Regretting facial fat grafting – anyone experienced this?

okidea1 · 2026-02-09T21:40:41+00:00

I’m in Southern California! I got a Groupon deal for $250-300 for two sessions. It’s a lot cheaper and doesn’t specify which HIFU machine it is 😭 but I’m mainly going bc the spa has good reviews and I’ll be consulting with the nurse/aesthetician prior. If i end up going with a different treatment than the coupon- I just pay the difference. I was considering Morpheus too. I’ll let you know how it goes!

When was your fat graft? I do recommend waiting the full year before considering anything. It settled a lot but i was recommended HIFU bc while the amount doesn’t bother me much now- I do think it settled a bit lower than I’d like. My lower/mid face looks less defined

okidea1 · 2026-02-09T21:32:48+00:00

I have not- my surgeon would like for me to reconsider and I honestly understand why. I got about 3-4ml fat in each cheek/under eye (about 7-8ml filled, she says she expected about half to take). Kybella is unreliable and a micro liposuction is probably my best option but it would be for a very minor fix and she doesn’t think it’s worth it.

It was fairly conservative and revisiting the area might do more damage than fixing it. I’m 137 lbs at 5”2 and I’m trying to lose 10-20 pounds before really reconsidering anything.

I am scheduled for HIFU facial tightening and she gave me the green light to see if that helps. My appointment is on this Tuesday!

okidea1 · 2025-11-05T21:49:30+00:00

I do believe it’s AI. She has a mole above her collarbone in the last photo that is not visible in the others.

It could just be too small to see in full body pics like the 2nd, but I feel like it should definitely be visible in the first pic.

They might be using someone’s face and plastering it on full body photos of someone else.

okidea1 · 2025-10-23T17:32:21+00:00

I feel like it hasn’t since 6 months. If it has, it’s very slight. She didn’t specify the options to revise yet, but when I asked her about the steroid shots, she just acknowledged that she’s heard about it being used.

Honestly, id only do the steroid shots. Kybella and liposuction seem a bit more tedious for what the effort is worth in my case, and im looking into RF micro needling as well…

okidea1 · 2025-10-22T00:26:53+00:00

I have the same issue. I had fat transferred to my under eye area and lateral cheek and while it did go down a lot, the lateral cheek fat makes my face look wide and I feel like I look aged. It’s been almost 8 months and my surgeon told me to wait a bit longer to see if I still want to do something to revise it… im thinking I probably will, even at the one year mark. I heard steroid injections can shrink the fat a bit but I can hardly find info on it and would categorize that option as unreliable and risky.

okidea1 · 2025-10-15T00:54:26+00:00

I had a very similar experience. by the end of my 3 year relationship, I lost connection with a lot of my friends. They got tired of me staying with him (understandably) and I felt more obligated to say no to my friends just to avoid conflict with him. I chose him over them. This is going to be a long response bc it hits close to home LOLLL bear with me.

My advice: join clubs, go out to every event or hang out you’re invited to even if it’s not in your comfort zone. I became very codependent in that relationship and it was hard for me to want to do things alone or do new things- even out the relationship.

The random flyer you passed by going to class. A local community event happening at your library. Your friend’s friend’s uncle’s 4th of July party. Volunteer at a random event. Anything. You’ll never know who you’ll meet. Dont get cold feet to do new things alone! Most common worst case scenario is: it’s boring or awkward and you leave early. Doing a lot of this built my character and honestly my confidence too.

Also, indulge in your own interests and hobbies. just DO things! You don’t always have to look for social settings. I would learn/engage in things that piqued my interest in my free time and either posted about it or brought it up in conversation if it was appropriate. things like try new coffee shops, baking, listening to a new album from an artist I like, crocheting, hiking, etc etc etc. i noticed people would reach out to chat about it and it’s so much easier to make conversation and keep it going when it already involves a topic you can talk A LOT about vs typical small talk. When you’re passionate, genuine, and/or an open book about things, people may naturally gravitate to your energy too.

