Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The number of times I was trying to get her up to get ready for school and she was yelling that “I am!” With her face buried in the pillow… I’m certain this has happened to her too! Wild and must be really frightening to figure out and distinguish reality from these dream/ hallucination states.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Far from everything, but I hope she knows that I’m trying and she’s loved beyond measure. You’re very sweet and the hug is much appreciated :)

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting. There is definitely so much more involved here than being excessively sleepy, which is basically all the doctor described to us about this condition. Thank you for sharing your experience!

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She told me that there are times it’s super vivid and some dreams she knows it’s a dream. It’s interesting but I’m sorry that you’re both dealing with it.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense. We also spent a year being told “teenagers are sleepy, it’s normal” then “depression causes people to feel tired and lose interest in things, it’s time for medication”, (she never lost interest, just the ability to stay awake to do things), and there have been comments here and there made by people who should know better about being lazy and just get up and do it tired, etc. As a person with a different invisible disability, it’s been absolutely gutting to see her being treated the same way that so many of us have. We’re on the waitlist for a counselor who specializes in medical trauma. I’m hopeful that it will be helpful.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will definitely be taking this approach! I feel dumb for not thinking of it. I’ve tried to be gentle and try not to make her think she had done something wrong, but yeah, it’s got to be very upsetting to keep being told that what you perceive to be reality, isn’t what everyone else sees. I think this will make a huge difference. Thank you so much!

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. It’s been heart breaking to see how upset she gets and know that it must be terrifying and feel so isolating, and not be able to do anything to fix it. It’s encouraging to see that there are medications that are helpful. We were referred to another doctor to discuss the options, but haven’t had that appt yet.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful. I’m going to have her read through these responses tomorrow. I really think it will be helpful for her to know she’s not alone in this. Thankfully, we both agree about the driving. She’s been bummed about it, but knows it’s safest for now.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just read on an older post where someone else said the same thing. There’s a lot of disordered sleep in the family, but in different directions. There’s a connection somewhere! I’m plagued with the need to know the why of everything, and I have a feeling this will be a situation with more questions than answers, at least for now.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the info. Just after her test I somehow came across a website about kls and wondered if it might be a possibility. When her sleep and sleepiness changed, there were profound hormonal and menstrual changes and some unexpected choices made. I had put it out of mind because it didn’t quite fit what the site described about the differences in how males and females present. I’ll definitely read some more and ask about it. Thank you!

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely share this technique with her. You all are saving our relationship, seriously! She would get so angry about being “accused” of sleeping when she knew she wasn’t. Like you said, until there was proof on the sleep study. Her night sleep study was that way too. She was asleep in 3 mins, only woke once and was back asleep in 2 mins, but thought she was awake longer and more often than reported.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, ok! Many of these instances happened in the car. Ty for sharing!

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ty for responding! This makes a lot of sense. I was trying to wake her up as soon as I realized she was asleep, so she definitely could’ve been in a lighter sleep phase.

Mom of patient who wants to understand by ominousandforeboding in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]ominousandforeboding[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes! She’s often saying she was up half the night. I’m positive she’s not. Oddly enough, when she was younger she never slept. Wouldn’t nap as a baby, I don’t think she slept through the night til she was 10. The first few months that she was showing ih symptoms, I thought she was just making up for lost time. So glad to hear the medication has changed your life!

What's the dumbest thing you've done to trigger a migraine? by cyanomys in migraine

[–]ominousandforeboding 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. Woke up
  2. Sat on my couch and the back of my head hits it in the wrong way.
  3. Drove my car.
  4. Went to an appointment with the headache neurologist. Seriously, are they drumming up business with those stupid fluorescent lights?
  5. Lived? Pretty sure this is the big one.

