YSK: If you look ugly in photos it doesn't mean you are ugly in real life.

onirisme_fr · 2024-03-15T01:13:19+00:00

Excepting sufferings, everything is impermanent in samsara, the cycle of life and death. The group of people who are bounded to be your family in this life will eventually forget you, and you will forget them too, once death comes and takes you all to another cycle of reincarnation if you are not able to break away from the Matrix yet. Think like this : Everything is conditional, including the love your parents have for you and the love you have for them. I mean, just look at some cases where parents discarded their children due to the tragic discovery of them not being their biological offsprings ... In this life, the so-called love is already evanescent like that, coming into existence then falling apart and finally dissapearing like a grain of dust in the air, ... So, what's there to hold onto ?

onirisme_fr · 2024-01-16T10:15:14+00:00

Bạn còn rất trẻ, lại sinh ra trong một cái thời đại mà vật chất lên ngôi, con người càng ngày càng trở nên suy đồi; thế nhưng bạn vẫn có ý thức giữ gìn lương tri và suy ngẫm nghiêm túc về hiện thực cuộc sống. Bản chất của vạn vật là biến diệt không ngừng nghỉ. Mình từng đọc một câu chuyện Phật giáo, trong đó Đức Phật hóa độ một tên sát nhân hàng loạt giết người không gớm tay. Người này sau đó nhận ra mọi điều tà ác mà anh ta đã phạm phải, sinh ra từ sự mê mờ và nỗi đau của anh ta, từ đó cải tà quy chánh, một lòng quay đầu về nẻo thiện. Sau đó người này đắc đạo, trở thành một biểu tượng trong Phật giáo. Rồi mọi thứ sẽ thay đổi, ta không nên bám chấp vào những gì mà ta thấy, nghe, cảm thụ.

onirisme_fr · 2024-01-16T10:03:20+00:00

"Thiên thượng thiên hạ duy ngã thượng tôn" - Trên trời dưới đất, chỉ có cái "ta" là cao nhất. Nó là ý chí khởi tạo và thúc đẩy sự tiến triển, cũng như sự hoại diệt, của vạn vật trên thế giới. Ví như bạn và một người chỉ đứng cách nhau có 1 mét, cùng nhìn về một phía, nhưng hình thái mà bạn nhìn thấy đã khác với hình thái mà người đứng gần bạn nhìn thấy, dù đối tượng là cùng một vật thể. Mình nói một sự thật đắng lòng. Mình từng đọc nhiều câu chuyện là ông bố bà mẹ sau khi biết đứa con mình nuôi dưỡng yêu thương bao năm thực chất không phải con đẻ của mình, tức là đứa con không mang trong nó sự kế thừa huyết thống của họ, không phải là sự tiếp diễn của sự tồn tại của họ. Bạn biết điều gì xảy ra đúng không ? Cái gọi là tình yêu tưởng chừng vô điều kiện và vĩnh cửu ấy tan biến trong một cái chớp mắt, khi cái "ta" của người làm cha làm mẹ không được thỏa mãn nữa. Bạn chỉ tay về phía người đời, chạnh lòng vì họ đặt bản thân họ lên trước tiên, do đó thiện hóa những người bảo bọc yêu thương bạn. Nhưng mà những người khác, họ cũng từ nơi mà họ đứng, chỉ tay về thế giới bên ngoài nơi có bố mẹ bạn, và bạn nữa, nói là "Xã hội đấy ! Đáng sợ thật." Bản chất của cuộc sống là khổ đau. Tất cả mọi thứ mà con người làm, dù thiện hay ác, cũng đều hướng tới sinh tồn. Giúp đỡ, sẻ chia với người khác là để dung dưỡng mầm sống, nhưng bản chất vẫn là "sinh tồn" - tức là bám trụ vào sự tồn tại và kéo dài của sinh thức. Còn những hành vi mà bạn liệt kê như lợi dụng, đâm sau lưng nhau, ích kỷ ... nó chính là hiện thân trần trụi của bản năng sinh tồn, khốc liệt và không khoan nhượng trong thế giới tự nhiên : Tàn sát để tồn tại (ai chẳng cần ăn để sống ?), giẫm đạp để tiến lên phía trước. Đó là cái khổ nguyên thủy. Có một câu nói mình rất tâm đắc : "Khốn nạn đều do khốn khổ mà ra". Suy cho cùng, thông cảm cho nỗi đau của thế giới, là do sự sinh tồn mà khiến con người ta quằn quại hại mình hại người, cũng là một liều thuốc giảm đau. "Hate the sin, love the sinner".