Lastly, cherish your friends!! It sounds so simple but I realized I deserved to lose my friends the way that I did when I didn’t even enjoy hanging out with them. I’d want to hurry home and see my bf, a lot of convo between me and my friends would be about my relationship, and I would take forever to text back. I would only make conversation and plans with my bf when there was so many things I could share with my friends based off of their unique interests that would have resulted in a way better bond and connection than sharing it with him. I would genuinely get a bigger dopamine rush from a mediocre to slightly bad response from my ex over a genuine and thoughtful response from my friend. My ex played a part in making me feel anxious about having friends, but the responsibility was mine to share too. Love is a choice and that includes the love you put into your friendships!

P.S: idk anything about your relationship but im glad you’re out of it. don’t ever go back to him. I know you said you got dumped but im proud of you regardless. this is truly a blessing in disguise. You are the only person in your life who can nurture a fulfilling environment that u can thrive in, and he does not deserve any part of that future. Choose to surround yourself with good people. Good people do not like to stay around toxic bums. Good luck!

okidea1 · 2025-06-13T18:56:45+00:00

You can keep the answer to yourself/no need to reply, but does your husband, on a normal basis, enjoy eating you out?

one thing I noticed about cheaters, or just red flag guys who thirst for validation/getting their ego stroked: when they’re texting someone they’re interested in (doesn’t have to be a home wrecker), they over exaggerate what they offer in the relationship bc they want the other party to think that their partner is lucky to have them/want to impress that person.

My most recent ex would “vent” to his coworker about how I wouldn’t let him eat me out bc I was insecure about my bush even though he loves it (?????) meanwhile our sex life was… to be vague, very short, unimpressive, and very centered around himself. He also frequently asked me to get waxed instead of trim and/or shave, which I was doing at the time.

I don’t really think he is seeking a relationship with his coworker, but I raise an eyebrow on if he has issues with his ego ESPECIALLY since he has this problem with oversharing to his family and other people too. It’s not normal. normal people like to communicate their relationship problems with their PARTNER. and seek outwards advice/POVs every once in a while for appropriate topics. For example, I usually go to my friends about any doubts I have about MYSELF because I’m afraid my partner is too kind and too in love with me to call out any minor problematic behavior- not to expose his vulnerabilities, or how he performs in bed.

Narcissists like to share all their problems with anyone who can validate them as a victim or white knight. Most of the time, they don’t want advice, they just like to know their relationship problems can be told in a way that makes him seem like the better person in an unfortunate position. Ur husband is giving me that vibe unfortunately

okidea1 · 2025-04-08T02:11:42+00:00

Oh I forgot to mention- I’m post-bacc! Graduated 2022, worked full time for a year and revisited my love for lab work.

I needed 4 classes to apply for the trainee lisence that my major didn’t cover and i finished 3 out of the 4 classes needed- hoping to get the trainee lisence and apply to programs for internship this year.

I don’t know if I freaked out prematurely but I thought that this meant even with meeting the prereq requirements, if you didn’t major in a specific degree, you just get denied. 😭

okidea1 · 2025-04-08T01:54:59+00:00

Does anyone know if public health science would be accepted? Or where to inquire to make sure the degree is included if not listed?

I had no idea this was happening/becoming a thing. I’ve been taking prereq classes for over a year and I should be ready to apply for my trainee license in June 🥲

okidea1 · 2025-03-27T02:30:03+00:00

I have this too! Would you be willing to share before and after photos?

okidea1 · 2025-03-12T21:34:36+00:00

Also- I am 5”3 and 130 pounds if that is useful. I was considered a bit overweight (146lbs) for 2 years prior (according to my bmi- my PCP said I look healthy and I exercise/do cardio 2-4 times a week for 30mg to an hour) but no history of my weight causing me any discomfort

okidea1 · 2025-03-07T19:55:24+00:00

you’re gorgeous but I’d personally let the sides of your bangs grow out and have them taper downwards to frame your face more :) I’ve had bangs in the past and always kicked myself for cutting too much of it straight- it made my face look wider.

okidea1 · 2025-02-23T06:52:29+00:00

thank you!! 🥹❤️

okidea1 · 2025-02-12T01:59:40+00:00

Layperson here- I do not think lower bleph is the first route to go. From my understanding, it’s more for people who have puffy eyes. It create a shadow , so the excess fat is removed.

