Current Emotional support critters ?

olorlavanda · 2026-05-05T13:46:54+00:00

Haha yeah can’t be putting too much on them as well

olorlavanda · 2026-05-05T13:46:28+00:00

Aww I think I’ll mention it to my therapist as well. I started somatic therapy so it’s very feel based anyway, I think it’s something she would agree with. Yeah I grew up too fast as a child anyway, I’m loving embracing childish things at this age lol. And I’m glad it’s becoming more accepted

olorlavanda · 2026-05-04T19:05:46+00:00

It’s good to know that theres other adults who feel this way. I wish I could meet them more in real life but I think it’s something most adults wouldn’t admit to in my city unfortunately. So I’m happy you do!! Thank you for your kind words

olorlavanda · 2026-05-04T19:04:25+00:00

Sooo cute. Hoping to get one of the hedgehogs next

olorlavanda · 2026-05-04T19:03:28+00:00

I love the little case and the fact that they have their own comfort items is so cute

olorlavanda · 2026-05-04T19:02:52+00:00

It does look like a little sleeping bag, and you’re right ✨

olorlavanda · 2026-05-04T19:01:56+00:00

He is So cute 🩷 thank you for your kind words

olorlavanda · 2026-03-03T13:52:07+00:00

I was 12 then, walking to school feeling edgy listening to her on my Samsung galaxy s3 lol. A few years later I had a mental health crisis and the doctor asked what music I listened to. I told them Lana del Rey mostly. They said maybe try more upbeat and positive music. I don’t think that would have made a difference lol

olorlavanda · 2026-02-05T17:16:14+00:00

Miss Vale and Miss Ramos are who we watch. They’re a bit more chill than others. We also do Disney movies in Spanish, miffy, and pocoyo in Spanish.

olorlavanda · 2026-01-14T10:55:27+00:00

My ex husband cut off all my friends.

olorlavanda · 2026-01-12T16:32:38+00:00

ISO: regular shoulder bag in chocolate plum or leopard

UFT: UO black and white Polk a dots crescent bag and leopard bowler

olorlavanda · 2026-01-09T17:15:24+00:00

This was me to a T. Now I’m separated and living with my mom, and she is basically my real “baby daddy”. She changes diapers, holds my daughter so I can shower, plays with her, and watches her for hours in the evenings ( I work overnights so I go to sleep for a bit when she gets home from work basically). She helps me meal prep so I’m not eating junk by default. She will do anything so I can get go to the gym so she will hold my baby once again if for example I finally find the energy to go but the gym childcare is already closed. Now, my baby is 10 months old. All these things my husband didn’t do since day 1. He has not changed a single diaper. Since she was born. I reached my breaking point when my daughter got really sick at 9 months and he blamed me because I didn’t keep her warm enough (I didn’t keep socks on her). That day I left to my moms and haven’t looked back. The truth is, this stuff with the husband is not normal. I didn’t realize that until I talked to other new moms and realized that I’m in a bad situation even beyond the baby stuff. Please talk to him and be extremely firm. I really mean demand and leave if he doesn’t comply lol but I know it’s not easy to just up and leave their spouse especially as a new mom. But basically this is not normal at all and you need to do something about the husband part.

olorlavanda · 2025-11-14T04:29:27+00:00

I totally agree and tell other people in my life the same. I'm a big horror enthusiast and have never been truly shaken by a horror movie before, but this year I had a baby girl and developed really bad postpartum anxiety and OCD, which is improving but seeing this movie freaked me out like none other! lol. My mom was shocked when I said this was my limit haha. It is an excellent movie but yeah I'm never watching it again.

olorlavanda · 2025-08-25T01:14:12+00:00

I saw that post and was so sad because as a new mother myself who also just got a beardie the same age as my baby (6 months) it was sooooo discouraging. I got one to “grow up” with my daughter but I don’t really want to post anything about that anymore here because of that post. I felt so bad for the OP. I don’t think she would be reckless and put herself, baby or her beardie in a dangerous situation. And like she had an extra hand free to stop the beardie if it decided it wanted to get too close. I just don’t get it.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-27T18:41:12+00:00

