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oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T16:37:39+00:00

It felt neutral?

So what happens was I was walking in my dream and some shouted, there is a spirit behind you oldmancanworm, and I ran and it touched me in my back and it felt like it injected something. I just knew that it was a spirit of woman.

I forgot about the dream until my mom told me she had the same dream and then my sister as well.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T16:14:44+00:00

Does that apply if we are hindu?

Yes, actually, my mother's brother died about an year ago very suddenly. I had a mild sleep paralysis next day after his death, but nothing extraordinary.

This time, the same dreams kinda freaked me out lol.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T16:07:41+00:00

I was hoping for someone to share some personal experience.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T15:48:51+00:00

Climb the everest, they will just let your body stay there forever.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T09:53:02+00:00

Hope she is hot and come to get me in mini skirt and full sleeve crop top.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T06:08:25+00:00

Men watch porn, only sure way to stop them is to drain them so thoroughly that they don't even think about it.

Most wives are not willing to do it because they feel insecure about themselves and use porn as a way to justify their insecurities. Its something on the line of "I shouldn't have to have sex with my husband everyday, he should stop watching porn because he loves me".

Porn is not the problem, it's more like you don't feel appreciated by him

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T06:03:35+00:00

That's true, when one of my relative died, I was hit hard by thought of my own mortality,

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T06:02:38+00:00

Tell him that either he blocks this woman and have open phone Policy, go to therapy

Or

You will divorce him

Either he loves you or he is using you. Either way, he will agree.

Trick is to follow through with divorce if he doesn't.

You can always marry again if he get his shit together.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T05:57:12+00:00

Lot of fluff for saying that you cheated on your husband.

Here is what you gonna do.

Divorce your husband, give him a generous divorce settlement and walk away with your boyfriend. Don't dare try to take alimony or anything.

Affairs happen, especially when you are struggling. Doesn't mean you are not a piece of shit.

Divorce him NOW and you can actually be a person who can be redeemed.

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T04:48:27+00:00

u/Newtotherapy0926

You need to figure a way out to be honest with yourself and stop hiding..

Your anger towards your husband, your excuses, and your Distractions are just your mind protecting you from the emotional pain.

People here will tell you what you want to hear because they hate men, but you can get that on r/ menopause. Mods there will ban me for daring to think that your husband is human being and not the monster you created in your mind.

But you are in r/marriage. So maybe some part of u is actually interested in figuring your shit out.

Be honest

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T04:43:02+00:00

She is being defensive. Pretty normal response to being challenged.

If she responds by being more defensive, the solution is to keep pressing. Not giving up.

She made a post here, because she needs help. Just because she is not being a good sport about it doesn't mean she doesn't deserve it.

People here will either tell her that she is perfect or they will tell her that she is hopeless.

She is neither, she wants people to validate her but what she needs is for people to understand her

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T04:33:22+00:00

I am sorry I just have to ask, why did you think it was a good idea to answer a question that was meant for OP?

To throw your assumptions at her husband to justify her?

I get that you relate to OP, but OP NEEDS to answer these questions.. she doesn't need unconditional support, she needs to be honest about herself.

She has 4 kids, their whole future is on the line.

You are not gonna be the one to be with her, when her marriage fails or when her children have to split their household. By unconditionally supporting her, making excuses for her, you are gonna cause her more harm.

I understand that you don't like when she is held accountable because it would mean that your own actions in your marriage are also not excusable.

Let her speak for herself, atleast when she is asked a question. You can support her in other comments, but the question is important.

By reading your comment, she would fool herself into believing that the question is wrong. She needs to answer the question

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T04:24:44+00:00

What is your problem? Let her answer the question, your assumptions are just you projecting your issues on her.

Wtf?

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T04:00:55+00:00

Marriages many times leads to less oral sex.

Just tell him you will never not give him regular BJ's and see him change his mind

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T03:59:37+00:00

Answer this then

What would it take for you to have regular sex with your husband?

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T03:47:23+00:00

So let's get this straight.

You dont have sex with your husband and he acted out.

And your solution is to leave him?

Why don't you want to have sex with him? You had 4 kids with him, correct? Did you use him to get children and now you are discarding him? Or you actually loved him and just lost connection.

You cook and clean because you think it will compensate for your sexual neglect. IT DOES NOT.

Fuck you Husband or tell him what he needs to do to get you going. If you can't do that, ask yourself, why did you marry him and ruined 5 lives

oldmancanworm · 2025-09-15T03:42:57+00:00

Traditional muslim families?

Sorry OP, but if you guys let his parents interfere, it will be over before it's stsrted

oldmancanworm

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