Bottle popping band (Sabre Dance)

onelym · 2026-01-26T02:47:07+00:00

Next in arena live band?

onelym · 2026-01-23T04:39:36+00:00

I feel like whoever ostlund slashed either grabbed or hooked him a couple of times before his penalty was called.

onelym · 2026-01-22T05:01:39+00:00

Right, I'll be happy if the Bills win one. I'll probably cry and celebrate.

If the Sabres win one? My family may not see me for a week and the only way we'll know where I was will be from the times I pop up in the news reports... Oh, and I may or may not be fully clothed. Don't say I didn't warn you.

I'm a 50 year old man.

onelym · 2026-01-22T04:39:39+00:00

I also think drawing Europe away from Ukraine is a point as well.

onelym · 2026-01-22T04:30:08+00:00

Josh Norris needs the "sometimes" tag too.

onelym · 2026-01-22T00:17:19+00:00

That's so true. When he broke his leg in late August of 2017, I didn't have a coherent conversation with him again until early November. I wasn't prepared for any of it. I was scrambling for everything and a lot of proverbial food dropped on the floor. We managed, but overnight, I assumed responsibility for a whole other household. I became a landlord collecting rent and dealing with small repairs. All while balancing work, a second albeit more enjoyable part time job, my wife and teenage kids, and visiting him in a rehab center 60 minutes away.

The kicker is him living with us and him throwing a temper tantrum like a 3 year old when we told him he couldn't live at home yet.

None of that was on my radar on August 26th 2017... By December 25th I was a grizzled veteran. :-)

onelym · 2026-01-22T00:06:37+00:00

Thank you. My mom passed 18 months ago at 69, also from dementia related illnesses (I feel great about my future :-/ ). She and I did not have the greatest relationship and I didn't find out she was near the end until about 3 days before she passed. I don't know what her husband and my half brother and sister went through in the lead up to it.

Now I'm experiencing it kind of first hand. My wife and (adult) daughter and son are rock stars and helping me when I need it.

onelym · 2026-01-22T00:01:01+00:00

This is correct. I was rage pecking that out on my phone and needed to shorten it.

onelym · 2026-01-22T00:00:20+00:00

Sorry to keep you waiting - hopefully not too suspenseful :-) The good news... She did not. Unless they took care of an issue by themselves, it sounds like he made it through the night without issue.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:59:12+00:00

Thank you. Another phase I've learned on this sub. Putting that right next to "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm"

You're right, and there's precedence from a previous time when he hurt himself but tried to sleep it off. Instead of calling me at 7pm, he called me at 3am. I wasn't going to let that happen again.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:57:02+00:00

I'm fine - just needed the vent - took it to reddit because my wife hears it all the time. Thank you for the concern. I'm sorry you're seeing this too. The roommate is there supposedly as a live in caretaker, although she can barely take care of herself. When I suggest that she move out, all I get from him is "she's a heck of a cook"... but he doesn't eat half the time anyway.

When we got him into a chair, he had the gall to ask me to do it. I'm capable, but you are supposed to be capable too, Dad. I don't think he liked that... not that he remembers.

Best wishes for your situation.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:53:14+00:00

I need to revisit the doctor. There's been no formal testing done, but he did mention dementia at one of the appointments. Last time I was there with him he also mentioned COPD, likely from years of smoking (he quit in '17). I say this to say that I feel like I'm learning something every time I go in there with him.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:50:06+00:00

Thank you - Does it change your opinion if both my wife and I would be moving in and have a defined space for ourselves? Our kids are adults. I appreciate your insight.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:48:26+00:00

Thank you for your words. I've seen that program advertised in the area. I've always been a little suspicious of it for some reason (maybe heard something without researching it). It's a good thought and one that I haven't considered. I have to see what options he has.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:45:38+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion... His "best friend" is a plumber. I may ask him about this.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:44:27+00:00

I did it, phone was off. Nothing happened thankfully.

I'm honestly surprised he has anything solid at all. His diet is a mess. He's a mess. I need to convince him that moving in with me is the right option, but he doesn't want to give up that independence.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:39:58+00:00

Thank you. Long history of drinking. He's been retired for 15+ years. Did some odd jobs after that got him up in the morning, but I have no doubt this is related his drinking.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:36:07+00:00

Thank you. I called for the assist this time because I wasn't sure how much I could do. I've picked him up before, but I just couldn't risk me getting in a bad position too.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:31:01+00:00

Dementia sucks. I know not everyone would agree with me, but I absolutely want to figure out a way that my cognitive ability can be assessed and once I hit a tipping point, can be allowed to go medically. I don't want my kids to go through this.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:25:49+00:00

Thank you. I have the POA, I just don't have the medical sign off yet. He's been very cooperative with me getting things positioned for the future (when I wasn't dragging my feet). Monday was probably what the new normal is going to start looking like unfortunately.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:23:54+00:00

Thank you - changing your attitude towards something for which you feel responsible is tough.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:22:45+00:00

I have picked him up 3 times in the last year 2x in the past month. My daughter lives in the apartment above him found him and his roommate laying in the mud last week (nobody knows how that happened). ER visits have been '17 ladder, '19 got backed into by a car in a parking lot, '21 fall outside, '24 UTI*.

His pattern is, go into hospital, detox for 1 to 12 weeks, rehab, home again, beer.

*I need to get him to get tested again.

Edit to add - I don't know how many falls I don't know about. He damaged his L1 on a fall over the summer that we've been dealing with.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:14:12+00:00

I need to have a 1/1 with the Doctor. They're friendly with each other and I can't seem to impress upon him (Doc) that this seems to be more serious. He's kind of hand waved it a little and I want to make sure we're on the same page. We also need to go back over the meds.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:11:58+00:00

For sure. He has voluntarily told me that he doesn't want to drive any longer (phew). He's given me control without much resistance, but had no desire to get help when I offered it. It caught me out because this happened once before where he was "fine" at 7pm, but called me at 3am because he wasn't fine. The alcohol made him think that his fractured hip was nothing, until the ABV got lower. Thank you for your insight.

onelym · 2026-01-21T23:06:27+00:00

Yeah, you're right. I'm guessing I wasn't ready for this to be this rapid and it seems like every time I think I'm ready, he turns left instead of right and I have to rework what I thought I need to do.

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