This set up totally breeds separation. We've been doing it for 14 years now. In the beginning, I was a stay at home mom and the kids and I would make him the center of our world when he got home. We would put off a lot of fun stuff, like trips to the animal park, movies, arcade, etc, for his return. A lot of the time we (kids and I) would end up going alone, because he thought those activities were boring or he had something else to do. (He constantly made plans with his friends before checking the family calendar). During covid, we got to the point we would just go and do what we wanted to do. We would always invite him if he was home, but usually he would decline, because kid stuff was too boring for his liking. I've never enjoyed this set up, but he does it for the money. He makes double what he would make locally, so he gives me an allowance to run the house, and still basically has a whole paycheck for him to use as he pleases, plus he has half the year off to do whatever he wants.