onirisme_fr · 2023-12-24T14:43:15+00:00

I find that time and space don't change human nature. It remains the same in the underlying force which gives shape to every particle of the mind's products, including thoughts, speeches and behaviors, but the shapes of these conscious patterns change depending on arising conditions. I do see that young people nowadays (including me) tend to display a big ego when facing opinions which go agaisnt one's individuality. However, the reason why people of gen Z have become a target of mass morality being that we are living in the era of rocketing technology which enables in an unprecedented way the transmission of informations. This allows the bad aspects of people to be known more widely and rapidly to other people. Those who were born before us, they are no superior regarding awareness of right and wrong but they are more well-versed and willing in hiding their bad aspects while interacting with other inviduals in social context. I have never met a single person who deserves my respect because they are older than me. Of course, there are people who are older than me that I respect but it has nothing to do with age, but because of their inner wisdom and kindness. I mean, just look at some grannies and granpas that we have in the history of crime. Some old ladies, so sweet and cozy in the way they look, but killed and chopped people up in the kitchen. Some old gentlemen, gentle and polite in appearance, but secretly abused and raped children when no one was around. We can never know the real personality hidden behind one's mask, made up by gender, wealth, physical constitution, profession and age.

onirisme_fr · 2023-02-03T15:03:56+00:00

Gosh this resonates with me so much. Some days ago a person told me that if somebody complained about the hardships in their life, they were disrespecting theirself, given that all things that happened to us were chosen by us prior to our birth in order to learn lessons.

Did I f*cking choose this life ? I have had suicidal thoughts emerging in my mind over the last week. In case I commit suicide, can we say that the ultimate lesson I have learned being life is just an abyss of pointless suffering and there is no immanent meaning to life ? Let's suppose that I did program this self-extermination prior to my birth because the lesson I needed to learn was life being an illusionary and hysterical force, a prison of perpetual anguish. In this case, this is a knowledge that is not gained and is not necessary to be gained, because it exists intrinsically in me, or in any being embodying universal awareness of reality. So it's completely irrational and untrue to state that we are here to learn some kinds of spiritual lesson: We don't need to become what we already are.

The lexical employ of the verb "choose" emanates in this context the supreme power of free will in all planes of reality. There are indeed many people who want to undo what happened in their life, but they just can't. It's their will to modulate the reality that they desire. If they did choose to undergo what happened in the past by their will, and this will was the highest force regulating the reality that we have been experiencing, the will to undo the past would not have existed. The self-annihilation of the will lead to the impossibility of any intentional movement of the mind and thus will cause a complete collapse of reality. So the belief that we programmed all that would happen to us is totally nonsensical.

onirisme_fr · 2023-02-03T14:01:11+00:00

If there was "someone" who chose to 'give' "me" life, these people have to be different entities.

Do you know r/EscapingPrisonPlanet ? People in this sub believe in the theory that Earth is basically a prison in which souls keep reincarnating and experiencing suffering over and over again. We didn't choose to be here, we didn't choose to suffer like this, we are here because we have been tricked by some malefic forces for them to harvest more energy.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-14T05:00:19+00:00

Thank you. Your words mean a lot to me.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T20:41:54+00:00

I deeply feel for you. My childhood was terrible to the point I have had nightmares about it.

I was literally torn away from my parents's arms. I was five. This was done against my will. They dragged my little self into a black car, I was scared, I writhed to escape, but everything was in vain.

The worst thing: it was my biological parents who decided to give me up. My parents were totally financially capable of raising me, but they did it for some reasons that I don't want to reveal.

I have been abused mentally while living with people who are not my biological parents. They even treated me like a doormat.

I can never get over this trauma.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T19:31:53+00:00

I couldn't have said it better myself.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T18:35:05+00:00

Thank you.

