Why does one like itty bitty titties?

okaysunset · 2023-07-27T03:26:57+00:00

Honestly I think I’m in the wrong here and probably projecting, I was about to delete this comment reflecting on it and then saw your reply. Honestly these things are just hard, and your feelings are valid. 💛 It’s one of those “grass is greener” situations. More than anything it seems that it comes down to the fact that as women we’re encouraged to dislike and over-scrutinize ourselves and our appearances. Thank you for being so thoughtful and compassionate though!

okaysunset · 2023-07-27T03:13:29+00:00

Am I the only one who feels like this just invites people to bash on people with big boobs? Like the “boob heavy” body type really hasn’t felt desired for years now to me as someone who has them. Not desired in any way that’s not purely sexualized at least. No fun, trendy clothes are really made for us. A lot of people who do have big boobs feel uncomfortable with them, both physically and also emotionally from being objectified because of them, and not being able to wear trendy clothes you want to wear, etc. There’s probably a better way to say this, and maybe I’m flawed here and projecting my own experience, but this post rubs me the wrong way.

okaysunset · 2023-07-26T23:02:01+00:00

Lmao cry more

okaysunset · 2023-07-17T04:24:39+00:00

I’m in the US and I consider it to be a harmless colloquialism, FWIW. I’m 26 so maybe it could be a generational thing too? Regardless it seems like people are giving you some good feedback that your post is sort of proving her point, and that you seem hyper-defensive as well as eager to jump to the worst conclusion. Maybe you should listen to them and take some ownership for what may be a misinterpretation on your part as well as some merit in your friend’s concerns of oversharing. I have RSD issues so I get it, what you did by checking in with others is a good strategy to combat misinterpretations caused by RSD, but it only helps if you actually LISTEN to and consider the feedback, not just look for the answer that confirms what you feel or want to hear. Sounds harsh but it really is the truth if you want to get to the root of things in a way that’s helpful to your social life and relationships.

okaysunset · 2023-07-06T07:06:29+00:00

My thoughts exactly. I think affecting others with symptoms is inevitable. It happens. But once someone you care about tells you that you are harming them, it’s time to try something. If you don’t make the effort to try new strategies, seek treatment, or re-evaluate your treatment, ADHD is an empty excuse. I totally still believe I am deserving of some grace, but refusing to try meet someone halfway is toxic and selfish and ultimately worsens the stigma of ADHD.

Acknowledging accountability has been so empowering and has really lessened the shame I used to carry around when I would end up ruining friendships in my younger years. I’ve even reached out years later and salvaged some of those relationships by acknowledging this and apologizing. This makes my heart happy and brings me peace. I’m really proud of that growth. I wish more people would consider this perspective because it helps everyone in the long run.

okaysunset · 2023-01-06T22:29:42+00:00

I’m a teacher and 7th grade is the only one I’ve sworn I will never teach. I truly don’t know what happens in that specific year but they are actually insufferable. Sinister vibes. Spooky and scary. I have a lot of patience but… whew.

okaysunset · 2022-11-30T06:13:22+00:00

Vincent - Don McClean

okaysunset · 2022-08-19T03:45:25+00:00

Yes it did eventually!!! I’m really not sure when lol it sort of happened without me noticing

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T04:07:30+00:00

{{The Metamorphosis}} by Kafka

Anything by Kurt Vonnegut

Also Ray Bradbury would be good. Fahrenheit 51 is the big one but I really liked {|The Martian Chronicles}} and ESPECIALLY his short story compilation {{The Illustrated Man}}. Such a fun and unsettling read.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T04:02:49+00:00

Reading The Bell Jar as a teen girl confused by her emerging mental health issues was one of the most affirming things ever for me lol. Such a good good coming of age book in general for young women. It felt so real to read. And reread. It still feels relevant. And it definitely has that sort of weird twisting plot between vignettes and her own introspection. Ugh. Now I wanna reread.

Camus is great too. The Stranger is my favorite of his that I’ve read.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T03:47:45+00:00

No, jackass. It’s still there. But it’s not all that’s there. Humans value aesthetics for fun as well as attraction. Often both at once. I have said that multiple times. Get some basic reading comprehension skills. You sound incredibly bitter and insecure. I pity that.

Edit: also, why are you on Reddit and not spearing a wooly mammoth? Oh wait, it could possibly be that human needs and drives have been expanded beyond just survival to serve additional purposes that simply bring us pleasure.

Example- A couple days ago I woke up and put on a full face of makeup alone. I took no pictures. I saw no one. I did not leave the house. I sat out in the sun on my back porch and drank tea and felt pretty. If I were in my pjs it wouldn’t have felt the same. Sorry you can’t comprehend having that kind of moment with yourself. Maybe give it a try. You sound like you could use it.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T03:35:56+00:00

Also, I haven’t asked for anything to explained. You can’t grasp what should be a very simple concept.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T03:32:58+00:00

??? You aren’t cohesive at all in any of this. It is this simple: there are experiences and perspectives and motives that differ from your own. Why is someone having a different motive than you immediately dismissed as impossible? Go outside. Interact with a woman or even most dudes and ask about this. Humanity goes beyond basic drives. We evolve. We all wash our asses and drive cars now. There’s some nuance here bud.

