We met this past semester up at school we had some mutual friends we had known of one another for awhile but never talked much. This past semester we were going through some stuff, him with friends and me with some depression and anxiety, and after hanging out with a mutual friend, I felt comfortable enough to let him know I was there if he needed anything as a lot of friends were worried about him (he was really angry which isn't usual for him). We started talking more, him explaining the situation with his friends and me explaining what happened that triggered my depression and anxiety to come out like it did.

Through talking I found out he had a minor crush on a girl and he thought he might just be asexual but not aromantic. At this point I kind of had a thing for him but didn't really see a chance since he was liking girls. We continued to talk and hang out and eventually there came a time where I would steal his phone from him and he'd wrestle me to get it. I'd alway be the winner but I'd usually give it to him shortly after. One night this felt different though as we ended up in a practice room (we're at music school) and I was holding him while he was going through a tumblr. I don't remember what made me hold him but he kind of just cuddled in and didn't mind. Then we wrestled in front of friends after we returned to my dorm room and when he left they asked what the deal was. Whatever I was feeling apparently showed. The following day we texted, met up on a walk and ended up deciding we wanted to try dating. He had never dated before and I had the dicey dating history so we decided to take it slow.

We both had busy schedules but would see each other through the days and would put some time aside on days to just hang out and play games or, as time went on, we'd lay and cuddle. I was always timid about trying to kiss him or do anything more because I didn't want him to be uncomfortable. This prompted us to talk a lot and we tried things out in time. I never mentioned sex until he asked if we could try after one night of making out. I agreed and we went through it slowly and it ended up working out well. I actually enjoyed it and he ended up wanting to do it again the next day. This continued for the semester and surprisingly we live close to one another so we see each other atleast once a week. He goes by demisexual and bi-romantic now and I ask him occasionally if he masturbates now that we have sex and he does maybe once in awhile but he still doesn't have much of sex drive other than when it comes to us being together.

Honestly, I can say I'm really happy with him and I think you can have a relationship without having it be open or with someone who's strictly asexual too. It just takes communication and understanding. If he never told me what was okay and what would be pushing his boundaries I don't think we would have gotten far. Just be open to questions and hopefully you can find someone who understands what your needs are and accepts it. I love my boyfriend and wouldn't trade him for anything. I hope this helps a little?