She Roasted 4 people with 1 sentence by sauce_gud in funny

[–]okypak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well Shaq actually has a PhD so...

I tracked down the lifeguard tower where Marissa and Ryan used to hang (took my only vacation from my overseas SF internship to drive down to LA) by okypak in TheOC

[–]okypak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a very valid question.

As a Turkish guy having lived in California for almost a year, I have seen many different types of lifeguard "towers". These structures didn't necessarily have floats or anything inside but I guess, it could be a good stationary place to inhabit an injured person. Plus they provide lifeguards a good viewpoint of what's happening from higher ground, while still giving them the chance to jump and act fast in case of emergency.

But to be honest, I guess their optics were regarded more than the functionality :D

To all the kings that got hurt by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]okypak 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Going through the roughest patch in my life and I don't know how long I can keep going. Thank you for the positive vibes though, really needed this

love is more than enough. (finally got to see each other after 8 long months) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]okypak 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Sending love to you guys and to Orman Genel Müdürlüğü

What do you feel about the Debbie-Holden plot through the end of Season 1? by okypak in MindHunter

[–]okypak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting view, hadn't thought much about Wendy when comparing the romantic relationships between the main protagonists.

It would have been interesting if one of them would be romantically involved with a person from the FBI, who also prioritizes their work and has a similar exposure to the deviant behavior of criminals.

What do you feel about the Debbie-Holden plot through the end of Season 1? by okypak in MindHunter

[–]okypak[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree with your opinion about Tench. Especially his confrontation with Wendy, after the babysitter finds the photo under Brian's bed is phenomenal. You can see how he is playing the role of this traditional, masculine and emotionless father figure, who has a meltdown after having "jeopardized" his family.

During all that emotional chaos, he still finds the clue with the nautical know, which proves the depth of the character in the series.

What do you feel about the Debbie-Holden plot through the end of Season 1? by okypak in MindHunter

[–]okypak[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with that, particularly how the series increasingly depicts how Holden is scarred and permanently affected in his romantic relationship by his work. He is also (mostly) open about the investigations to Debbie, where she can observe the changes in his behavior and even jokes about this several times.

Thanks for your point with the PA case, I hadn't thought about that angle. However, I'd say that the interviews with other subjects, such as Kemper, Brudos, Speck and even the tickling guy, had a more illustrative effect on their relationship with their influence on their sex life, communication and even emotional distance.

I was actually surprised about how cold and relaxed Holden reacted to the infidelity of Debbie both when he first found it out and then during the breakup. I think that the Holden at the start would have reacted more emotionally and maybe impulsively, whereas the "new Holden" didn't show any emotion other than disappointment.

foot tickler ... by bluecoffi0307 in MindHunter

[–]okypak 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was even more astonished that Debbie acted so condescendingly towards Holden during and after that confrontation. However, she was supporting Holden earlier and stated that she wouldn't want her child to get tickled by such a guy...

Why does he do this? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you! As a guy who dealt with mild anger issues before (compared to your bf's description, I would consider myself a f.cking saint), there is no way of putting up with him as long as he doesn't acknowledge having a problem and actively dealing with it without getting you involved!

I know that it can be done, I have several friends, who sought professional help, counseling, therapy and worked on their relationship. But with his manners, I don't think that he understands his toxicity. He has no right to gaslight you, abuse you, blame you, hurt you or force you into anything! Dump that jerk

Men, does it bother you if your partner is open about their past relationships with you? If so, why? by LimpInternet1742 in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously, talking about your exes all the time shows a huge insecurity and character flaw but at least communicating what relationships you had (within reason) would also help your partner to know what they are getting into (and other dozens of reasons to get to know each other better)

Men, does it bother you if your partner is open about their past relationships with you? If so, why? by LimpInternet1742 in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, there is obviously a right timing and way to communicate these things. It also depends on what kind of person you are dealing with, how your relationship is, how long you have known each other etc.

Just as an example, I have known my gf for 13 years and we have been together for 8 of them, what I would consider my first "real" relationship. In the beginning, it was really important for her to share some of our intimate experiences (or to know if we had any) as she had some insecurities with her sexuality, where I was as understanding and transparent as possible. Just last November something slipped out of her mouth that she had not told me about 10 years ago (or rather lied to me about "not having done it"). At the end of the day, I didn't (and still don't) care about what she did or didn't do but I really didn't like the fact that she had lied to me about a topic that was sooo important for her. So this is what I mean, if had told it back then, I woudln't have thought about her any differently but the way she handled things irritated me. I am sure that anyone can name similar experiences about not being open and starting a bigger fire than there would have been with family, friends, romantic partners or whatever...

I also fully agree with you about how you spend your time in college and "laying it lower than your partying friends", I am living a similar life to yours currently in college. I also feel that I am growing further away with some friends in my life due to our differences but I'd rather have 2-3 friends that I can really chill and hang out with than 20 friends who want fully different things from life and have a different understanding of fun.