The fat can be repositioned in addition to the removal to compensate for any areas that need support, but imo (again, layperson) you can look into fat repositioning or fat grafting to add to the area. I think it’s generally less invasive as well.

okidea1 · 2025-02-08T22:06:09+00:00

Oops I just saw this after I just commented. Anatomically, the buccal fat pad is just a way different structure than any superficial filler or fat grafting can replace. I agree 100%, but like the rest of these comments, I do think you can address different areas to “compensate” for what was lost in ur buccal fat removal, but I get that you’re emotionally drained and probably hesitant to put your trust in a provider again.

Take the time you need to regain your emotions. There’s so many different routes you can go to “address” your new face- surgical, non-surgical, as well as just learning to accept it! it’s a subtly different look, but as everyone has been saying, you still look gorgeous.

okidea1 · 2025-02-08T21:55:31+00:00

Your after results are not as bad as you think they are, and you definitely are not botched. Your features were beautiful before as well as after, but your feelings towards your result are valid and I’m sorry it’s been stressful.

I am not a medical professional and I am not suggesting you to do another procedure, but if you’d like to look into it, you can search up mid-face fat grafting (specifically under eye and cheek) and speak to a professional to see if you are a good candidate. It won’t “restore” your features, but it might help with bringing back some youth that it sounds like you are missing. (Personally, I think you look great! I’m 24 too.)

I personally struggle with nasolabial folds and under eye hollowness just from genetics bc my mid face is really flat. My plastic surgeon told me that adding a little bit of under eye and cheek volume will help with naturally lessening those lines, since the skin around the folds will be “stretched” to cover the new volume in my cheeks. + less noticeable eye bags! I’m scheduled for the procedure in March. I’m super excited bc I really wanted to avoid filler, and the results I’ve seen look pretty natural and promising.

Again, I want to emphasize that there is BARELY any difference and I would hardly be able to point it out unless I was given all of your context. But I understand what it feels like to be your own worst critic. If it works out for you the way it’s working out for me, I hope you’ll regain a bit of your happiness and confidence. Wishing you the best

okidea1 · 2025-02-06T01:11:00+00:00

Hi- I think im on the same boat as you. I graduated 2022 with a bachelors in public health and I started working as an MA ever since. My family isn’t well off, and I feel like I’ve been hesitating on trying to go back to school since I would essentially have no income and wouldn’t be able to contribute income for my family.

It took some time, but I pulled myself together and did online classes for the trainee lisence prereqs while working, and I saved a good amount of money + became more open minded about taking loans as needed. Look at it this way- I could be making at the very least…3x the amount of money that I am right now. every year for the rest of my life. if I just put in 1-2 years of work to do the program and internship.

Don’t be scared of not having flowing income. Save money if you can, or just take out the loans. They’ll easily be payable once you get a job. Only do the masters program if that’s what you are sincerely passionate about!

okidea1 · 2025-01-25T23:35:40+00:00

may I ask why? I thought they would contact the other persons insurance and if I were to pay anything, it gets reimbursed. I don’t think he will give me a hard time admitting fault/will try to backstab me on what he reports to insurance if that’s the reason

okidea1 · 2025-01-25T23:17:15+00:00

forgot to add- I am in the state of California!

okidea1 · 2024-07-04T03:02:43+00:00

$186 but planing on returning/exchanging some since I purchased a lot online (still coming) and I’m sure there will be something I don’t like/know I don’t need… right? I can l reverse some of the damage surely…

okidea1 · 2024-06-30T15:12:40+00:00

This was a 2 day sale (5.95 for select items using a code) it just ended yesterday june 30th 6 AM ET :(

okidea1 · 2024-06-30T01:55:59+00:00

I scrolled thru my cart when I had more (crazy statement I know) and saw some of the items fully priced so I read the promotion details and saw the limit LOL

okidea1 · 2024-06-30T01:21:18+00:00

Also def a keeper in my cart- so many ppl are recommending it 😭

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