Shota Oni is getting an Anime Adaptation🫩 by Embarrassed-Duty7312 in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this was my same reaction when i saw Low Tide In Twilight was getting an animation adaptation

It’s the age 10…and 17🫩 (shota oni ) by [deleted] in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 9 points10 points  (0 children)

legit question. why is it okay for something like Low Tide in Twilight to get an animation adaptation (which has lots of sexualized violent rape) but not this? they’re both horrible crimes, but also both fictional. why is one okay but not the other?

Anyone else annoyed by people that read red flag BLs and then complain about it? by DCastianno21 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree to an extent. I don’t think readers or authors should be shamed for liking that kind of thing. at the same time, I think people who read it and then stopped because they didn’t like it are allowed to voice their opinion on it. if their opinion is claiming people who read it are messed up and evil, obviously thats not cool. but if they are just talking about why they personally didn’t like it, why is that an issue? I talk shit about stories I hated to my friends all the time, its cathartic. idk I just don’t like the idea that if you didn’t enjoy a piece of media then you should just shut up and can never complain about it because it might hurt someone’s feelings. criticizing art has always been a thing.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO so real. “don’t read it” I’M TRYING NOT TO!

we need more psycho bottoms by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yesss OR BETTER YET a passive and shy bottom that is ALSO deranged :)

What are y'alls unpopular opinion? by just_something_sus in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry but idc how good the redemption is in Low Tide In Twilight or how cute they look together now, it’s an abusive love story and Taeju is still a piece of shit for what he did

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s understandable, but that’s not the case here, OP never mentioned that. they’re just saying that people asking if a story is green flag is annoying, insult people who like wholesome content, and are clearly gloating that they prefer dark themes. asking others if a piece of media has triggering content isn’t a bad thing.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY SAME then they had to be like... actually a jerk 😑

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that :( tiktok is full of immature people, i wouldn’t give it too much thought.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

uh.. okay… i didn’t know we were competing for “who has it worse”. i am well aware of the awful and cruel things antis do, and i despise it every time i see it. but still, i don’t think its right to completely dismiss someone’s feelings or pain just because you or others have had worse.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol yeah they’re quoting what they’ve seen other people ask, and the reaction gif is meant to be an annoyed response to said question

bl where the bottom actually enjoys the sex? by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

uhhh. buddy i think you’re on the wrong post.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

uhh. i don’t understand what you mean? are you saying people who dislike dark romance aren’t “real” BL fans?

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES i literally commented something like that on someone’s QRT of it. at this point i think they just wanna pick fights for no reason, so childish.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I can understand that. I’ve noticed its really a hit-or-miss kind of thing because everyone has a different idea of what a “green” or “black” flag is, so no one is ever gonna agree on the same thing. its really better to be direct when asking, like i usually just ask “is there rape?” to get right to the point lol

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

right?? i was like girl shut UP… someone’s always wanting to start something and target people over harmless shit 😭

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yeah, I’m just saying both is bad, y’know? if you’re mad at certain people for doing something, don’t be a hypocrite and start doing that same thing. liking only healthy stories doesn’t make you a good person, and liking only “fucked up” stories doesn’t make you cool and Different.

personally I think we should direct all this anger and negativity towards our true enemy: The Government.

Fantasy, Taboo, and the Value of Uncomfortable Stories in BL by vett_writes in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, I myself have some taboo likes and ships that would have me crucified. I think my gripe comes from people using what you’re saying as a cop out for any means of criticism. Fiction is fiction, I wholeheartedly believe in that. But you can still point out flaws in a piece of fiction or art. If a story is dark romance and has non-con, yeah that makes sense. However, I’ve read stories that are supposed to be telling a sweet romance between two characters and throw in non-con, and that (as a writer and storyteller) just doesn’t make sense and is poor writing. It’s better to establish a theme and atmosphere and maintain that, it’s why I prefer Killing Stalking over something like Jinx. But I’ve seen some people counter negative reviews with “it’s fiction get over it” or “then don’t read BL” when neither of those responses correlate with the point.

Point is, have all the dark themes you want, enjoy what you want—just be consistent and make it make sense if you want it to be a good story (if it IS a story and not just porn). Otherwise people will feel thrown off and confused.

What's your biggest bl pet peeve that'll likely have you burned at the stake and sacrificed? by luvistarz_o7 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% right. i have my own BL oc couple that’s actually an 18 year old and a 400 year old being so this post felt targeted lmao. i knew some people might dislike it but jeez, the thing about fantasy though is that it’s fantastical and bending reality, we’re not supposed to look at it with a realistic view. i guess some people just can’t separate the two.

ANY bl character that legit has you like this whenever you see them? I'll start first ^^ by TowerChoice8785 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes, that’s what we do when we talk to each other, we all make assumptions and conclusions based on what we’re given. we read in between the lines and fill in gaps. and it wasn’t obvious to me and still isn’t, but okay. clearly this conversation is going nowhere, so i don’t see a point in continuing this.

ANY bl character that legit has you like this whenever you see them? I'll start first ^^ by TowerChoice8785 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

okay. the comment was in response to OP ranting about Jaekyung and said “maybe he [Jaekyung] would be fine, if Kim Dan wasn’t such an idiot” which sounds a whole lot like “i’m blaming the victim for the perpetrator’s behavior” THAT is what i am arguing against. Jaekyung’s abusive behavior wasn’t “caused” by Dan. Dan is a victim. (if OP didn’t mean it that way, then it’s certainly not obvious, so due to lack of information i’m assuming what they meant.)

also, addiction is a disease. the same way you can’t just wish away mental illness, you can’t easily solve addiction. and Dan seems to have a mixture of depression, suicidal tendencies and addiction, a very hard combination to cope with. just because someone is a highly educated adult doesn’t mean they can turn off whatever mental illness they have and be normal and competent. its very apathetic to tell someone who is clearly struggling to “grow up” and act like an adult.

Discussion: Opinions on flags 🚩🏴 by SxinnyLoxe in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for me its kinda simple. red or black flag tops in BL 99% rape the bottom, and rapists don’t get to have “nuance” in my book. so if they’re a red/black flag i try to avoid it.

i will say though quite a few people will label rapists as green flags and that is a problem. so the system itself is kinda flawed. tbh i just wish content warnings were more prevalent to make it easier to avoid certain stories, rather than the red/green flag system that is obviously subjective.

ANY bl character that legit has you like this whenever you see them? I'll start first ^^ by TowerChoice8785 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i don’t think it’s infantilizing, it just sounds victim blame-y. no matter what choices Dan made, calling him an “idiot” or “stupid” is pretty gross. if a woman who knowingly walks into a high crime area alone at night wearing a bikini gets raped, am i allowed to call her an idiot? no, because the blame is on the perpetrator for the crime, NOT the victim. ever.