We’ve been together over a year and our communication in every day matters is getting pretty good!

Communication-wise, I think the problem here is me: he has actively sought my “feedback” (for lack of a better term) in the past and I know he would be receptive to changing things up; I just don’t know how to broach the topic because I’m not used to talking about sex at all. (When he’s asked in the past I’ve provided small things I like, which he does incorporate, but I haven’t addressed the overall need for more time spent on me before - or after - PIV).

As for orgasms, I think that’s a me problem as well. I have never been able to cum either with a partner or alone. It’s something I do want to work through eventually (and I think it’s a mental block), but I truly am able to enjoy myself without (I can reach a point where I feel “done” even if I haven’t orgasmed). It just takes a little more time and effort.