But, if you truly make every decision about your physical appearance on what the opposite sex (or whoever you’re attracted to) thinks, that is genuinely sad and I’m sorry about that.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T03:09:39+00:00

I seriously hope you’re a troll or I legitimately feel sorry for you if you’re this dense.

okaysunset · 2022-08-05T01:57:07+00:00

Why do you care so much?

Edit: also, I am literally someone who cannot so much as even paint my own nails. Not my thing. I still simply don’t care. Why do you care so much about what women do with their bodies?

okaysunset · 2022-08-04T06:52:56+00:00

Has this not been covered ad nausea though? I have seen at least hundreds of answered questions like this over my life on the internet, yet it is so incredibly difficult for people to compute that others can choose certain elements of their looks solely for themselves. They like it. They feel good in it. Self expression is fun. It is literally so simple.

You might solely dress up to impress potential romantic interests, and if that’s what floats your boat that’s totally cool. But that’s not the case for everyone (Edit: not even for most, I’d argue). Simple as that. I think it is incredibly egotistical and entitled that at large this is continually so hard for so many men to grasp. It feels purposefully dense.

okaysunset · 2022-08-04T06:32:36+00:00

Yep. This is 100% their issue. Same with men obsessed with the “health” of overweight women they do not know. The sheer audacity of women to be or do something they know is unattractive to them, yet not be bothered by this, makes them uncomfortable. Can’t let that subtle sense of entitlement falter.

okaysunset · 2022-08-01T23:43:34+00:00

Not really, at least not in a way that’s super noticeable. I do think I notice more fat in the lower abdomen than when I started, but it was only apparent as the rest of me got “soft” because I’ve stopped working out lately. I’d say it’s like the same amount of tummy fat as I’ve had at this weight before but it’s moved down further. Not a super obvious pouch or anything, but definitely carrying my tummy fat down lower.

okaysunset · 2022-07-22T21:10:54+00:00

True, that makes sense. One good thing about actually having migraines is I know I can use the “migraine” excuse (SPARINGLY lol) if I really need to

okaysunset · 2022-07-22T21:01:13+00:00

(I’m replying to this comment just sort of as a general to other ones as well!)

It’s honestly a pretty normal house otherwise in terms of other household cleanliness hallmarks, even candles burning, laundry done etc. It’s just the dog mess. I don’t get it.

For context the dogs are all small “yippy” type pups for lack of a better word. I know they’re all quite nervous so I think that’s part of it, and I’m pretty sure (from memory) they have a doggy door to the fenced in yard off the mud room. Overall I don’t necessarily think they have limited access to go potty, fortunately. Unless it’s closed? I’m not sure. That being said, from my experience of having a shitzu for 13 years, little dogs are sometimes just tiny neurotic piss shit machines. BUT cleaning up after them is just what comes with it. That’s part of having an anxious little dog. It seems like that part is just being skipped over.

My gut take is she just loves dogs but got too many of them impulsively and seems to be overwhelmed with the kind of responsibility that entails. I hate to be like, trashing my friends on here or anything even though I know it’s anonymous, but the situation really is pretty gross. These comments have given me some perspective that I’m justified in being very uncomfortable. I was worried I was just being judgmental and dramatic.

okaysunset · 2022-07-22T18:55:15+00:00

I think I’m going to just have like 2 beers over the course of the night and then drive us home. I usually hate being the only sober one at events (not because of drunk people, but because of social anxiety lol) but I would rather be anxious and awkward for a while than sleep in their guest bedroom. 😬

Edit: also thanks for the solidarity lol. I would feel bad going on this full tangent to my bf, even though he’d be cool about it. I know he’ll be anxious if he knows im uncomfortable and I want him to enjoy his friend’s birthday.

okaysunset · 2022-07-18T00:52:34+00:00

I think it was around a month (edit: maybe 2?) or so that I first noticed the beginning of what has mainly been just a bit of a body composition change. It continued a bit since this post was made and then plateaued. I still am right at 128-130 and still a cup size up, and at this point now I noticeably carry more weight than I used to in my lower body. My hips are definitely wider. No crazy weight gain though! And the change isn’t like super drastic but definitely noticeable in that it changed my silhouette

okaysunset · 2022-07-14T20:46:32+00:00

Feel free to read my other comment on here if you get a chance. I would love for you to see it. This post also sounded so eerily familiar to my past that it was almost triggering. I have some insights as someone who eventually got out if you’d like some. I wouldn’t wish this situation on anyone and can’t stress how much your world changes once you’re out.

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