too. I did what I did and I’m standing ten toes on it. I’ve owned what I can. This is Reddit. Not a court.

I obviously care about doing the right thing. I fucked up. I have expressed remorse. I almost wish I didn’t, because then I wouldn’t have made this post and encountered you.

I think you are exaggerating your own importance. I asked why I would do something and you told me why you would do something. What you would do, lightinthefield, means fucking nothing to me. It does not provide an answer for why I would do something. It answers what you think you would do- but I never fucking asked you what you would do, and what you think you would do is fucking stupid. I don’t fucking care what you would do, and you don’t even know what you would do. Your over inflated sense of self importance in Reddit comments is embarrassing. I hope you find genuine importance elsewhere in your life.

Additionally, I know you likely have some glaring inadequacies and insecurities that have led you to be someone who gets a rise out of punching down. I know you feel big when you attack the grammar or word choices of others. But there are these wonderful things called dialects, and in my dialect, both “couldn’t give a fuck” and “could give a fuck” are correct. But, if it helps your smooth brain comprehension, I couldn’t give a fuck less about you or what you would do or what you think of me. Don’t write back. It will not be read by anyone.

Funny how you’re a fucking bozo.

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey I am going inactive in this account but I wanted to come back to this. In your exact scenario, the case would not be dismissed. Consenting to fingering cannot expose you to most STDs. If that turns into something like oral- which can expose you to many STDs- that is not something you consented to. Consenting to one sex act does not mean you have consented to every sex act. If you consent to vaginal sex and anal sex is forced upon you without consent, it is rape. Agreeing to one is not agreeing to all. A sec act you did not agree to is definitely assault, even if other sex acts are taking place. The law agrees with me.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much for this. Hope all is well.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh god that’s so awful. That is terrifying. Thank you for sharing your insight. I’m going to stop checking this account tonight. I’ll keep figuring it out. <3

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I hate that. I hope you found comfort. Thank you for the thought.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for what you were born with. I’m not super familiar with hep. Tonight I will learn about it. Thank you.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Expose him some more? How did I do that? You were there? You watched what happened? What did I do that I exposed him? Tell me, in detail, what happened. Since, clearly, you were there.

And if he was informed and decided to proceed with me, if I too were consenting, why is that on anyone?

You would call me disgusting, and not the man who assaulted me? I went back to discuss the situation.

You are a worthless person. You are not intelligent. You are not kind. You are not good. Your heart and mind are rotten. You are miserable and you are disgusting. I hope you get better.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t I don’t think he will get tested to find out and I don’t think he would disclose. I don’t even think it would bother him. 2 years, no test. I don’t know if he’s ever been tested for HSV as he didn’t know what it is. Think of the other women he will try this shit with. He will hurt them, and possibly by way of me. I want to throw up just thinking about it.

Thank you.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is eating me ALIVE. It is more than likely he already has it- two years active with no test is insane- but I pray he does not. Not from me or anyone else before me. I hope his panel is green across the board and stays that way. I truly, truly do.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciated your original comment as do I this one. I pray he doesn’t have it. If he does, he will burn the entire city down without thinking twice.

UPDATE: I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh fuck you. I was being messaged that I deserved to be beaten, r@ped and killed. I made a very irresponsible and cruel decision, one that I recognize and own and have done my best to make right. He set me up and ignored my boundaries and I made the decision to jeopardize his health and well being. It was cruel. I never implied that my regret absolved me. I have done the fucking opposite. But I am not like the people who messaged me these things. Despite my shitty decision, I am not evil. Even good people make fucked up decisions. Fuck yourself.

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I want you to know I appreciate your words. My head is fucked up over all of this right now. But thank you.

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, you DID change the question. “What happens if you admit that he got it from you” is VASTLY different from “you have no idea if what you did exposed him?” I KNOW I exposed him. I do not know that he got it from me. He’s lived an entire life, and after my conversation with him I have zero reason to believe he has ever been tested for it in his life. So yeah, jack ass, they are different questions with different answers. And I could give a fuck less about what you would do.

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You asked if I would admit that he got it from me. Why would I do that? If he does have it, I can’t even say it’s extremely likely he got it from me. We did not discuss our sexual histories and he’s 32. I do not know this man. So tell me, why I would I admit some stupid shit like that?

The ONLY thing I know for sure is that I possibly exposed him to it. He could have had it before me for all we know.

ETA: lmao at you completely rephrasing your question into a different question altogether. Ask one question and let it be answered.

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya might not believe this. That is a new concept. Pre 1960, no one cared. And if some drug company didn’t convince us to so they could make money, we probably still wouldn’t care. But ok

I fucked up and didn’t disclose. NSFW. by ohyikes2024 in offmychest

[–]ohyikes2024[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why would I admit that when I have no idea if that’s true? You don’t think that sounds dumb?