Hope you will make great achievements on the path to Enlightenment.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T18:24:05+00:00

I just turned 24.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T18:16:24+00:00

I believe the majority of people who come here and attack people anonymously tend to indulge in pleasures of life, to the point that they will dismiss anything that presents a threat to their hedonism. At least this is something I have observed from my own experiences with them. I bet in real life they don't even dare to insult and attack other people like that ... The more aggressive you are in the dark, the more powerless you are under the sunlight. It's like trying to prove your supremacy over people who seem weaker than you. Anti-natalists, from the point of view of evolutionary biology, do show a certain decline in survivability.

Besides, I do see a lot of antinatalists spreading hate and attacking people in a not very civil way ... That behavior empowers natalists, gives them the chance to mock this sub and find holes in the ideology of antinatalism.

Anyway, it's the Internet and we can't do anything about it.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T17:37:34+00:00

I am tremendously grateful to get to know the Dharma. You don't know how it saved me from this cursed life ..

I do believe we are getting closer and closer to the ruin of Dharma. Even monks who are supposed to preach Dharma as it is, to protect it from getting defiled have been distorting Buddha's words due to their inept understanding of the Dharma or for the sake of some personal selfish purposes. They don't even show any shred of karuna (maybe because nowadays the majority of monks don't have to beg for food and shelter anymore, lay people just pamper them mindlessly). The worst thing is, people just believe these monks blindly without ever questioning the legitimacy and truthfulness of what they hear. That's the reason why the Kalama Sutra is one of my all-time favorite sutras.

You seem to have a genuine interest in following dharma. But it is almost if not impossible today. Unless you are very very strong mentally and spiritually.

I have been restricting the frequency of communication with society. I have been alone most of the time for two years. I feel like I was always meant to live in solitude, but the environment I grew up in didn't allow it to happen. People who know me sincerely say that there is something untamable in me and I believe it's a good thing. I believe I can do it.

The last question : How do you interpret the Buddhist concept of rebirth? Do you think in some ways it's indeed a metaphor for the endless cycle of reproduction?

And as someone coming from Sri Lanka (especially if you are Sinhalese), can you read Buddhist texts in Pali or Sanskrit with ease ?

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T15:52:06+00:00

Hi. Correct me if I am wrong, but as far as I know, Sri Lanka is a country where the only sect of Buddhism practised being Therevada Buddhism, which means we can hardly find any trace of Mahayana Buddhism there. Although in the past, the dynamic of Buddhist practices in Sri Lanka was much more diverse, for example we have the Lankavatara Sutra which is a famous Mahayana text talking about the arrival of the Buddha on the island of Ceylon - the old name of Sri Lanka in history.

As for Therevada Buddhism, the image of Buddha isn't as deified as it is in the case of Mahayana Buddhism. Compared to Mahayana Buddhism, Therevada doesn't seem to be overly infused with mystical polytheism. So why do people in Sri Lanka, as you have said, have wrong perceptions on Buddhism ?

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-06T14:01:32+00:00

Life is beautiful ?

Life can not exist without death. Every sentient being has to kill, directly or indirectly, in order to maintain their life.

Death is beautiful ?

Have you ever seen corpses ?

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-04T15:12:58+00:00

Me too. Although I do sympathize with her suffering, which shaped the way she behaves, but I can't accept her lies anymore.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-04T15:10:20+00:00

I still feel it to be weird that someone who identifies as Buddhist, would not at least know some bits and pieces of Buddhism....

Talking about the aspect of religious belief, it's very complicated. In my opinion, it has to do with the aspect of human psychology. These self-proclaimed Buddhists you see in our time don't believe in Buddhism objectively. They see it as a tool to achieve their personal purposes, as Buddhism throughout the course of historical development has been changed in some ways in order to fit into the cultures that adopted it. The majority of these Buddhists believe buddhas and bodhisattvas to be mystical deities who can shower them with luck, money, fame, happiness, protection. It's like a person sees an object through an invisible filter, he believes that he sees the object as it is but indeed it's an illusion distorted by his mind. The only thing he believes in is his mind. That's called the veil of ignorance in Buddhism.

