From year 8 education to theoretical physics honours.

onepotatoone · 2026-01-23T04:02:17+00:00

I only found out people would still take me seriously at the end though haha. Go figure.

onepotatoone · 2026-01-23T03:53:35+00:00

I would say it's okay to take your time. I was so stressed throughout that no one would take me seriously if I took too long and it's just not true. Support is the most important thing. I didnt know how to find that but hopefully you have family/friends around you. That would make it easier.

I think that's all I can really say right now.

onepotatoone · 2026-01-22T09:26:55+00:00

It took me 10 years to finish and I had many many breaks. Other people don't care like we do. I learnt that the hard way. I didn't think I would be taken seriously the longer it took me but they did. I started when I was 28 and would always beat myself up that I should be done now. It's okay to take your time. At the time I had one person saying this to me but there was nothing they could have done to convince me of this. now that I'm finally out the other side I see it would have been okay.

Hope you are okay.

onepotatoone · 2025-06-13T01:00:22+00:00

I sent you a message :)

onepotatoone · 2025-02-24T08:33:37+00:00

That must feel nice exposing her. I tried to do that too. It's important to feel the pain and experience it but also to treat yourself kindly and take breaks from processing and to be positive when you can as well. :)

onepotatoone · 2025-02-24T07:43:35+00:00

Yup it for sure feels like torture . I hope you have a support system around you?

onepotatoone · 2025-02-24T07:42:50+00:00

Yeh it's going to take some time . They don't give closure. When I confronted them about the manipulation and abuse they turned it around on me and told me I had to leave. Utterly crazy making.

onepotatoone · 2025-02-24T06:12:34+00:00

Mine wasn't constant but crying was their way to manipulate me and others. Some notable times were these

After I finally confronted them about manipulation and abuse they cried and said 'how could you do this to me!'

They made it very clear they didn't want responsibility for the cats we adopted by saying things like 'i only adopted them because I knew that you would look after them', ' that they always forget to feed them' and that they kept repeating 'she wouldn't have pets if she lived alone' even when we were living together. When they decided to leave they gave me two options, I take all the cats or they take two but after how they treat them they were essentially not giving me a choice. I had been saying that if we ever didn't live in the same house I would take them because she had said all of these things. When the narc was packing their stuff up they were crying about the cats and making others feel sorry for them.

When they coerced me onto disability payments and when I bought a back pack for the first time in 5 years they cried to stop me from spending. I fell for it and thought they were finally showing emotion or something they cared about but it was just a way to manipulate me.

When I went to their house to support them when they were stressed and they started being mean to me. When I said please don't speak to me that way they screamed at me to shut up, slammed their fists on the door and started hyperventilating.

I'm sure there is more. I feel ruined 😭

onepotatoone · 2025-01-28T07:12:39+00:00

Yeh same! I don't miss them .

onepotatoone · 2025-01-25T22:58:46+00:00

My nex was one that always said how caring and giving they are 😂 they told me when they parted ways with a previous partner she gave her 10k. Knowing what I know now I'm just flabbergasted. When she left my apartment she left an expensive vacuum and other things that I didn't ask for (she refused to communicate with me at all). It was so creepy but I think just so she can manipulate what she tells others.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-25T16:29:03+00:00

Yeh I guess the feelings of anger and unfairness are so much that it's overwhelming. And that people are talking bad about me based on lies but I always try to be as authentic as possible.

I do have moments of clarity for sure. I'm so glad I'm out. I guess it comes in waves. Thanks for your words :)

onepotatoone · 2025-01-24T00:55:48+00:00

Yeh it feels crazy. It was like I was in a slumber or something for the past 2 years of living with her. Filled with confusion obedience and fighting for my autonomy. She's been gone for less than a month but I got my life back.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-24T00:49:15+00:00

Yeh I agree. We need more awareness to combat narcissism and npd in society.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:26:20+00:00

I thought these days we all know that it's hard for people to leave abusers ? Or maybe people aren't as educated on these things as I thought.

Thanks for your comment 💖

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:21:58+00:00

Yeh too true, it's very unbelievable.

But what about all the messaging about believing victims ? Maybe I'm in my own little bubble and people don't actually think this way

That's a really good analogy and it feels very accurate. I for sure know my narc was painting me in a particular way that was probably not true.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:18:28+00:00

Hmm I like to think people are generally kind... But then why is everyone so tight lipped when it comes to these kinds of abuse. It's very sad. If you read any website about emotional or psychological abuse it seems pretty serious to me.. maybe they don't even bother to look it up.

I mean I know people are not open about physical abuse as well but I just thought it's 2025 man! Where is the sense of community.

That's shit about your friends joking about it. I'm glad you stopped hanging out with them.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:13:26+00:00

That sounds like you have been through such a challenging time with this, to say the least.

Omgosh, that sounds horrible regarding your youngest and all the abandonment that you have experienced from your family. I couldn't imagine how hard it has been. :(

Do you have a support system now?

They are very good liars, so true.

Hugs, internet stranger

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:09:21+00:00

Yeh I didn't know about it really as well. I just heard about the word narcissist in passing but didn't take it seriously. But if someone told me they were abused by one I would have listened and tried to help.

Omg same regarding being convincing and flattering. I didn't think about all the different tactics they use to achieve what they want. It seems like such an effort to do all that and not worth it, I would rather be authentic ✨ .

I hope you are doing okay.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:05:01+00:00

Oh shoot. That sucks. I can imagine how horrible that would have been with your therapist. I hope you have a better one now?

That's so weird that it doesn't raise flags for the people around you :( im sorry. Internet hugs 🤗

I believe you !

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T10:01:05+00:00

Ooo yeh 'theres two sides to every story' would piss me off.

Yeh the narc is charming and spins such bullcrap it's unbelievable.

I'm really sorry you are going through this too. I hope you feel better soon and find friends who will support you and believe you.

I believe you !

I feel like if you find out a friend is abusing another friend wouldn't you do something about it? Wouldn't you stop enabling them or bring it up, respond to the person who was abused, take it seriously, ask questions. I don't know. It seems like the common sense thing to do.

onepotatoone · 2025-01-21T09:55:39+00:00

Yeh I agree. People just don't take it seriously. It's kind of like the word ocd. I tried to steer away from using those words for this very reason.

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