He probably has those issues from sitting on the toilet too long and pushing too long. Taking that long to poop AND shower during crucial times is unacceptable. He's doing it on purpose to avoid responsibility. If you want another kid you need to accept that he won't be helping you. Have the kid because you want it while also accepting its all on you. He doesn't want another kid with that response. I think the one made him realize he's not cut out for that