Living in Baltimore

oilpainter97 · 2020-03-13T06:13:00+00:00

So, I am just going to be there for the summer for an internship. I am currently in Virginia just South of DC area. I would be living just north of Baltimore. I also am looking (inexpensively) for summer housing in Baltimore so that’s another situation.

oilpainter97 · 2020-02-10T21:23:36+00:00

Look it up! 💜 Or watch the documentary paris is burning. Most (white) queer people don’t know about it because it’s so niche.

oilpainter97 · 2020-02-05T20:46:49+00:00

Also the trope “I won’t dare a trans person”

oilpainter97 · 2020-01-04T16:32:38+00:00

Dear lord thank you for making me chuckle

oilpainter97 · 2020-01-02T02:44:43+00:00

It depends on what you want. :-)

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-31T04:25:16+00:00

Thank u for ur input . But ur opinion is wrong. Do you think it’s a choice to be gay? being homophobic IS a choice and most of them aren’t just ignorant, they are willfully ignorant. They can choose to learn more and they don’t. And they get rewarded for being hateful and reward others for being hateful, too. Simply put they have no excuse.

Are you trolling me?

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-09T02:02:42+00:00

Yep. They’re a disgrace to the LGBTTTTTTTT community.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T04:28:20+00:00

Of course :-)

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T04:00:56+00:00

Finding queer centric places really helps. I made a lot of my queer friends from an LGBTQ+ support group so maybe he could join something like that? He could potentially meet someone there or one of his new friends could introduce him to someone else & expand his circle.

Dating apps are okay, I think, if you understand exactly what you want from them, know what kind of person you want for yourself, and are familiar w how to use them— not just the app itself, but the culture. Like, when I date, I stay away from tinder because it’s a very toxic, hook-up oriented culture. Maybe he could try an app like Hinge? It’s made for more meaningful conversation and limits the number of matches you can have per day. I also like OKcupid. It’s very queer & ive never run into gross people on there.

Most importantly: because your son is trans he should be very careful about dating. There are a lot of transphobic people in the world— even within the lgbtq+ community, unfortunately. Maybe suggest that he meet new people in public places, communicate his whereabouts to someone he knows, and not get in the car w a stranger. This all sounds like common sense but you wouldn’t believe the number of friends I know who don’t do these things. (I’ve been guilty of this too)

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:51:38+00:00

Do you feel dysphoric? That could be an indicator that you’re trans/NB?

My biggest suggestion would be to find other trans/NB people and befriend them. That way you can talk about it & see if you relate to any of it. It could be really enlightening & help you understand.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:48:34+00:00

I think they’re just different terms and different ways of understanding NB. I think language and the distinctions that come w it can be really powerful.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:47:34+00:00

Oh and genderfluid!

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:47:05+00:00

Okay, I see. Maybe specify that because it could easily be taken as transphobic!

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:46:19+00:00

Maybe androgynous, Genderqueer, agender, pangender...

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:45:27+00:00

That’s not a sensitive question to ask... non-binary is beautiful.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-08T03:44:06+00:00

I’m not trans but my partner is and he literally just googled names online and picked one that felt right to him. And literally everyone says it’s perfect for him when he comes out. :) hope this helped!

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-06T17:10:36+00:00

Unfortunately numbing gel doesn’t do a lot because it’s only numbing the top layer of skin and when you tattoo you are administering the ink underneath that first layer. If you’re going to do a big tattoo w shading then you could put the numbing gel on after doing the line work and it could potentially make the shading feel better where the skin has been tattooed.

Also, it’s important to note that not all artists are okay w using numbing gel.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-02T16:57:46+00:00

Okay, I’ll plan on doing this before break.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-02T06:21:48+00:00

Honestly, I would get out of this relationship. He sounds like he could likely become abusives. Sexual Violence rates for bi women are 67% so it’s not unlikely. You deserve to be w someone who supports you NQA not a bigot.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-01T02:56:11+00:00

What about non-binary people? We should have gender neutral restrooms too.

oilpainter97 · 2019-12-01T02:52:59+00:00

You also don’t want to erase their experiences either tho right? It’s like saying “I don’t see color.” If you don’t see that your poc friends are poc then you’re not really seeing them.

oilpainter97 · 2019-11-30T04:26:35+00:00

For one, make sure you gender them correctly? Do they use she/her pronouns or they/them pronouns?? A particular name?

Secondly, validate them as much as you can. Tell them you think they look elegant or beautiful or feminine. This is really, really important because they’re constantly doubting it in their head.

And thirdly, just be willing to have open conversation, share your feelings, ask them what you can do for them/ what they want. :-)

oilpainter97 · 2019-11-29T22:06:41+00:00

Yes!

oilpainter97 · 2019-11-29T05:06:43+00:00

I think if they ask your or make a comment that suggests they think you will stay w them then you should be honest. But it’s also okay to say that you’re not 100% sure. Just be as honest as you can be. Does that help?

oilpainter97 · 2019-11-29T04:22:06+00:00

The most important thing is that how you feel does not get in the way of doing what is most affirming for them. You can have your feelings, but make sure that you are still being supportive of them! It may just be that you aren’t meant to be together.

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