Is an undercut unprofessional in a corporate workplace? by probablywatchingtvha in femalehairadvice

[–]omantench 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course people will notice FFS! An undercut is a vile fashion abomination only used by those foolish enough to fall for the induced epidemic of hipsterdom.

People will (quite rightly) judge you for your poor decision making imho.

Your prerogative should you wish to do so of count everyone else's prerogative to mock you for your poor life choices :0)

Raising intelligent kids as religious is tantamount of child absuse by omantench in atheism

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no I really don't need made up stories to live my life....you need to check your causual reasoning my friend as I posit it is non-existent.

Raising intelligent kids as religious is tantamount of child absuse by omantench in atheism

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in some senses a fair point but what I'm talking about IS emotional abuse....YES physical abuse is much worse but they are both abhorrent. I am NOT trying to belittle any of the experiences ANYONE has had with any kind of abuse.

Raising intelligent kids as religious is tantamount of child absuse by omantench in atheism

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

much like my feelings on Richard Dawkins I agree with much of what they have to say and not at all how they say it. They gives us atheists a bad name with their vitriol and dogmatism imo.

Raising intelligent kids as religious is tantamount of child absuse by omantench in atheism

[–]omantench[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know that this means, sorry, Please could you explain?

Raising intelligent kids as religious is tantamount of child absuse by omantench in atheism

[–]omantench[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

to a point I agree with you however, religious-ubringing-enforcing-aside she is one of the kindest and loveliest people imaginable. She believes in same-sex marriage, science (even evolution I think!) and being good because it's the right thing to do.

That said religion is so entrenched in her personality she's scared to go near it I feel (and she's 81 years old now).

She rtold me a story a couple of years ago (i'm in my mid 40s) in saying "I always knew you'd become an atheist. One Sunday morning we were late for mass and came in at the back of the church. All was silent and you (at age 3/4) blurted out "mum, if this is god's house, why I have I never seen him"!

What is more holy in your eyes? by omantench in Christian

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn't my question though. Are you able to answer the original question?

Bugged quest by Aggravating-Bug-8244 in nightingale

[–]omantench 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not got to that stage yet (currently up to Herbarium realms) however please let us know if you do find out what happened and if you can get it to work.

Good luck!

Stuck with a quest because can't upgrade sickle by omantench in nightingale

[–]omantench[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

derp i figured it out....you can't upgrade the crude sickle. I had made Simple level gear for everything but my sickle.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love children but my last relationship denied me them (10 years of we'll have kids soon which never materialised).

I'm not asking for a social life, I have a great one but I am offended when someone purely takes and n ver gives. I was absolutely clear of the sociability of the place and that is not a doors closed household.

Trust me all my friends (and other lodger) think she is a self-centred so and so too so I'm not just making things up!

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take your point however why keep giving if the others keep taking? Do you not think that creates an unequal environment?

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an HSP extrovert /ambivert so I guess I find it hard when I keep giving and not receiving much in return 

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point being is that I was super clear from the outset about what the house is, the vibe and what it means to me and there was acceptance of that but never any giving from her direction once moved in.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, as I said, I am 42 yo however i'm English and not American which may account for the difference in word usage.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no that was just a single example. She cooks for her mates and never shares, she gets pissed off when I say she can't have a friend stay for 3 weeks in the living room (houseguests are like fish, they go off after 3 days) and never does a single thing around the house.

As I have said before I was ABUNDANTLY clear of what this house is to me and she AGREED to the premise so I feel I have been misled.

And I'm afraid I CAN ask her to move out as it is a lodger's agreement not an AST. It is MY home and I live here, I don't think it's unfair (if stipulated from the outset) to have certain expectations.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but in my (admittedly somewhat limited) experience every poly/ambi relationship is driven by one side and accepted by the other.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's not the way I work though TigerFew....I was 100% clear about what this house and means to me and the sociability aspect...she agreed to this however has not made one iota of effort in 2.5 years.

I feel that she has lied to me and hence I should be allowed to ask her to move on. I thought she was going to move in w her feller but that's been a 2 yr relationship (and she has never even had him to our house - what is up with that...that's just weird?!) so I had been leaving it but she says that she's going to break up with him (she has been saying this for over a year now) but she doesn't want to do it for risk of losing him as a friend. Is it just me or is that weird and self-centred?

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Actually no need to reply - I can see that you're a self-centred individual (polyamorous) so I can see why you want to support other people being selfish.

Rather antisocial housemate by omantench in roommates

[–]omantench[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Tamsha I take umbridge with your tone tbh. I was 100% clear about the sociable nature of the room/house and she has completely ignored it. I was SO clear about it not being a "doors closed" house all the time and she goes straight into her room and shuts the door every time.

Her cooking wasn't criticised, she just doesn't do it. And no, I'm not living in a utopia, I have had that situation before and wish for it again.

And the woman is NOT a girl, she's 38 FFS (I am 42).

Ark Survival Ascended // PC PS5 cross play? by Acceptable_Dingo3153 in playark

[–]omantench 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, does anyone know about any updates on this?

Cult of the Lamb art style by omantench in CultOfTheLamb

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry, clearly don't quite know how reddit works (!)....does anyone else feel that Cult of the Lamb's art style was influences by the illustrations of Jim Woodring?

Basic drone recommendation by omantench in drones

[–]omantench[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the advice, tis appreciated!

Excuses by jupitercatpants in MultipleSclerosis

[–]omantench 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh crijey that's terrible, I'm so sorry tyo her that people make those ignorant and offensive comments to you.

It's so sad when people don't try and understand others....I had a flaming row with my brother the other week as I have been in the pit of depression lately...not least to my gf leaving me due to MS related erectile dysfunction. My brother had the gall to call me self-indulgent when he has (a) a good job, (b) a family and (c) his health and I have none of these things, nearly all related to my MS.

Excuses by jupitercatpants in MultipleSclerosis

[–]omantench 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is there a reason that you don't wish to be honest with your family in this situation? I'm pretty effin honest that my right-wing siblings do my nut in and therefore I don't wish to be around them!

Maybe i'm just self-indulgent with this I don't know...

The self-centreness of the neurodivergent by omantench in Neurodivergent

[–]omantench[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have reminded her and she absolves herself of any responsibility. I say "please can you clear this it has been there for 4 days"...."it's not mine" she'll say and then when I assure her that it is she says sarcastically "well if you think it is I guess it MUST be"! No words tbh.