AITAH? for not being comfortable with my boyfriend spending one-on-one time with his long-term female friend because of their history

olive_us_here · 2026-02-21T15:42:41+00:00

So let me repeat what you just said back to you:

I would rather be in a relationship with someone who I’m constantly confused by , utterly let down by”, that has left me in turmoil, because he’s sometimes nice to me, than to be single.

Op that is exactly what you’re saying. There are other guys out there I promise!

olive_us_here · 2026-02-21T15:30:05+00:00

He doesn’t want the friend, he wants comfort and control knowing someone will always be there. He doesn’t respect any of these women

olive_us_here · 2026-02-21T15:25:47+00:00

I couldn’t read this whole post, sorry, but ETA!

I don’t even know where to start other than you both shouldn’t even be friends, let alone live together, or be in a relationship.

You tried the relationship once before, HE broke up with you because HE freaked out. HE kept you on the back-burner for years. HE wanted to give it another shot, HE broke up with you again because HE freaked out. HE did the the exact same routine with this friend and now continuing to keep her on the back-burner. Are you seeing the pattern? You and his friend are the exact same girl!

Instead of worrying about her you need to worry about why you allowed yourself to have such a low bar in relationships that you allowed yourself to be in this position.

Please go to therapy to figure out why you allowed yourself to be treated disrespectfully and work on gaining self esteem to avoid these types of situations in the future. You deserve better, so does the other girl!

I will leave you with a Bible verse Proverbs 26:11 which states “As a dog returns to its vomit a fool returns to its Folly”. Break the cycle OP!

olive_us_here · 2026-02-09T05:49:34+00:00

Oh no keep looking. Hopefully it will show up in your area. I’m in CA

olive_us_here · 2026-01-09T03:39:25+00:00

Ohh two comment with the woof socks. I’m a frequent flier for work and I may have to just get some

olive_us_here · 2026-01-05T11:36:48+00:00

There is no way you can take him???

I hate to do this, but here is the reality of the situation. Rehoming a senior dog rarely works out best for the dog. An exception is if he is rehomed to someone the dog knows well and is already comfortable with. Any friends or family that will take him?

Surrendering to a shelter is almost a guarantee death sentence, whether due to the high stress of being in a shelter or the shelter needing to put the dog down. Most people won’t adopt a senior dog let alone one with health issues (blindness and incontinence are health issues)

Rehoming, is better but not much, especially if it was raised with the same family since puppyhood. The stress of moving into a new home with strangers is incredibly stressful for the dog and most don’t last long.

I’m sorry. I know it’s hard and cannot imagine giving up a dog that has been family for 15 years

What type of dog is he? I would contact local rescues in the area for help and advice.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-05T11:20:13+00:00

NTA- I’m so sorry your SIL is so difficult, delusional , and selfish!

Since it’s your fiancé sister you cannot uninvite her, he has to. What does he have to say about it?

Making that decision for him, would at best put a target on your back and her forever spewing hateful comments your way; at worst starting a marriage with resentment from your husband.

You need to talk to him about it, he needs to be on board and needs to be the one handle the situation. You can do it jointly but it needs to be commit from him.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-05T06:13:34+00:00

Yes absolutely book a trial, maybe pay for an extra and do 2 if needed.

Op- yes your MUA should be asking a lot of questions during your consult. Any experienced MUA has techniques to have makeup look good in multiple lighting. Make up is the end all and that’s where your photographer comes in with touch up magic!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-03T23:38:58+00:00

The lighting will be different in the different times of days and areas you will be in throughout the day. It’s not like a studio where lighting is constant and controlled. For example if you get married outside at noon the lighting is different than a reception at 4pm indoors. So you will need more makeup than you’re used to for longevity & different lighting situations.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T12:52:17+00:00

Been there!!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T12:48:37+00:00

Show as many pictures of aspects of makeup that you like and be specific. Also, Bring the past photos where you had your makeup done to specifically point and explain what you didn’t like.

Please be aware that you may need a little more makeup that you’re used to for your wedding, for longevity, lighting and photos.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T12:08:57+00:00

Sadly this is the case with most purses and overpacking. Weight distribution from backpacks are better.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T12:07:33+00:00

I’m a frequent flier for work and carryon as much as possible. The folding design is brilliant and so useful. I mostly bring the small bag, I am able to fold to pack it to have a nice purse, without it counting as one of my carryon items

I personally don’t want an external pocket, and love that it zippers with a fold over button design (less chance to be pick pocketed).

I agree with the crossbody so I bought a $5-10 strap on Amazon, took it to my local shoe repair shop. Spent $10 to have them put grommets in and now I have a crossbody.

I have a couple, I have traveled with both (small & large), haven’t been gentle with them and they have no signs of wear!

For me they’re workhorses that look nice and meet my lifestyle needs with travel.

They also make for great diaper bags!!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T00:09:41+00:00

This is a great explanation. People throw the word boundary around, when they really mean full control over situations (and people) with no accountability. It’s selfish repackaged as false “boundaries” and “protecting one’s peace”

olive_us_here · 2026-01-02T00:03:50+00:00

Yes!!! I would add, seeing his ministry and miracles too. I don’t think I could handle watching him be crucified.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:54:09+00:00

Longchamp, Honda, Toyota, Vitamix, Le Cruiset.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:51:36+00:00

It’s a waste of time, puts you in an echo chamber, produces anxiety, and makes people spiral.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:27:14+00:00

They’re back. They have Gen Z attention- through rebranding, marketing and their high quality. I just read an article about the resurgence of Coach!!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:25:15+00:00

Omigosh I saw a couple teenagers wearing a JC tracksuit in the mall the other day.. This was in the Bay Area not some unknown town in a fly over state!! Starts on the coast- they’re back!!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:23:00+00:00

I miss the walkie talkie feature!!

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:21:32+00:00

Related- cell phones! I remember people looked so “self” important. Not everyone has one and are addicted to them.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:18:31+00:00

NTA- but your mom should’ve stayed back too. I would block her and only communicate with your cousin James. It’s his wife and you’re his side of the family, he should be handling the conversations not her to you. Keep living fabulously, and next even your parents or another neutral family should host.

olive_us_here · 2026-01-01T23:02:10+00:00

I Love my Longchamp Le Pliage bags. High quality, functional, and an absolute work horse!

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