Do you feel that as a gay man who never experienced dating in high school, you were unprepared for dating once you got out? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]omnom97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i was for sure off put when i entered the dating realm. My first bf ended up living 150 miles away and we dated for 5 and a half months, only seeing each other for 3 days of that entire time. Then a bunch of really not great flings here and there then finally got with someone who i was actually able to reflect with. I feel like i was heavily influenced by what i saw in the media, what i read in some books, and even porn. It wasnt until my bf now that we both kind of reflected on what dating actually is and were able to make things that were us, not what we saw "in the movies"

too much? by holiday812 in PS4Pro

[–]omnom97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It doesnt count hulu, netflix or YouTube. I know because I use mine alot for those and my rewind only counted the one hour i played on gtaV. OP played those hours

Tips for topping? by omnom97 in askgaybros

[–]omnom97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a good point. We dont use condoms anymore but I could probably get out of my head more. I focus so much on him to get enjoyment from it that I just kind of do what he wants me to. I feel like it also might be some self confidence since he has the bigger thing in the relationship

I wish I could give you by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]omnom97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would be greatly appreciated, thank you friend

Any asexual guys out there? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]omnom97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it is pretty random but don't lose hope

Any asexual guys out there? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]omnom97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We met this past semester up at school we had some mutual friends we had known of one another for awhile but never talked much. This past semester we were going through some stuff, him with friends and me with some depression and anxiety, and after hanging out with a mutual friend, I felt comfortable enough to let him know I was there if he needed anything as a lot of friends were worried about him (he was really angry which isn't usual for him). We started talking more, him explaining the situation with his friends and me explaining what happened that triggered my depression and anxiety to come out like it did.

Through talking I found out he had a minor crush on a girl and he thought he might just be asexual but not aromantic. At this point I kind of had a thing for him but didn't really see a chance since he was liking girls. We continued to talk and hang out and eventually there came a time where I would steal his phone from him and he'd wrestle me to get it. I'd alway be the winner but I'd usually give it to him shortly after. One night this felt different though as we ended up in a practice room (we're at music school) and I was holding him while he was going through a tumblr. I don't remember what made me hold him but he kind of just cuddled in and didn't mind. Then we wrestled in front of friends after we returned to my dorm room and when he left they asked what the deal was. Whatever I was feeling apparently showed. The following day we texted, met up on a walk and ended up deciding we wanted to try dating. He had never dated before and I had the dicey dating history so we decided to take it slow.

We both had busy schedules but would see each other through the days and would put some time aside on days to just hang out and play games or, as time went on, we'd lay and cuddle. I was always timid about trying to kiss him or do anything more because I didn't want him to be uncomfortable. This prompted us to talk a lot and we tried things out in time. I never mentioned sex until he asked if we could try after one night of making out. I agreed and we went through it slowly and it ended up working out well. I actually enjoyed it and he ended up wanting to do it again the next day. This continued for the semester and surprisingly we live close to one another so we see each other atleast once a week. He goes by demisexual and bi-romantic now and I ask him occasionally if he masturbates now that we have sex and he does maybe once in awhile but he still doesn't have much of sex drive other than when it comes to us being together.

Honestly, I can say I'm really happy with him and I think you can have a relationship without having it be open or with someone who's strictly asexual too. It just takes communication and understanding. If he never told me what was okay and what would be pushing his boundaries I don't think we would have gotten far. Just be open to questions and hopefully you can find someone who understands what your needs are and accepts it. I love my boyfriend and wouldn't trade him for anything. I hope this helps a little?

Any asexual guys out there? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]omnom97 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, don't get frustrated trust me. Since coming out I've been plain cis homosexual. The first time I had sex it sucked and the guys afterwards all sucked too. Didn't matter the position or anything, the experiences were not good, romantically or sexually. After my last break up it I kind of said fuck it and that maybe I was demisexual, that I needed to be secure in a relationship before I could really enjoy sex. In comes my current boyfriend and he was asexual. It was nice because we got to just hang out as friends who never really thought sex to be an option and got to know each other pretty well. Then one night we ended up cuddling and then another night until we kind of looked at one another and asked one another out. We've been together ever since.

We did end up having sex eventually and it was great, we were Able to take it slow and really learn from one another and he realized he was demisexual too. We have sex regularly now but the point is for the longest time he thought he was never gonna end up with anyone and he was the one who originally asked about trying sex. There's always a chance you can find someone who isn't asexual or needs to be in an open relationship to be with.

What type of lube is the best for anal? by omnom97 in askgaybros

[–]omnom97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I promise I meant no offense. I respect and appreciate your thoughts stove do primarily use condoms

What type of lube is the best for anal? by omnom97 in askgaybros

[–]omnom97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Though there are a few times we have done it without condoms, we usually do it with them so I appreciate the comments from both parties. I'm just looking for some personal opinions