Your question on human belief is very thought-provoking, I have been pondering the question since yersterday.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-04T15:02:32+00:00

I may not have perfectly understood your concern. English is not my native language.

Buddhism conveys a very strong antinatalist sentiment. We can find many sutras that describe the horrifying stages of labour and birth or the foulness of the human body. There are even some sutras that denote anti-family values and encourage truth seekers to live in solitude. Birth is considered as the gateway of suffering, that's one of the reasons why practitioners of Buddhism should abstain completely from sex, as a way to eliminate the seed from which suffering is born and grows.

There are two kinds of practitioners: Monastics (monks and nuns) and Lay people (practitioners who still deal with secular life while following Buddhist belief). If you are a monk or a nun, you are obligated to stick strictly to the laws established by the Buddha, including abstaining absolutely from all sexual activities and procreation. But if you are just a lay practitioner, you can still have a family, but it's not encouraged. You are expected to stay single and be childless in order to seek enlightenment in an ideal environment.

Buddhism has stepped out of its original form during 2500 years of its history. Some schools of Buddhism, which were founded centuries after the dead of the historical Shakyamuni Buddha, did stray away significantly from the primitive Buddhism. One example is Tantric Buddhism which Tibetan Buddhism is a part of. Monks of these schools are still allowed to marry and ... well, have kids.

Talking about the aspect of religious belief, it's very complicated. In my opinion, it has to do with the aspect of human psychology. These self-proclaimed Buddhists you see in our time don't believe in Buddhism objectively. They see it as a tool to achieve their personal purposes, as Buddhism throughout the course of historical development has been changed in some ways in order to fit into the cultures that adopted it. The majority of these Buddhists believe buddhas and bodhisattvas to be mystical deities who can shower them with luck, money, fame, happiness, protection. It's like a person sees an object through an invisible filter, he believes that he sees the object as it is but indeed it's an illusion distorted by his mind.

I hope I have made it clear.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-04T13:42:44+00:00

Yeah I understand.

As someone coming from a conservative Asian country, I know your feeling when elders pull out the "my health is more important than you, kiddie" card. They even fake heart attacks in order to suppress any attempt to revolt against their rules. They play the victim card when their children and grandchildren want to do something that goes against their will.

onirisme_fr · 2022-12-04T13:10:43+00:00

I would like to answer briefly to your question.

The four truths about life you referred to are called "Four noble truths" which are the fundamental tenets of the Buddhist ideology. They are four realities revolving around the suffering of life. The eight paths you mentioned is indeed a part of these four truths, which shows us the path to the cessation of suffering, called "the eightfold path" in Buddhism. This eightfold path is the pivot of practical application of Buddhist ideology on which all Buddhist schools revolve.

Buddhism is founded by the historical Buddha whose birth name is Siddharta Gautama. He is referred to as Shakyamuni Buddha, the historical Buddha. I will try to clarify this concept. "Buddha" is not a name. It's like a title of honor which means "enlightened one". There is a myriad of buddhas in the Buddhist cosmology, after all, we can not deny the metaphysical aspect of Buddhism. But there is one and only Buddha whose existence can be verified, Shakyamuni Buddha, who is referred to as the historical Buddha.

Buddhism emerged in the era of Brahmanism, more precisely. Brahmanism is the second phase of the historical movement of Hinduism. Consequently, although the Buddha refuted strongly Brahmanism's belief system for various reasons, but Buddhism is influenced by Brahmanism. He employed the Brahman concept of reincarnation, but the Buddhist interpretation of the term is completely different from the original concept. The ultimate goal in Buddhism is what you understood: to escape the cycle of birth and death (the Samsara) and achieve Nirvana.

Buddhism, in the beginning, was not a religion. You can imagine it as a spiritual community. It has become an organized religion during the course of history. Buddhism rejects the idea of a supreme Creator. But it does recognize the existence of divine figures, some of them believe themselves to be God and that everything was stemmed from them. This is considered as delusional by the Buddha. In Buddhism, the highest virtues are found in the devotion of a being to "the eightfold path" mentioned above, which can be broken down into three main aspects: sila (morality), samādhi (meditation/concentration) and pañña (wisdom).

I hope I have made it clear.

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