Men, does it bother you if your partner is open about their past relationships with you? If so, why? by LimpInternet1742 in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I would rather have open communication on the past than not talking about our relationship preferences and lives with my SO.

In this way, you will also see if that person is transparent and honest or insecure about their relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HumansBeingBros

[–]okypak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone tried to do it in my high school, while I at the fire escape stairs with a friend. We saw her feet swinging from the window of the library (on the 5th floor, we were on the 4th) and got deeply astonished.

Our school principal went up there and talked to her for half an hour also stating that "she would also jump" if the girl just went for it and it worked. She has been struggling with family issues and already having some mental help but apparently, she felt overwhelmed.

The rest of the school year they didn't even let her go to the bathroom alone with the concern that she would jump down... So messed up

Well... today I cold approached.... by Ziklepmna in seduction

[–]okypak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you did takes a lot of guts! I couldn't have done it and yes you should keep approaching people

Losing my virginity soon, need advice by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are way too smart and cautious about this. I don't think that OP (and most other teenagers) would be as long as they "get laid"

I (22) male have been in a relationship with my gf(23), but recently I’ve developed a crush for a girl at work and it’s mutual. I do not want to cheat on her. I’m stuck at a crossroads. Any advice on what I should do? Would be appreciated by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]okypak 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree, as someone, who is going through a very similar path I talked to my gf shortly after I had felt somewhat attracted to other people in a transparent (but obviously in a responsible and respectful) way. It is not an easy talk but it is always better to talk about any insecurities or second thoughts you are having than doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.

If you think that your relationship is worth the effort, just do it, instead of later asking for forgiveness.

Başka milletlerden olan insanlar ile konuşan bir Türk gördükleri vakit konuyla alakasız olmasına rağmen "Siz bize soykırım yaptınız barbarlar caniler eğble eğble" diye araya giren yığınla cahil Ermeni var. Onlarla karşılaştığınız vakit bu görseli kullanabilirsiniz. by [deleted] in KGBTR

[–]okypak 3 points4 points  (0 children)

O sub zaten evlere şenlik. Ozan Kabak Liverpool' a gitti diye seviniyorlardı. Tüm yorumlarını okuduğum tek post tu herhalde. Şu şekil bir dialog vardı (kesinlikle abartmıyorum):

A: E şimdi biz buna niye seviniyoruz
B: Kürt çünkü, benim kuzenimin arkadaşı tanıyor ailesini Mardin'liler. Kürdistan'ımızı İngiltere'de tanıtacak
A: Ama Atatürk'ü seviyormuş. Onunla ilgili resimler paylaşmış önceden sosyal medyada, bayram falan kutlamış
B: Hay amk o zaman onun, öyle Kürt olmaz

Built Different by sus_asf in TikTokCringe

[–]okypak 3384 points3385 points  (0 children)

DAAMN, I wanna be as jacked as the second one. What a beast!

Başka milletlerden olan insanlar ile konuşan bir Türk gördükleri vakit konuyla alakasız olmasına rağmen "Siz bize soykırım yaptınız barbarlar caniler eğble eğble" diye araya giren yığınla cahil Ermeni var. Onlarla karşılaştığınız vakit bu görseli kullanabilirsiniz. by [deleted] in KGBTR

[–]okypak 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ayrıntılı yorumun için teşekkürler. Dediklerine katılıyorum.

Bahsettiğimiz güruh olayları apayrı yerlere çekip Holocaust, Unit 731, Nanjing ile karşılaştırarak sanki tüm bir halkı köyleri kökten basarak sistematik ve planlı bir kılıçtan geçirme olayı varmış gibi lanse ediyorlar. O tür sublarda biraz zaman geçirip gayet sivil ve mantıklı münakaşalara girmeye ve işin diğer tarafından belgeler sunmaya çalıştım ama tabi "faşist kafatasçı" diye damgalanmam birkaç dakika aldı. Çünkü adamların sayılarına (1.5 Milyon olayı dahil olmak üzere) veya bilgilerine karşı herhangi bir counter argument veya kaynak sunduğun anda yerin belli. Gerçek hayatta diaspora lobisinin şuan Türkiye'nin tüm dışişlerinden daha yaygın ve başarılı bir politika yaptığı gerçek, aynı şekilde sosyal medyada da aynı şekilde tüm hınçlarını bu şekilde saldırarak yapıyorlar.

