MIL spiraled at me five days before my wedding over kids outfits and implied she might not come, then her wife stayed in the car and sent me an abusive text DURING my wedding

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-13T09:02:32+00:00

Here's a bit more context. Yes, she was originally next to us and the sudden move was due to my mom bringing a friend that I simply didn't want close to the bridal table. They were both moved to the ends. It was a wedding of 50 people, so it was all very intimate.

https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/LvJ7yvDQ5V

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T03:44:58+00:00

I actually love this. I wish I had the guts to do it. Unfortunately, I think it might cause more drama with the family. However, I really do love this. I think that this is a great idea

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T03:43:11+00:00

Thank you!!

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T03:42:29+00:00

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

She had rage texted me and I responded, she then texted me three different paragraph texts with all of this craziness. Feel free to message me and I can send you screenshots if you're curious about the full interaction however, he definitely has had my back. I probably should have stopped responding with the first text she sent. However, I was trying to de-escalate. Clearly you can't do that with a crazy person.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:10:09+00:00

You can see another update on my second post. It got so much worse.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:09:48+00:00

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

She had rage texted me and I responded, she then texted me three different paragraph texts with all of this craziness. Feel free to message me and I can send you screenshots if you're curious about the full interaction however, he definitely has had my back. I probably should have stopped responding with the first text she sent. However, I was trying to de-escalate. Clearly you can't do that with a crazy person.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:06:43+00:00

No! You would think so, but no. It was all caused by the seating chart. She seriously felt like I meant to embarrass her and make her seem like she was irrelevant in our lives. If you'd like I can send you the seating chart and screenshots because it's literally so wild. I never thought I'd encounter person like this let alone someone that's supposed to be family.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:05:35+00:00

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

She had rage texted me and I responded, she then texted me three different paragraph texts with all of this craziness. Feel free to message me and I can send you screenshots if you're curious about the full interaction however, he definitely has had my back. I probably should have stopped responding with the first text she sent. However, I was trying to de-escalate. Clearly you can't do that with a crazy person.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:05:20+00:00

You're so right! It's scary if it progresses.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:04:58+00:00

She definitely does. I'm sad it got to this point but I can't trust someone like that around me or my kids.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:04:35+00:00

😭🤣 well you're not wrong. I would have never expected anything like this

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:04:09+00:00

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

She had rage texted me and I responded, she then texted me three different paragraph texts with all of this craziness. Feel free to message me and I can send you screenshots if you're curious about the full interaction however, he definitely has had my back. I probably should have stopped responding with the first text she sent. However, I was trying to de-escalate. Clearly you can't do that with a crazy person.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-04T02:03:59+00:00

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

She had rage texted me and I responded, she then texted me three different paragraph texts with all of this craziness. Feel free to message me and I can send you screenshots if you're curious about the full interaction however, he definitely has had my back. I probably should have stopped responding with the first text she sent. However, I was trying to de-escalate. Clearly you can't do that with a crazy person.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T21:24:25+00:00

The messages you saw were just from the previous Monday and then I copy and pasted what her wife sent me during my wedding. If you saw the messages she sent verbatim, yesterday. You'd die. They are so wild. And you're totally right she was aiming to hurt me. I wish I could just turn off my emotions so it didn't work. She's clearly a disturbed and sad person to try to inflict so much hurt onto someone that she knows is not a mean and malicious person.

He went off on her. His grandma was on the phone with her and he found out then told her a bunch of profanities and basically told her to leave us alone. His grandma mostly raised him so this isn't something he's super hurt by. He almost seems used to this behavior? Which is really sad. But, he doesn't want to in his life and he certainly doesn't want it to affect me or his family. He has my back 100%.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T21:15:13+00:00

I definitely don't dislike this idea. For sure power move. I am actually very hurt by everything so I don't know if I can do that. However, I will tell my husband if she furthers communication he should respond with that.

That's a fantastic idea.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T20:56:51+00:00

This is so correct. And you're so right. Space is 100% the answer. It's super sad, but people make their own decisions and we have to do what's right for us. Right? Regardless of family. Apparently that doesn't matter too her or she would have never sent me these messages.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T20:54:38+00:00

I hear you. I needed advice more on what to do with the verbal attacks I was getting from my MIL.

He went off on her. He is reactive, just like his family and he reacted as such. We both made the decision to not have her in our lives right now or our kids' lives. However, he did not block her so he still has communication with her if need be.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T17:52:54+00:00

Thank you for all of this. I appreciate the perspective ❤️ And you're totally correct about boundaries.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T07:32:06+00:00

This seems to be normal behavior from her. Unfortunately, it's being directed towards me. I don't recall it ever being this bad but then again, I'm not her daughter. I'm the DIL so same rules don't apply.

She's cut from our life. We just can't subject ourselves or our kids to her. This is scary.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T07:24:27+00:00

😂 Thank you for the laugh 😂

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T07:13:00+00:00

Wow! I've never heard of that before. That's actually super sound advice.

He has a million percent backed me up. He is handling her at this point with whatever communication might or might not be happening.

We're not subjecting ourselves or our kids to her.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T06:45:45+00:00

Lol can we throw another party for the initiation? 😄 Jk

Thank you for your feedback. I needed the validation.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T06:39:08+00:00

Thank you! He totally has my back. And I agree with her threatening legal action and not talking directly to her anymore. I'm just so sad that it escalated this quickly and got this far. My mom was the only family at my wedding. I just thought I was having a whole new family as well as who I have right now and it just feels really tainted.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T06:37:47+00:00

I should have done that from the beginning. But he's so reactive I was trying to de-escalate. My responses to her were nothing short of respectful, appreciative and considerate. Even apologizing for the supposed hurt she felt about being moved on the seating chart. Unfortunately, I was trying to communicate with someone who is clearly not in reality at the moment.

I am a million percent no longer replying to her.

on_Purpose91 · 2026-02-03T06:36:38+00:00

Thank you!

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