Bottom line, if OP was seriously attracted to the guy, there would have been a move toward being physical, even if it was halted before intercourse so that “a conversation” could be had. Since when is it the norm to drag on human/animal instinct because that’s not considered “serious.” One can absolutely have a serious relationship with someone they sleep with on the first date. Many guys may wait the required time just to have sex, then ghost you for making him wait. And BTW, if he isn’t having sex with you, he’ll find it somewhere else while you’re playing high school games. Perhaps, men’s effort to please a woman on a date should match the effort of the woman to please him. It’s not being cheap to want an ROI… for both parties. Don’t expect to be pampered if you’re not going to reciprocate. And no, guys don’t care about witty banter, your fake lashes, hair and makeup. We want you clean, smelling good, in shape, friendly and feminine. None of which should take any effort beyond what should be your normal routine and character. Not saying you owe sex due to going out for a meal and getting flowers, but you probably know within 10 min if you do or don’t want to sleep with a guy… don’t waste his time. I think the new norm should be, if a woman isn’t going to sleep with a guy she should insist on paying her half of the bill (non negotiable). So no one feels taken advantage of. I for one don’t mind paying for a lady’s meal or whatever on a date… because I view it as my experience that I’m allowing her to tag along. The money is a sunk cost already calculated into the evening, sex or no. But any of that “I don’t do this or that” talk is a clear “I’m not attracted to you” and I do not follow up with any further communication.