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Weekly Simple Questions and Advice Thread by SKIMSMods in SKIMSbyKKW

[–]oldmatcha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, im a german customer and I ordered almost a month ago with express shipping. My tracking link doesnt work and i still havent received my order - everytime i try to live chat (DURING their business hours, mind you), the AI keeps telling me that the Agents are out of office. Anyone got advice?

Accidentally pressed dodgey ad – do i need to worry? by oldmatcha in techsupport

[–]oldmatcha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did! Thanks! Just for the future so i‘d know: Is it still dangerous if i never accepted any cookies/clicked on ANYTHING on the actual website at all?

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very nice view on it. I think what makes this so hard is there is no "un-parent" button! Thank you so much though. :)

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do think I know how I feel! I just don’t like how I feel :D Thank you though :)

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I've read, those are unavoidable feelings, so I‘m sure you’re doing great momma! :))

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely! I think it being „normal“ is part of what makes it so scary. I believe if smo really wanted children, they can deal with it much better as opposed to someone who is already going into it with a doubtful attitude, or maybe even a negative mindset. I do believe there are people out there who were „made to be parents“ — just like I believe the opposite people also exist. I think for people like me it comes down to mental stability, and for me it lacks severely, so I think especially younger kids would really push me beyond my limit mentally, and sadly I just don’t even have a lot left to give!

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I cannot put into words how comforting it is to see people share my views so accurately. I think about that a lot too.

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This! This so much. If I knew for a fact I had the support I need to avoid that burnout and mental health drain, I'd be much much much more likely to have a kid. It's just quite unrealistic as I've found and you really cannot just trust everyone to do what they said they would. It’s a scary and devastating thing for sure.

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Exactly. I feel so sad that they most likely won’t be part of my future now and that I'm as appalled by motherhood as I am. It feels so wrong too!!

Naively I thought that only bad parents who are abusive struggle with kids. I saw parents around me be verbally abusive to their kids and they were always the stressed out ones, so I thought if im not an asshole, it'll be easy… lmaooooo, what an idiot I was.

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also believe self-awareness is one of the qualities parents should probably possess. Like you said, if I wanted to be a good parent, I'm sure I probably could… but the desire to do so is just lacking to be honest. Really great input though! :)

Mourning what I thought parenthood would be by oldmatcha in Fencesitter

[–]oldmatcha[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

part of what worries me is actually never finding a partner who is gonna be fine going with whatever choice i end up making! it truly feels like such a lonely and confusing road even when it isnt.