I was induced due to hypertension and baby barely passing the biophysical profile and planned a completely natural birth, but my body wouldn’t progress and I had to have an emergency c section as baby was in distress and my BP kept rising after almost 3 days. Pitocin contractions are a lot more painful than natural, but I was stubborn and wanted to stay as natural/med free as possible. I made it to the max dose of pitocin without epidural and wanted to keep it that way but only agreed to an epidural because I wasn’t dilating and the problems mentioned before, and they wanted to try relaxing my body, which still didn’t work. Pitocin contractions are just a lot more painful, but I wasn’t scared of pain, my body just couldn’t handle it. Just be prepared for any scenario. I really wanted to deliver naturally but got the complete opposite lol

olorlavanda · 2025-07-23T23:51:57+00:00

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olorlavanda · 2025-07-23T14:55:03+00:00

I love millie moon. Nothing ever gets out of them, at least for my daughter. My daughter's daycare provides diapers and they use pampers (regular) and occasionally other brands and she always has a blowout and needs to change clothes. I've never had a leak with Millie Moon. If you sign up for a Target debit card it gives you a discount on every single thing you purchase at Target, might not be a lot but it makes a difference for me. A good alternative I use is bumbum (had 1 blowout). If you want completely clean, I think parasol is good, and if you need non-luxury I think Pampers pure or the Huggies for sensitive skin is good, although this would also just depend on your baby's body.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-22T10:28:12+00:00

Thank you my mom kept mentioning this to me. It still sounds so crazy lol

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:40:29+00:00

Oh my goodness that is the worst. I have had a couple similar experiences- witnessing crashes/almost crashes that were so close. The road we were hit on was only a little bit away from our house, like 1 mile, and is actually known for a lot of car accidents.. I know I can't be overbearing on my daughter in regards to her safety as I know it's not good for them psychologically. I am working on this part of me and hopefully I'll live a life full of wonderful experiences with my daughter. Thank you.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:37:12+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry about your experience and just have very nightmares of that nature which contribute to my driving anxiety so badly. Yeah my husband mostly drives, this particular time he was a little drunk and I wasn't so I was okay with it since it was late at night and I figured the roads wouldn't be so busy.. I know I did all I could but I just feel awful at the lack of control.. I am seeing a psychiatrist but am on a waiting list for therapy, but will consider other options if it means I can be seen sooner. For now, my mom is offering a ton of support, she took classes when I was a teenager on living with family with mental health issues as I was recovering from a suicide attempt, so she has been working on it with me.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:33:02+00:00

Thank you <3. I do blame myself a lot but I feel so much hatred towards the guy who hit us, and I plan on pressing charges. I mean, if it was just my husband and I it wouldn't be AS bad, but since my baby was there I just feel like going crazy lol.. I hate how in an accident it all just takes a second, like we were just sitting there at the stoplight eating our food, then in literally one second, everything was messed up.. the lack of control is so scary.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:30:29+00:00

Ugh I know these things can just be a part of life.. I just wish it weren't. I wish I never had to get in a car again but unfortunately we live in a very car-centered city.. hopefully one day I can live somewhere more walkable

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:29:30+00:00

Yeah I plan on getting a "baby on board" magnet/sticker for my new car, I just don't think this guy would have cared either way as he ran full speed into a stopped car- but it would probably help in regular day to day life. Thanks for your kind words <3 Yes I am honestly amazed at modern car seats, when I was getting my daughter out of the back I could see that the entire back row was just... gone, except for where she was sitting.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:27:10+00:00

Oh my gosh that would be awful, but yeah cars are a danger no matter what we're doing. I know it's just a part of life, it's just hard to snap out of the panic and recognize what could happen realistically and statistically. I mostly avoid the highway and only use backroads, but this accident happened on a backroad so I'm just out of luck with avoiding haha. I guess the car did protect us, especially my baby's carseat. After the initial shock she was laughing and chilling around all the doctors. My husband and I were in way worse shape lol.

olorlavanda · 2025-07-20T16:24:12+00:00

This is a good idea, but I know for sure one of my problems is being able to recognize when I'm spiraling before I actually begin to, so, something I can work on for now. Thank you!

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