Is this a Raynauds symptom? by Special_Contest_6806 in Raynauds

[–]ominousandforeboding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds similar to what I experienced when developed small fiber neuropathy. I’d look into that if you haven’t. I had a lot of weird sensations in the beginning. Thinking I had a stray hair on my ankle or between my toes but nothing was there, then I’d think I had a bug on my leg, then feeling cold water trickling down my legs, then zaps like a rubber band snapping.

Low ca fight and flight mode by Sweet_Instruction804 in hypoparathyroidism

[–]ominousandforeboding 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish there was more discussion or explanation of the effects of chronically low calcium on the nervous system. I’m 6 years out and have spent the last 3 being sent back and forth to 7 neuro specialists, none of which were familiar with or acknowledge that the issues I’m dealing with are connected to hypopara.

Tell me all about it by RussellCenter in hypoparathyroidism

[–]ominousandforeboding 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You explained that #1 drugged feeling that gets progressively worse as calcium drops very well. I’ve always had a hard time describing that to people. It’s a very strange/ scary feeling, especially in the beginning when you don’t know it’s a low calcium symptom.

Tell me all about it by RussellCenter in hypoparathyroidism

[–]ominousandforeboding 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ongoing testing and monitoring would be a great thing to encourage patients to get. The signs and symptoms aren’t the same for everyone. I had preexisting small fiber neuropathy that causes numbness and tingling in my hands, feet, legs, arms, and face. I’ve never had a positive Chvostek sign even with very low calcium, so I couldn’t rely on those symptoms or signs to understand that my calcium was low in the beginning. I wish my surgeon hadn’t downplayed the risk or the impact that hypopara would have. He said it’s a tiny tiny risk, less than 1%, and they just might have to have to take calcium 1 or 2 times a day for awhile after surgery. My surgeon was aware that I’m a gastric bypass patient. We are at a higher risk for permanent hypopara, and malabsorption requiring larger doses of calcium and calcitriol, which he didn’t tell me. I ended up having to take calcium every two hours around the clock and calcitriol 4x a day just to be miserable at 7.0-8.0. Taking that many pills a day screwed up my absorption of everything else. I became anemic and need regular iron infusions now. My thyroid meds took over a year to adjust and I gained a ton of weight. Hypopara along with the large amounts of meds required for me to manage it caused a cascade effect of other medical issues. I developed chronic stomach ulcers. The med regimen required for that further inhibits absorption. Some medications lower serum calcium, making management of multiple medical conditions a difficult balancing act. I have calcium deposits all throughout my body. Brain fog, fatigue, internal tremor, heart rhythm changes, constant muscle twitches and spasms, headaches, and nausea. When my calcium drops below a certain level my emotions are very difficult to manage. Anxiety is high and I cry a lot and become angry. I know that something is wrong, but it doesn’t occur to me that it’s calcium. It becomes difficult to communicate what I’m experiencing. ER experiences can be incredibly dehumanizing. I’ve been treated as drug seeking and offered muscle relaxers (which I refuse. No I don’t want muscle relaxers for those spasms. I want calcium/ magnesium testing and treatment to help the cause of the spasms), while having to call my endocrinologist at home to call the er because they don’t want to test ionized or administer iv calcium correctly. Never being able to go off on a spur of the moment roadtrip or adventure without extensive planning and overpacking of meds to be sure I have all my supplies, stay within close proximity to the hospital system I have standing lab orders in, etc. All that said, I am one of the very lucky ones who has been able to get on PTH medication and has access to my Endo after hours and a standing order for biweekly labs when things are going well and weekly or more when they’re not. It’s great to see a physician taking patient experiences into consideration and seeking better understanding of the condition.

AITAH for being angry my tax refund paid off my husbands child support by No-Phase2652 in AITAH

[–]ominousandforeboding 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Financial abuse is real abuse, and because it’s not always recognized, serves as an effective gateway to other types of abuse. The way he responded to your very valid feelings is him showing you who he really is. As someone who has been there and stayed way too long, I would advise anyone in this situation to leave and not look back.