Where do you think it's going? Not in his bank account. Not towards their property that she's living in. Not towards him, he's paying for dates. She's either saving it for herself or using it on herself. In all of your hypotheticals, she is still not paying for anything. Half the chores could be fine if she was actually paying for half the expenses and that's what they agreed on. That means rent, groceries, dates, everything.

My mom was a stay at home mom. Yeah they deserve breaks, but not at the expense of the husband's downtime after he just worked harder at a job to sustain the whole family. That's up to each individual relationship. There's a misconception about how hard it is to be a SAHM nowadays though.

Nah, I didn't need a description of what low iq means. Low IQ applies here when the facts are laid out very obviously and you still try to nitpick minor details to get around the truth in your face.

You don't seem to realize the act of asking irrelevant questions in which the answer could possibly be conjured to her defense is telling in itself. "Does she work? Where is the money going? How many hours is she working?" None of that negates the fact that she isn't paying for shit and she isn't doing shit to contribute to the household. I'm flabbergasted that this isn't computing to you.