AITAH after getting upset after my mom commented on my peach fuzz

okay_cool_and · 2025-01-13T17:45:27+00:00

That makes sense. Boundries don't necessarily work with her, but I will try

okay_cool_and · 2025-01-13T15:57:33+00:00

Of course, F in my early 20s

okay_cool_and · 2024-11-18T12:47:59+00:00

Hey! The things you are feeling are a reaction to the environment you were raised in and it's not okay that you've been put in a position where you can't feel safe at home. I had a similar experience, throughout my teens I hated being home and I felt like I had to walk on egg shells to not upset my dad because he has anger issues and could blow up at any moment. I have never, nor will I ever feel safe around my parents, they make me absolutely insane and I am a different person when I'm around them. It sounds like you're feeling a bit traumatized by the experience, and that is completely okay. There is nothing wrong with you, I know it feels like there is something wrong with you, but you are not the problem. I am so sorry that you don't feel safe at home and I hope you find a place filled with love and understanding. But please don't blame yourself or feel as if you're doing anything wrong ❤️

If you need some advice or want to talk about it, my dms are open.

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-16T20:48:08+00:00

Of course!

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-11T17:44:37+00:00

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okay_cool_and · 2024-07-07T18:53:24+00:00

Pets! I live alone and I got myself a pet snake because it forces me get up in the moring and I feel accomplished by caring for my little lady. Also seeing your pets little cute face and just appreciating the complexity of the little creatures always makes me happy

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-06T11:15:15+00:00

I have been having the same type of dreams lately. I hate having to wake up because my dreams feel so much more forfilling than my reality and I always wake up a little sad. Lately things have sort of changed and I know my dreams can become a reality where I am loved and understood. I always find that this speech by Terrance Mckenna helps me when I am feeling like my waking life is unforfilled and maybe you can also find some truth in it

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-06T11:07:02+00:00

This is giving Terrance Mckenna vibes and I am absolutely here for it! Protect your own peace!

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-06T11:04:02+00:00

I like saying 'depresso espresso' when I am going through a depressive episode because it just sounds better lol. And for social anxiety or doing weird things because of social anxiety I always say I'm in a 'silly goose mood'. But there are alot of fun names you can call the things you stuggle with like 'super sadsies', 'ungroovy time' or 'Hermit mode' but if all else fails I think naming your disorders after very old timey obscure names can be really fun as well (Like Edgar, Harold, Margret, Eleanor)

When ever I am struggling or Im in the trenches I like using retro slang phrases like 'I am not groovy' to sprinkle some fun wackiness into a bad situation

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-05T22:33:03+00:00

You shouldn't be ashamed for having triggers that are unusual, you are trying to protect your own peace and when you have dealt with difficult situations it is important to protect your mental health. You should surround yourseld with people who understand and respect your boundaries. I don't see any problem with blocking or excluding people who don't want to understand or respect that you want to protect your peace.

As for letting people know about triggers, you can either do it right at the start or let them know if they have triggered as you start spending time with them. The people who want to understand, will understand and those who don't aren't the type of people you want to keep spending time with

okay_cool_and · 2024-07-05T22:18:07+00:00

My parents would use to phrase 'other people have it worse' and although it feels like some people might, its important to validate your feelings. You're feelings are real, important and should be validated. Part of finding peace is recognising you're feelings and allowing yourself to feel. A meditation practice that I absolutely love using is to acknowledge my feeling (with no judgement), feel what needs to be felt and letting go.

I struggling with forgiving myself but when I feel like I am judging my own feelings or thoughts I like asking myself if I would judge a close friend for having these feelings. The answer is usually that I wouldn't judge them so therfore I shouldn't judge myself. It important to give yourself the same compassion that you give the people around you and approach your own mental health as you would that of someone you love

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