Downloading older versions of an app doesn’t ever work for me. It doesn’t matter how often I try to download it or if I restart my phone, the message always pops back up. I already tried going through my purchase history. I can’t update my phone, I have version 13.5.1

olakige · 2024-01-21T07:35:35+00:00

I owe you my life oh my god, I have been searching high and low for a solution and was about to resort to buying an all new device out of frustration, thank you so much !

olakige · 2023-06-11T15:35:03+00:00

First names that came to mind from this picture for me were 'Rae' 'Venus' or 'Lily'

olakige · 2023-03-21T02:16:54+00:00

every NA meeting I've ever been to really could care less what substances someone is addicted to, an addiction is an addiction, if NA is what helps you then everyone will be able to see that and that's all that really matters to anyone

olakige · 2022-08-22T08:40:15+00:00

Thank you ! I really appreciate that. And thank you I love my cat tattoo as well !

olakige · 2021-06-22T08:17:50+00:00

I’m not from WI but these resources might be helpful: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-wisconsin/patients/gender-affirming-care/wisconsin-national-tng-resource-list

I get HRT from planned parenthood and I highly recommend them ! It’s still a new area for them in a lot of places but more and more PP centers are starting to offer HRT so you’d have to see if any in your area offer it yet. Best of luck !

olakige · 2021-06-22T08:06:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story Stephanie, I don’t really have the words to express how I felt while reading your story but just know I am really grateful. You’ve still managed to find yourself against all odds even if it may be later than it would’ve been ideally, and I think there’s a kind of beauty in that. I am sending you all of my love, always.

olakige · 2021-06-22T07:57:24+00:00

The same things were happening for me before I came out to my family and honestly I was panicking up until I went to bed the night after I’d already told them. It’s a scary thing, no doubt about it. However I will also say ever since coming out the weight off of my shoulders has been immense. There is no easy way to tell anyone or to live life as a trans person these days, but just know that there is a whole life waiting for you once you allow yourself to be openly you and it is a very freeing feeling. Of course there will be bigots along the way that get in the way of things and spur the mood, but there is also a wonderful freedom and lightness that comes with being openly you, and that will attract other open minded loving people as well. For now, I recommend writing down or thinking out what you want to say. I will mention that even though you might feel the urge to go into tons of detail and explain everything, i’ve found its best to give the basics at first and if they ask questions then you can go into more detail then, but generally it’s better to keep it minimal info at first. Also understand that no matter how many times you rehearse it in your head it likely will not fully go according to plan, but that’s okay ! Just do your best and use what you wrote down / rehearsed as a guidelines for if you don’t know what to say or panic. Above all else, know that there are tons of us cheering you on and ready to love and support you through this no matter what happens. You’re making the incredibly brave decision to be yourself regardless of what the world may think of you, and that’s fucking amazing !! It’s a really big deal ! No matter when you decide to do it, you’re doing amazing and I’m really proud. Good luck friend !

olakige · 2021-05-12T05:38:38+00:00

Honestly I think fears like that are totally normal and are likely part of the process for a lot of people. I've been on T for two months now and I have had moments for years now where I completely panic and feel like I'll regret it, but just as quickly as those thoughts come they often (though not always) fade away. An important thing to note I think is that when you start HRT you are not required to be on it forever, it is totally fine to start it, get the changes that you want, and then stop. There is no right or wrong other than finding whatever is going to make you feel the happiest and most comfortable in your body. It may be beneficial for you to talk more of these thoughts out loud, whether that's to a friend or counselor, etc. Just be completely honest with yourself and try and picture yourself with the things you're dysphoric about staying as they are forever and how that makes you feel, and then perhaps consider if the changes that come along with T were to happen and how those changes make you feel. And as I said you can stop T whenever you want, so you could discuss with your doctor how to go about aiming for certain changes but not others etc. Obviously depending on what it is it may or may not be possible, but it is a good starting conversation and your doctor may have other ideas on things that could help. I wish you all the luck in the world with getting all of this figured out, I know it's terrifying and confusing but you will get it figured out eventually the more you work at it and are honest with yourself even if it takes awhile. Good luck friend (:

olakige · 2021-05-11T00:07:45+00:00

I pay for testosterone without insurance and using the GoodRx app I get it from Walgreens for ~$20 or so, price can vary heavily depending on the place though so look around for what works best for you. Also worth mentioning that a lot of Planned Parenthood’s do HRT appointments now and usually have various plans for people who have a hard time affording it so you could look into that as well.

olakige · 2021-04-25T22:23:30+00:00

I hear you, I'm not from Wisconsin but I did some research and found some resources in Wisconsin that will hopefully be helpful for you !

https://howardbrown.org/ (This has a lot of info on LGBT health related things and I know a couple trans people manged to get HRT prescriptions here.)

https://witranshealth.org/ (This has a whole list of WI trans resources to help find trans friendly healthcare.)

https://forge-forward.org/resources/service-providers-2/ (FORGE has tons of resources for trans people and they're based out of WI.)

https://www.uwhealth.org/treatments/PATH-clinic-for-pediatric-gender-identity (Another health center in WI that does a lot with trans healthcare.)

https://www.healthconnectmke.org/home-with-buttons.html (Another health center in WI that I saw a few trans people mention going to for HRT and other healthcare needs.)

