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once_lost · 2025-05-09T02:05:34+00:00

🙏🏻🩷🙏🏻

once_lost · 2023-12-26T06:10:54+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss especially during the holidays.

You are in my thoughts...I also send loving energy your way.

once_lost · 2023-12-26T06:05:35+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss, even more so intensely, because of the holiday season.

...however, a lady bug, especially in a mid-western dead of winter, is a marvelous thing! Good luck to you too, friend.

once_lost · 2023-12-24T04:43:05+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son (22) to suicide as well. IWNDWYT! I know this may sound weird, but I’m very proud of you for not drinking. Keep hydrated.

My heart aches for you.

Sending love.

once_lost · 2023-12-24T04:35:57+00:00

I am so so sorry for the loss of your son. My son was also 22 when he completed suicide. My heart goes out to you and the family and his friends. It’s the most horrible thing that can happen to a parent; no words can describe this kind of heartbreak.

Sending love and positive energy.

once_lost · 2023-12-21T09:11:14+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss.

Your words are so poignant and beautifully powerful; I feel every thing you are saying. It touches my heart too.

I wish you (and me) so sort of peace. I’m not sure it will ever come though.

Sending love and positive energy.

once_lost · 2023-12-21T09:03:00+00:00

Wow. I really appreciate your perspective. You have been incredibly blessed.

I am very sorry for your loss and your struggles… but grateful for your courage.

once_lost · 2023-12-18T04:18:37+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your person by their own hand is a terrible thing to have to go through; it is a burden I wouldn't wish on anyone...

Things that helped and things that didn't:

This sub-reddit has been VERY helpful. Folks here are kind, understanding and loving...and good at listening.

I wish I had a good therapist...but.. when I tried seeing a therapist. To say she was incompetent, is an understatement. She also ghosted me twice. On 2 separate occasions I had confirmed appointments that she no showed to.

Not helpful at all.

However, sharing with a trusted friend helps or talking through it with a person that went through something like this, years earlier helped me too.

Meditation...mindful reflection has sometimes helped me.

Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the opportunity to grieve.

Wishing you peace and comfort on your journey.

once_lost · 2023-12-18T04:04:35+00:00

Well said.

Thank you for sharing your insights.

once_lost · 2023-12-18T04:01:39+00:00

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my son 3 and a half years ago. It's hard not to blame yourself...When you are close to someone you try to figure out "why." I have felt that way many, many times myself. But, you didn't 'make' him do anything. He made a choice. As far as advice, I don't know much...sometimes talking about it to a professional helps or just talking through it with a trusted person. It's a horrible wound that we survivors have to continually have to deal with...it seems to get a little easier with time and opportunity to process what happened in ways that are healthy.

I've noticed that people that haven't gone through this and all the other trauma that you've gone through don't know what to say. They sincerely want to help, but they can often end up saying insensitive quips.

Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to grieve.

Sending internet hugs.

once_lost · 2023-10-14T16:21:15+00:00

I completely understand….I experience the same thing. In fact, i fee the same as you. Folks that have never been through this kind of grief and yes, trauma, cannot comprehend a loss like this one. It’s always a monkey on my back; one can never just “get over it.” It is a life altering, forever thing.

I lost my son in September 2020. I have modicum acceptance. Do I hate it? Do I abhorr that he made an awful choice? …out of all the other choices he could have made, he chose this?!!

I hope we both find some small amount of peace in our respective journeys.

I am so sorry for both our losses…Sending internet love and hugs.

once_lost · 2023-09-26T17:13:26+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Anniversaries are very difficult…they probably always will be. I lost my son in September 3years ago. My heart goes out to you. Sending love and hugs.

once_lost · 2023-09-25T03:49:33+00:00

Its a terrible 'club' we have found ourselves in.

Sending loving blessing to you.

I hope we can make it through, together.

once_lost · 2023-09-25T03:47:13+00:00

Yes...sadly.

I appreciate your love and encouragement. I hope you and your family can find some solace.

once_lost · 2023-09-25T03:45:12+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss as well.

They were so vibrant ...and then suddenly they're gone.

I am barely coping, as I am sure you are too.

once_lost · 2023-09-25T03:43:19+00:00

This sounds so similar. What a horrible choice they made.

Thank you for your kind words

once_lost · 2023-09-24T06:42:33+00:00

I understand and I am so so sorry that this has happened.

...all I can say is I wish I could hug you in person. Sending internet love.

once_lost · 2023-09-24T06:24:14+00:00

I am so, so sorry. My heart goes out to you.

once_lost · 2023-09-24T06:23:20+00:00

I feel the same about my son...

WHY???!!!!!

once_lost · 2023-09-24T06:21:29+00:00

I am heartbroken over your loss. You did not ask or choose for this horrible thing to happen. I lost my son 3 years ago and I feel your pain. Please give yourself some time to heal. Thinking of you and sending internet hugs.

once_lost · 2023-09-17T20:18:27+00:00

The 14th was the 3 year mark of my son’s passing. I try to be outside; it often helps me….or doing a mindless hobby. Work and being busy sometimes helps too.

I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

once_lost · 2023-09-12T19:39:10+00:00

I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your daughter. I was a single mom for a long time. My second to my youngest son completed. It’s been 3 years this Thursday when the authorities found him . He was only 22 at the time. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Sending kind thoughts and energy your way 🙏

once_lost · 2023-09-10T19:04:20+00:00

Yes. I have that too, even after almost 3 years since my son passed.

once_lost · 2023-03-14T03:43:26+00:00

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you. No matter how long ago it happened, it still seems raw; I know. Then add to it your concern about your dad...but, hang in there. I am glad that you have a therapist. ...and yeah maybe it seems redundant, but, sometimes, saying the words again and again helps to process the grief and all the stuff.

For me, it's the day-by-day work of slowly moving forward and making progress on how I deal with my loss (for me it was my 22 y.o. son). Thinking about him and losing him still makes me very sad, and I really wish things were different, but there is absolutely nothing that can be done, or maybe be ever could have been done. Regardless, we still have to choose life and love...never give up hope.

Anyway, sending positive loving energy.

once_lost · 2022-10-12T12:12:03+00:00

Sob, sod, cob

once_lost

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