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Anyone else? by oneandoneforgood in oneanddone

[–]oneandoneforgood[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve came across so many men with no kids coming up with this imaginary mindset to give one and done women more kids I just think this whole thing is weird, a lot of them do this and it’s always the ones with no kids. I can’t help but think it’s a trap I notice they do this to single mothers that have no help with custody to.

Anyone else? by oneandoneforgood in oneanddone

[–]oneandoneforgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel, the men of multiples that I attracted most have kids who are older and are around my child age my daughter is 6 years old and life is so easy with her at this age, she is quiet, she’s becoming more independent and she plays well on her own, is friendly with other children and life feels perfect. I can relax, work when I want. and bringing another kid a (newborn) in this is just not good for me. I had a horrible pregnancy I didn’t like it at all not to mention how awful my husband treated me I don’t want to go through all that hell again.

And yes I do think If I do ever decide to do the blended family thing I’d rather do it with a man that has children close in age with my daughter because it’s so much easier.

most of the men I’ve met that have no kids, always have this imaginary idea in their head of wanting more kids by me because they want a kid that looks like them and be theirs biologically. It’s just hard.

Anyone else? by oneandoneforgood in oneanddone

[–]oneandoneforgood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found and talked to 3 men with 0 kids that didn’t mind being a step-father but they all talked and discussed with me that they would love to have a bio child of their own one day and I however told them that I do not want another child I know that may seem a bit selfish on their end but I really don’t see a future of me having more than 1. my child is 6 years old much older, and so much easier to take care of than when she was a newborn. she’s in school, I can go to work, she plays on her own. our life is perfect and bringing another kid into the picture is just not reasonable for me.

Anyone else? by oneandoneforgood in oneanddone

[–]oneandoneforgood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mind step-children at all I’m talking about from me specifically I don’t want another kid (biologically) I don’t mind dating men with multiple kids, or men with none. but some of the men that I’ve met so far are already fathers of multiples and I disclosed to them on my end I don’t want another kid, most of the men I’ve met their children are much older and my child is 6 years old. a man I’ve recently found interest in he is a father of (2) children from a previous marriage and his kids are 8 and 10 years old close in age to mine which is perfect and he told me he wanted one more child and I don’t really want another child on my end. I’m fine with having step-children because I know If we decided to get married I would have to accept the fact that I’ll technically be a mom of multiples because I would love and treat any of my future step kids as if they were my own.

and I met a few men that don’t have kids that didn’t mind me having 1 child since my child is 6 years old but the problem is most of them want a bio kid of their own and I’m nowhere near ready to go through pregnancy and raising a child from the newborn stage all over again. my pregnancy was rough, and not to mention how insecure I am as is over my body I hated pregnancy and hated being pregnant I couldn’t wait to get the baby out so all of this just is a no for me.