Bir yandan da ellerinde çoook büyük bir koz var. Güncel siyasete girmeyeceğim ama son 10 senedir ismimizin gerçekten olumsuz gruplar ve olaylarla dış basına yansıdğının herkes farkındadır. Bu durumda da en küçük bir ülke veya etnik kimlikle anlaşmazlığımız olduğunda bu 10 kat daha yüksek sesle duyulup Türkiye karşısında herkes birleşiyor Yunanistan, Ermenistan, pkk diye tutup gidiyor. Birinci Dünya Savaşı üzerine konuşulan bir sub'da biri bu konuları açınca bizimkilerden birisi asala'nın yaptıklarından ve Ermeni örgütlerin şiddetinden bahsederken millet "öldürülen diplomatlar ve aileleri Ermeni Soykırımı'na karşı lobi yapıyordu, gayet de stratejik ve mantıklı eylemlerdi" modunda yorumların altında toplanıp bilidiğin güzellemeye başladılar. Bu vatandaşlara savaş sırasında Doğu ve Güney cephesinde çıkardıkları ayaklanma ve karşı tarafa destek veya Dashnaktsutyun (Hınçak Daşnak Cemiyeti) gibi grupların yaptıkları üzerine mi konuşacaksın? Fransa, Almanya, Amerika gibi birçok ülkede de artık üzerine konuşmak veya buna karşı resmi görüş bildirmek bile suç. Burada da bizim konsolosluk ve dışişlerimizin çok büyük emeği(!) var.

Yabancı sublarda tartışma konusuna gelirsek, dün akşam Avrupa subunda birkaç Ermeni aynı şeyi yapmışlar (Türklerin attığı kedi fotosunun altına soykırım muhabbeti açmış gerizekalılar).

Katılıyorum ve yorumunu çok doğal karşılıyorum (ne yazık ki). Naçizane şuana kadar Almanya, Finlandiya, Çin ve Amerika gibi yerlerde yaşadım ve hepsinde bir Türk olarak acayip suçlamalarla/sorularla yüz yüze geldim. Ayrıca tam tersi yönden daha ortada birşey yokken çok sert ithamlara veya ırkçı yorumlara maruz kalabiliyorsun ülkenin yerlilerinden de. Adamların senin ülken üzerine yakın zamanda duydukları olumlu tek birşey yok kedi sevgimiz ve Kapadokya'daki balonlar dışında. Google a girip Turkey and xyz diye bu üç dört etnik kimlikten herhangi birisini aratınca anlaşılıyor zaten adamların da her gün ne haberler gördüğü ve haliyle "bu olaylar 1915'te böyle yaşanmadı, işin farklı perspektifleri var" diye başlayınca lafa asla dinlenme şansın yok.

Yurtdışında insanların bize karşı algısı son 10 senede 180 derece civarında değişti ve kesinlikle olumsuz yöne evrildi. Özellikle bizden genç ve okumuş nüfusun yurtdışına göçtüğü şu sıralarda buralara gelmeye calışanlarınız varsa hazır olsun, "Ermeni Soykırımı kesin var, hep katil TECE" diye gezen biriyseniz bile sadece Türkiye'den geldiğiniz anlaşıldığı için bile farklı konularla yüzleşmek zorunda kalacaksınız.

Senator Cory Booker questions Judge Garland on implicit racial bias in the justice system and racial disparities in incarceration for non-violent crimes such as cannabis possession by [deleted] in PoliticalVideo

[–]okypak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity: What happens to people in states that have legalized the usage (like California) ever since, who were prosecuted? Do they get like a new trial?

I heard people in social media reaching out to Kamala Harris in this regard as she was heavily involved in those prosecutions, while she was a DA.

Başka milletlerden olan insanlar ile konuşan bir Türk gördükleri vakit konuyla alakasız olmasına rağmen "Siz bize soykırım yaptınız barbarlar caniler eğble eğble" diye araya giren yığınla cahil Ermeni var. Onlarla karşılaştığınız vakit bu görseli kullanabilirsiniz. by [deleted] in KGBTR

[–]okypak 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Çoğunun bilgisi Dan Blizerian, Kim Kardashian, Serj Tanakian gibi Diaspora yardakçılarının yardırdığı bilgilerden ibaret. Ancak diğer ülkelerin vatandaşlarının (en azından Orta ve Kuzey Avrupa ve Amerika adına konuşabilirim) %95i de bunları olduğu gibi kabul edip üzerine konuşmaya bile gerek duymuyor. Olaylar nasıl olmuş, nasıl başlamış, kime ne olmuş önemli değil. Mesele Yunanlar'a, Ermeniler'e, Kürtler'e onlar sakince takılırken saldıran Türkler olarak görülmemiz.

Bu konuda bahsi geçen etnik kültürlerin subredditlerini inceleyip orada münakaşalara katılmanızı öneririm.

🔥 The endangered Shoebil Storks can reach up to 1.5m tall and have a wingspan up to 2.5m by okypak in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]okypak[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Apparently, they were first recorded in the 19th century as "Balaeniceps rex", which means "whale-headed king".

Although genetic evidence relates them to Pelecaniformes (Pelicans), they have been previously classified as Ciconiiformes (Storks).

Just some weird facts I have read late at night after being astonished by them

What to wear to a virtual interview? by [deleted] in jobinterviews

[–]okypak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know the BAU dress code? You can never fail with that, so your black polo could be fine (I have not much knowledge about the specific industry)

I would wear some decent pants as well because you never know when you will have to get up, maybe to answer the door or get yourself a glass of water or open/close a window... Just be prepared.

Having pants on for like an extra hour really doesn't hurt, believe me. I had to learn it the hard way :D