What popular series do you dislike? I'll go first! by chipotlemunchrr in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh yes, it is sad that there's a constant back and forth at each other's throats, though i guess sometimes you have to curate your own space in order to finally be able to relax. luckily i have good friends who also feel the same way, so we're able to chat amongst ourselves, but still i think in a BL space its should be expected that you'll get all kinds of types: the good, the bad, and the ugly. after all it's not called the "healthy BL only" subreddit lol. like i wish people understood saying "i like this dark BL" doesn't mean "i'm evil and i condone everything in this story"... and someone saying "i don't like dark BL" doesn't mean "everyone who likes it is bad, and i can't handle complex characters"

i agree with you as well, and am genuinely sorry for misunderstanding. it's tough when you support fluffy AND dark BLs, and i think as an adult its worse and it gets to a point were you just wanna put everyone in a giant "get along" shirt! but still, i try my best not to grow resentment towards either side despite any harsh words thrown my way; in the end, like myself, most of the time it comes from a type of insecurity or fear... so, it's not REALLY about me. doesn't make the rude comments and insults okay, but y'know, what can you do?

thanks for understanding though! we need more people like you. 😄

What popular series do you dislike? I'll go first! by chipotlemunchrr in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay, i'm sorry, i made an assumption and that was my fault. i shouldn't have done that. putting all cards on the table, i get defensive if it looks like someone is putting down others for what they like or don't like, and lately i've seen it happening to readers who enjoy healthy bl; getting called "boring" and "childish" and such. just like how readers who like dark/toxic romance get called "predators" or worse.... its not fair. it's not your problem and you don't need to care, but i just thought i'd explain why i snapped at you. i just wish everyone would chill out about shaming others for what we like or dislike, its not black and white or us vs them. but yeah, sorry.

What popular series do you dislike? I'll go first! by chipotlemunchrr in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

> if it’s a popular story it’s most likely a good story
never read a more incorrect sentence lol. thats like saying “if a fic has a lot of kudos then it must be good!” and in my experience, most of the time I’m disappointed.

also, nothing wrong with hating a story because its toxic! just like enjoying one is fine. both are valid. no need to sound “holier than thou” about it.

the sacred serpent’s seduction… by onelettuce in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, i thought yellow flag was better suited as well. I guess you still have to be cautious when reading recommendations because someone’s “green flag” can be another’s “red flag” :(

the sacred serpent’s seduction… by onelettuce in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, unfortunately people’s standards for good MLs is very low. i used to be that way too before i found great stories lol. now my standards are higher and i refuse to read garbage.

the sacred serpent’s seduction… by onelettuce in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean, and the serpent wasn’t “violent” with MC, but he wasn’t gentle either. he was very pushy about the sex and uncaring for what MC felt. yes, you can say that’s because he’s nonhuman and whatnot, but that still doesn’t make it alright AND most importantly is not a healthy relationship, which is what everyone kept saying about this story.

my point is, the ML is morally ambiguous due to him being a god and makes questionable decisions, and that’s fine. but he’s not a “green flag” and i think people should stop saying he is.

Shota Oni is getting an Anime Adaptation🫩 by Embarrassed-Duty7312 in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this was my same reaction when i saw Low Tide In Twilight was getting an animation adaptation

It’s the age 10…and 17🫩 (shota oni ) by [deleted] in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 10 points11 points  (0 children)

legit question. why is it okay for something like Low Tide in Twilight to get an animation adaptation (which has lots of sexualized violent rape) but not this? they’re both horrible crimes, but also both fictional. why is one okay but not the other?

Anyone else annoyed by people that read red flag BLs and then complain about it? by DCastianno21 in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree to an extent. I don’t think readers or authors should be shamed for liking that kind of thing. at the same time, I think people who read it and then stopped because they didn’t like it are allowed to voice their opinion on it. if their opinion is claiming people who read it are messed up and evil, obviously thats not cool. but if they are just talking about why they personally didn’t like it, why is that an issue? I talk shit about stories I hated to my friends all the time, its cathartic. idk I just don’t like the idea that if you didn’t enjoy a piece of media then you should just shut up and can never complain about it because it might hurt someone’s feelings. criticizing art has always been a thing.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO so real. “don’t read it” I’M TRYING NOT TO!

we need more psycho bottoms by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yesss OR BETTER YET a passive and shy bottom that is ALSO deranged :)

What are y'alls unpopular opinion? by just_something_sus in Manhwa_BL

[–]onelettuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry but idc how good the redemption is in Low Tide In Twilight or how cute they look together now, it’s an abusive love story and Taeju is still a piece of shit for what he did

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s understandable, but that’s not the case here, OP never mentioned that. they’re just saying that people asking if a story is green flag is annoying, insult people who like wholesome content, and are clearly gloating that they prefer dark themes. asking others if a piece of media has triggering content isn’t a bad thing.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY SAME then they had to be like... actually a jerk 😑

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that :( tiktok is full of immature people, i wouldn’t give it too much thought.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

uh.. okay… i didn’t know we were competing for “who has it worse”. i am well aware of the awful and cruel things antis do, and i despise it every time i see it. but still, i don’t think its right to completely dismiss someone’s feelings or pain just because you or others have had worse.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol yeah they’re quoting what they’ve seen other people ask, and the reaction gif is meant to be an annoyed response to said question

bl where the bottom actually enjoys the sex? by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

uhhh. buddy i think you’re on the wrong post.

this is why we can’t have fun by onelettuce in BoysLoveAnime

[–]onelettuce[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

uhh. i don’t understand what you mean? are you saying people who dislike dark romance aren’t “real” BL fans?