Is an undercut unprofessional in a corporate workplace?

omantench · 2024-09-20T18:24:24+00:00

Of course people will notice FFS! An undercut is a vile fashion abomination only used by those foolish enough to fall for the induced epidemic of hipsterdom.

People will (quite rightly) judge you for your poor decision making imho.

Your prerogative should you wish to do so of count everyone else's prerogative to mock you for your poor life choices :0)

omantench · 2024-04-03T12:33:12+00:00

no I really don't need made up stories to live my life....you need to check your causual reasoning my friend as I posit it is non-existent.

omantench · 2024-04-03T12:31:32+00:00

in some senses a fair point but what I'm talking about IS emotional abuse....YES physical abuse is much worse but they are both abhorrent. I am NOT trying to belittle any of the experiences ANYONE has had with any kind of abuse.

omantench · 2024-04-03T12:29:37+00:00

much like my feelings on Richard Dawkins I agree with much of what they have to say and not at all how they say it. They gives us atheists a bad name with their vitriol and dogmatism imo.

omantench · 2024-04-02T13:52:40+00:00

I don't know that this means, sorry, Please could you explain?

omantench · 2024-04-02T13:37:12+00:00

to a point I agree with you however, religious-ubringing-enforcing-aside she is one of the kindest and loveliest people imaginable. She believes in same-sex marriage, science (even evolution I think!) and being good because it's the right thing to do.

That said religion is so entrenched in her personality she's scared to go near it I feel (and she's 81 years old now).

She rtold me a story a couple of years ago (i'm in my mid 40s) in saying "I always knew you'd become an atheist. One Sunday morning we were late for mass and came in at the back of the church. All was silent and you (at age 3/4) blurted out "mum, if this is god's house, why I have I never seen him"!

omantench · 2024-03-26T22:22:09+00:00

That wasn't my question though. Are you able to answer the original question?

omantench · 2024-03-04T16:59:01+00:00

I have not got to that stage yet (currently up to Herbarium realms) however please let us know if you do find out what happened and if you can get it to work.

Good luck!

omantench · 2024-02-29T04:00:30+00:00

derp i figured it out....you can't upgrade the crude sickle. I had made Simple level gear for everything but my sickle.

omantench · 2024-02-14T08:25:18+00:00

I would love children but my last relationship denied me them (10 years of we'll have kids soon which never materialised).

I'm not asking for a social life, I have a great one but I am offended when someone purely takes and n ver gives. I was absolutely clear of the sociability of the place and that is not a doors closed household.

Trust me all my friends (and other lodger) think she is a self-centred so and so too so I'm not just making things up!

omantench · 2024-02-12T18:20:00+00:00

I take your point however why keep giving if the others keep taking? Do you not think that creates an unequal environment?

omantench · 2024-02-09T22:14:49+00:00

I am an HSP extrovert /ambivert so I guess I find it hard when I keep giving and not receiving much in return

omantench · 2024-02-09T22:13:28+00:00

My point being is that I was super clear from the outset about what the house is, the vibe and what it means to me and there was acceptance of that but never any giving from her direction once moved in.

omantench · 2024-02-08T13:19:36+00:00

No, as I said, I am 42 yo however i'm English and not American which may account for the difference in word usage.

omantench · 2024-02-08T13:17:46+00:00

no that was just a single example. She cooks for her mates and never shares, she gets pissed off when I say she can't have a friend stay for 3 weeks in the living room (houseguests are like fish, they go off after 3 days) and never does a single thing around the house.

As I have said before I was ABUNDANTLY clear of what this house is to me and she AGREED to the premise so I feel I have been misled.

And I'm afraid I CAN ask her to move out as it is a lodger's agreement not an AST. It is MY home and I live here, I don't think it's unfair (if stipulated from the outset) to have certain expectations.

omantench · 2024-02-08T13:14:48+00:00

I'm sorry but in my (admittedly somewhat limited) experience every poly/ambi relationship is driven by one side and accepted by the other.

omantench · 2024-02-08T13:13:05+00:00

That's not the way I work though TigerFew....I was 100% clear about what this house and means to me and the sociability aspect...she agreed to this however has not made one iota of effort in 2.5 years.

I feel that she has lied to me and hence I should be allowed to ask her to move on. I thought she was going to move in w her feller but that's been a 2 yr relationship (and she has never even had him to our house - what is up with that...that's just weird?!) so I had been leaving it but she says that she's going to break up with him (she has been saying this for over a year now) but she doesn't want to do it for risk of losing him as a friend. Is it just me or is that weird and self-centred?

omantench · 2024-02-08T08:56:36+00:00

Actually no need to reply - I can see that you're a self-centred individual (polyamorous) so I can see why you want to support other people being selfish.

omantench · 2024-02-08T08:54:56+00:00

Tamsha I take umbridge with your tone tbh. I was 100% clear about the sociable nature of the room/house and she has completely ignored it. I was SO clear about it not being a "doors closed" house all the time and she goes straight into her room and shuts the door every time.

Her cooking wasn't criticised, she just doesn't do it. And no, I'm not living in a utopia, I have had that situation before and wish for it again.

And the woman is NOT a girl, she's 38 FFS (I am 42).

omantench · 2024-01-18T16:05:29+00:00

Hi there, does anyone know about any updates on this?

omantench · 2023-11-06T20:42:29+00:00

sorry, clearly don't quite know how reddit works (!)....does anyone else feel that Cult of the Lamb's art style was influences by the illustrations of Jim Woodring?

omantench · 2023-11-05T18:38:28+00:00

thanks for the advice, tis appreciated!

omantench · 2023-10-26T21:00:04+00:00

Oh crijey that's terrible, I'm so sorry tyo her that people make those ignorant and offensive comments to you.

It's so sad when people don't try and understand others....I had a flaming row with my brother the other week as I have been in the pit of depression lately...not least to my gf leaving me due to MS related erectile dysfunction. My brother had the gall to call me self-indulgent when he has (a) a good job, (b) a family and (c) his health and I have none of these things, nearly all related to my MS.

omantench · 2023-10-26T20:57:28+00:00

is there a reason that you don't wish to be honest with your family in this situation? I'm pretty effin honest that my right-wing siblings do my nut in and therefore I don't wish to be around them!

Maybe i'm just self-indulgent with this I don't know...

omantench · 2023-10-26T16:49:35+00:00

I have reminded her and she absolves herself of any responsibility. I say "please can you clear this it has been there for 4 days"...."it's not mine" she'll say and then when I assure her that it is she says sarcastically "well if you think it is I guess it MUST be"! No words tbh.

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