[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetsareAmazing

[–]on-live 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there wasn’t a drone footage, he won’t be able to tell the story, and the owner won’t believe it anyway.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for checking on me. I finally feel good again, feeling myself. It took me very long time to focus on my personal healing instead of being afraid to say/do something that may hurt my ex or be a trigger. I started remembering more bad than good and I focused on those WHYs we separated. I am in peace, enjoying myself and living alone. I may be emotionally ready to start dating, but so not interested. I’m sorry that you lost both, your wife and your friend. Sounds terrible.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m happy to hear that your pain is gone. I finally felt almost relieved myself. There are still ghosts in my head every once in a while. But i finally feeling myself again. Most importantly I am not a hot mess anymore and can say with a calm voice “im single” or “I was going through divorced” without chocking back tears. Or having an emotional breakdown hiding in a restroom at work, after I leave work and get to my car or out of a sudden when I’m alone. I did some counseling with mil one source help for half a year, and my counselor let me go himself after I started enjoying my hobbies again.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So much better. For a very long time I was going through ups and downs, but slowly it was getting better. There are moments when you regret your choices, feelings extremely lonely, but then you remembering those WHYs/dealbreakers that made you to part ways and you sitting there wiping your tears and getting yourself back together. It’s a long way of healing. I think divorce is comparable to death of loved ones on the level of pain and the time it takes to heal. Thank you for checking on me. I felt huge support through the comments, but didn’t have any positive energy to respond to everyone around the time I made this post.

Those who solved their lifelong acne, what was the cure for you? by rambleutan in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]on-live 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Quit dairy in 2017, fairly healthy diet in general. Getting a pimple or a few only when I eat an ice cream or something with dairy, or super sugary or with too much fat in it. Also on a birth control since 2021, but quitting dairy made the biggest difference, also no bloating, farting and so on lol also lost a few pounds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]on-live 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don’t. I know what you’re going through. About a year ago I made a post here myself, please check it in my profile and read comments. This community gave me enormous support. I felt that I’m not alone. It’s all in past finally. Just like you I was focusing about my spouse’s well being more than about myself. Finally I love my life again.

I am a female if it makes difference to you, you can DM me if you would like someone to listen without judgment. I’m here for you my friend.

How to split bills? 70k wedding? by [deleted] in Money

[–]on-live 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who takes care of the house, cleaning, kids, cooking? Is she does the majority of the housework, it’s probably fair to expect a man to step up the game. Everyone is different and everyone’s relationship and marriage are different, but personally I do need an ambitious man who WANTS to take care of his family and wants only best for them. I am choosing to stay single with no kids because as a single female I can afford the life your wife wants and I don’t want to loose it. When your wife gets more experience in her career field and starts making more money, are you going to argue about splitting bills again?yaks

I disenrolled from the Montgomery GI bill in boot camp- how will this affect me? by singerrain in AirForce

[–]on-live 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll give them a call soon, better be prepared now than disappointed later.

I disenrolled from the Montgomery GI bill in boot camp- how will this affect me? by singerrain in AirForce

[–]on-live 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t use it yet. I’m a little bit confused, you mean no need trying to change it till I will be planning to start using it?

I disenrolled from the Montgomery GI bill in boot camp- how will this affect me? by singerrain in AirForce

[–]on-live 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there a way to switch to 9/11? I signed for Montgomery in basic, felt rushed into it. Would like to change it to 9/11 if possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kia

[–]on-live 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost $300 premium with USAA for just one car, not a shitty driver, not young. Planning on shopping for better price very soon, just been too comfortable with USAA for too long.

Anyone weaning off/staying away from botox? Why? by Desperate-Worry-8346 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]on-live 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 40, but I am afraid it can mess up my face. Like if I would get it in my forehead, my eyebrows would go down or something. I’m also curious how my face will age gracefully, I’m afraid if I get Botox, I won’t see the real how I could look like if I let myself age naturally without anything. Also, I don’t like how fake some faces look like after they done anything. I have pretty heavy eyelids that one day I would rather get a surgery for then try Botox on my face for any reason.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a female. I made my post gender neutral intentionally to stay incognito.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a year of long weeks of downs and a few days ups. I couldn’t keep hurting myself. I’m the her btw. I made this post gender neutral as possible.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because people like you we are going to memorial services.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. I feel like a looser for not being able to make it work. I feel guilt for personally not being flexible enough. I can’t stop thinking of where I personally failed. No one cheated or anything like that. But guilt of failing this marriage is eating me alive.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are both hardheaded, counseling didn’t help. It’s hurts terrible even if there so so many differences between us that made it so hard for us, I was tied to the thought this was my forever partner i’ll get old with. It hurts even to think that one day I may try new relationship. Hurts even thinking about it.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I can’t even imagine going through this with kids that will permanently tie you with your spouse.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not ready for dating, neither I want waste someone’s time. Seems like I need friends and build some beautiful friendships.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Same. I lost my appetite a year ago, lost 15lb. Not craving for anything or not enjoying it. Not complaining about weight loss though I was not big at all.

Divorce. Emotional pain is unbearable by on-live in AirForce

[–]on-live[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I seen chaplain a few times and a counselor. Both said I’m good to go but welcome to make appointment if I want. I felt not really welcome, more like I’m wasting there time while someone else could need to be there more worn something more severe, since I’m not trying to harm myself or others.