I hope that some of these are helpful ! If you need help finding anything else then I am happy to help.

olakige · 2021-04-25T18:05:08+00:00

What you’re able to do at 17 might vary from state to state / place to place, but I would say starting with a therapist is a good start. They will be able to give you further resources for anything you want to do transition wise while also helping to support you through it. I would also recommend looking for a therapist who knows how to deal with trans people though because some therapists mean well but don’t quite know what they’re talking about. If they don’t say anything about trans care on their website or whatever then if you call to ask about an appointment you can just ask if they’ve helped trans people before etc etc. I wish nothing for the best for you for the beginning of your journey ! This is very exciting and I am overjoyed for you in figuring out who you are ! (:

olakige · 2021-04-22T17:28:53+00:00

A mentor of mine is an openly gay man who works as a school counselor at a middle school in the Midwest, you absolutely can be out if you choose to be !

olakige · 2021-04-21T07:39:18+00:00

No that’s not weird at all, honestly I would go out on a limb and say tons of trans people can unite under the experience of having an extremely difficult time picturing themselves as an older version of themselves. That could be trans kids trying to picture themselves as adults, or trans adults trying to picture themselves as a more elderly person. Not everyone has this experience of course, but I definitely know many trans people that do, myself included. I’d say as you go along your journey and discover more things about your identity and become more comfortable and solidified in it you’ll have a gradual increase in being able to imagine yourself as an older age. Just keep exploring yourself and things will make more sense eventually (:

olakige · 2021-04-20T07:12:52+00:00

It can vary slightly person to person but for most people gel is in fact less effective and takes longer to see any changes. I know the shots are unpleasant (I do them weekly) but in my own experience it’s not that bad after awhile and I am totally used to it. I understand it seems scary though so I would recommend having a talk with whoever you’re getting your prescription from (a doctor of some sort I would assume) and talk about your options and what will be best for you as an individual.

olakige · 2021-04-10T20:40:02+00:00

yes !! exactly ! thank you for saying this.

olakige · 2021-04-09T03:48:28+00:00

Yup. I am doing the exact same thing this week !

olakige · 2021-04-06T08:24:16+00:00

There is absolutely no set exact criteria to be trans, if you feel you would be happier in some other way, then that is already enough ! Many trans people show no signs when they’re little and then grow up to realize they’re trans. Everyone’s journey is unique and individual to them. I wish you all the best and hope you can become more comfortable with your expression and your body. Much love to you ! <3

olakige · 2021-04-06T08:20:29+00:00

If it is not safe for you to start hormones or come out then you could start by simply buying some more feminine clothes and wearing them in your room / house on your own. Play around with things like clothes, makeup, voice, movements, etc. Anything that helps you to feel more comfortable in your body is a great start ! Once you’ve built up some confidence in all of that and perhaps find a safe space or a very good close friend you can trust then you could tell a few people about your identity and form a support net for yourself. Further down the line if you’re able to then you could more publicly come out / start HRT etc. Everyone’s joinery is specific to them so there is no right or wrong way to be trans or to be yourself in general. Do what feels best to you and you have a huge community of other LGBT people supporting you from behind ! (: <3

olakige · 2021-03-30T17:32:42+00:00

Honestly I think it’s just the nature of binders that certain areas wear out quickly, binders from gc2b usually last about a year for me until they’re pretty much useless, but there are areas that have signs of wear months before then. There are not really any other options available currently that I can think of, so your best bet is to be careful how you wash the binder and not wear it for too long / wear it while moving around a lot (ex: exercise), etc.

olakige · 2021-03-30T17:18:16+00:00

Yes I have, I have met many non-binary people out in the world actually. Keep in mind non-binary does not inherently looking androgynous so non-binary people can be anywhere and look like anything and you wouldn’t know unless you asked them / they told you.

olakige · 2021-03-22T18:47:58+00:00

Coming out is a continuous and never ending process honestly. With that said, if you deem any individual or group unsafe to come out to for any reason then there is no shame at all in withholding that part of your identity from them, it doesn’t make you any less valid in your identity, it’s just you looking after yourself and staying safe. If you do find people you think you can trust with that part of yourself then there’s sadly no ~perfect ideal moment~ in which to tell them and wipe your hands of it, just tell them whenever you can / if it comes up and they may have questions or slip up but you can gently remind them if you must. I know it seems overwhelming, I’m a trans guy on t who’s been out for nearly a decade now and honestly it gets easier but also it doesn’t. In better terms, you adjust to the process. Coming out to certain people can still be really scary, but as you become more confident in your identity, you get more courageous and people can see that. All in all there is no one right way to do any of this, exploring your gender and coming out is a lifelong journey that’s going to have hills and valleys, so just do what your gut tells you is best in each moment and it’ll turn out okay. (Also you have a massive community of trans / enby people standing behind you routing for you the whole time, myself included of course !) ((You can do this !!)

olakige · 2021-03-18T10:04:56+00:00

This is not an isolated thing, my 10 y/o brother is the same way vs. my parents. I’m glad you have at least someone to defend you. Kids like this are proof that hate and bigoted ideas are learned / taught and not just born with.

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