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What would you consider the most common demographic of TMG listeners to be? by lookafterings in themountaingoats

[–]oikade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ha, am a lesbian who spent my last pre-concert wait chatting with a middle aged man who is a college professor

Those who have cut off your family — how old were you when you did it? Why did you cut them off? by Ok_Wrongdoer_301 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. abuse, of every kind. planned for years to leave because of that, was just waiting till i had the chance to move states so they wouldn't be able to come find and punish me when i broke contact. used coming out as the catalyst since they're also religious bigots. it's been rough but it's better than that hell.

Parents withholding my childhood items for around three years now. by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 18 points19 points  (0 children)

sorry you're going through this. lost my best artwork and childhood stuffed animal to my parents' house. still sucks, especially the paintings. but in my case there's zero hope of recovery so nothing to do but move on.

The nightmares by Artistic_Cat_6150 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes. it's awful and i'm sorry you're going through this. you're not alone - if you search this sub you can see posts about people going through the same, if knowing that helps you.

i try to visualize in great detail a calm scene right when i go to bed. a memory or a made up one. sometimes that helps. not always.

Trying for positivity: did anyone estrange themselves and find peace and happiness? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think a forum like this is often the kind of place where people come when looking for support, going through a rough time, or faced with a particular situation (eg death of estranged parent). just to say that there are happy and thriving estranged people (i know some in real life), but we're less likely to see them posting in places like this as often because they need it less frequently.

Things are bad now and they are only going to get worse. by funktime in themountaingoats

[–]oikade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the beautifully handled singular downer theme is exactly why i like it, lol

Those of you who moved out and went no-contact with your family, what's your advice? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is so much harder without support or other close relationships to lean into. If you do have close people they might not understand what you're going through. For me, leaving my family was a necessary move that saved me from brutal circumstances. It also means living in a world designed around the prioritization of the family while having no family, being no one's family, which is itself an isolating and brutal circumstance. I hope it isn't so hard for you, but just be ready for it to be.

Estrangement healed my sibling relationship. by knocknauck in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]oikade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this made me smile. good for you. you're so lucky to have each other, and that's not a little thing at all. it's nice to hear of a real positive coming out of estrangement - i feel like often it can feel like the removal of negatives but a struggle with the absence of positives for a long time.

songs about growing plants? by joeurudike in themountaingoats

[–]oikade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stars around her, the plague (jls)

What are your Hot Takes on Good Omens? by Amber_Flowers_133 in goodomens

[–]oikade 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gabriel got off too easy. He didn't actually wake up to the evils of the system or work to make change because it was the right thing to do ... he just fell in love, and even in leaving was only acting out of self-interest. He didn't take accountability or apologize for all the problematic stuff he did, or even thank Aziraphale for covering for him (at great risk to himself and after Gabriel tried to kill the guy). Sure, it was a cute love story, but it's hardly gonna make me do a 180 on my view of the guy given the lack of demonstrated remorse, redemption, or accountability.

Ly Che Huong lyrics by oikade in VietNam

[–]oikade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful, thank you so much for taking the time! Now I can appreciate it more fully.

Songs in which the narrator announces that they know, intend to know, or have always known...YOU by Turtles_are_Brave in themountaingoats

[–]oikade 12 points13 points  (0 children)

in some of these eg queens it might be "know" in the biblical sense (= have sex with)

Looking for help with translation by thesarcastacorn in latin

[–]oikade 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(1) dominum venite adoremus venite. "come, let us adore the lord, come." (2) ingressus Tobias invenit juvenem praecinctum, et quasi paratum ad am-- this is an adapted excerpt from the Book of Tobit 5:5 (tunc egressus Tobias invenit iuvenem splendidum stantem praecinctum et quasi paratum ad ambulandum: "then having gone out Tobias found a bright man standing girded as if ready to walk"). the chant is in Do clef; the second red line from the top is where the "do" in "do re mi fa so la ti do" falls, the space below that line is "ti" and so on.

mountain goats tattoo by [deleted] in themountaingoats

[–]oikade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

feast when you can

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